why do men have to be so grumpy, it seems that the more you do for them the more they expect.. are the words thank you and do you need any help not in their vocabulary.???
2006-09-05 01:37:14 · 41 answers · asked by gimma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you talked to him about this? Is he having problems at work? try and get to the root of the problem; failing that - tell him to get his act together.
2006-09-05 01:38:45 · answer #1 · answered by Felidae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many of the answers given here are recipes for more conflict. Before you go down the "get your act together" route -
Try simply asking him nicely when you want him to do something for you - he might not know
Try asking him if what you are doing is all right for him (and be willing to hear the answer)
Try thanking him for the things that he does that you might be taking for granted (like if he is the bread-winner)
I know that might bring up your resentment, but you could find that you will get what you give (if you allow some time for your example to take root). Show him the way rather than telling him.
If this is new behaviour then you might need to ask what problems he is having (e.g. work)
Also, if you have been getting resentful and withholding affection or sex this will cause the shut-down that you are describing.
Men (generality) are less inclined to give to you verbally and more likely to do so by action. Notice what he does do (such as DIY or car maintenance etc.)
And if, at the end of the day he is just a slob then none of the above applies.
2006-09-05 01:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by jon2901 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I'm sorry to say this but if you read what you have typed on here your answer is staring you right in the face ?????
STOP DOING IT THEN GO ON STRIKE see how long he can go on without clean socks,boxers,clothes,tea etc just see how long it takes for him to say something do your meals,tea etc and the kids stuff if you have any leave his till he starts to help around the house,I'm lucky i don't ever have this problem my husband does just as much as me so do my boys aged just 8 and 13 so if they can do it so can your husband no excuses we do not live in the dark ages where women did everything today is 50/50 it's called give and take and it sounds to me that he's taken and your giving STOP IT NOW good luck put your foot down or put it where the sun don't shine {up his a**e}
2006-09-06 11:23:42 · answer #3 · answered by .â?¢Â°*â?¥.Shall.â?¥*°â?¢. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatley those words are not in thier vocabulary! and yes the more you do for them the more they expect. It does hurt to not be appreciated,,,but guess what honey??WE ARE THE STRONGER OUT OF THE TWO!!! men can be VERY selfish,,thats just thier nature. keep doing the great job you are doing.
2006-09-05 01:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are made that way....My advice is try the opposite... Do less... Then drop the words thank-you from your vocabulary too.. Tell him things like dinner is still in the supermarket and if he wants it he will have to go buy and cook it himself...
2006-09-07 14:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by bty53404242 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well firstly how long have you had this grumpy old man?
If he is aged between 35 - 55 hes def turned into a G.O.M
and when he starts his wittering and a moanin just get that heavy
metal CD out and play it loud ...I said LOUD....VERY VERY Loud
until his mood pass
or....
Just become a uber selfish ***** who spends her days doing what SHE wants WHEN she wants ... its worked for me all these years!!
2006-09-05 01:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by random 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and even when they do say sorry, they always carry on justifying why they did whatever it was to begin with. Read "Men are from Mars...." it actually does a really good job explaining how men and women's brain are wired differently and how to get through to them.
2006-09-05 01:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by Joyous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahahahaha!! Well I aint married - but I think that grumpy men are just part n parcel of the whole men package!!!
Give him a tast of his own medicine - or secretly record him when hes having a grumpfit and play it back tohim - hopefully it will embarass him enough to cop himself on!!!
2006-09-05 01:40:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
periodically, men have to go into "cave mode" when they need to be left alone to work out something that is on their minds. an hour or two is plenty for that.
if you need help, for goodness sakes, ASK for it. why do you women always expect us to volunteer? we know better than to invade your way of doing things. speak up, your lips ain't broke
a hint to the smart woman .. always ask a man if he WILL do something ... when you ask if we CAN do something, the subliminal message is a questioning of our capability to perform a task. WILL you lift the car? (we may try just to please you) CAN you lift the car? "Hell NO!" think about it ..all men want to come to your rescue, none of us want to justify our ability to perform.
2006-09-05 01:48:34 · answer #9 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not tar all men with the same brush as your husband! I do quite a lot for my gf and she seems to be the one doing the moaning and complaining.
2006-09-05 01:40:18 · answer #10 · answered by dnlrawson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋