Marriage & Divorce - 19 July 2006

first thing is to say thank you to all of you that reply to my post,
but i saw that most of you said that i have very lowself esteem and i need to get help for this.
how can i get a self help on this and how do i get others to help me to for free.i am a low income and cann't afford to pay someone to help me with this,is there anyone that can help me get through this some how.
i thank you all again over and over and hope to get the right help soon.i don't like feeling this way,i feel i need him to make it and i should know better then that but then you don't have it to live and thats all you have,i'm getting deeper in that low spot,can someone please help me.
i'm 45 and need to be lifted up and find some kind of good in my self and hope for me.
i'm afraied of being alone and don't know if i can do it,if we breakup for good.
someone talk to me.

2006-07-19 08:32:39 · 21 answers · asked by DENISE 6

Is it the same as everyone else? Is the marriage even valid?

2006-07-19 08:32:33 · 14 answers · asked by ? 2

my relationship of 11 years has just ended,he was in jail 4 years,i help him threw it all i was faithful the whole time he's been out for 6 months now ,and he just picked up his things and it's allover......really i feel like killing him....buy the way we have 2 kids...

2006-07-19 08:31:35 · 8 answers · asked by bandolera 1

how to improve them...I'm loosing confidene, help

2006-07-19 08:21:42 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-07-19 08:17:31 · 11 answers · asked by ciccarelli2004 1

This guy is an idoit when it comes to technology so I am sure that he wouldn't be able to find me. I am afraid that if I stay in the same town that he will either put me in the hospital or kill me. I feel like it would be a good idea to just start over some place else. Is that a good idea?

2006-07-19 08:15:23 · 25 answers · asked by ? 2

2006-07-19 08:12:49 · 47 answers · asked by sleepy j 1

they are 8 and 11 and my wife is leaving after 14 years for another man

2006-07-19 08:11:36 · 9 answers · asked by ciuajj 1

Has anyone tried eHarmony marriage program?

Did you feel there was value in it? Would you recommend it to a couple motivated to work together, but needing help communicating and relating to each other?

2006-07-19 08:07:02 · 3 answers · asked by justwebbrowsing 3

i think he's cheating on me and if i get his password i can know for sure and not make the biggest mistake of my life we are to be married in a week and i really need to know

2006-07-19 08:06:51 · 29 answers · asked by Super N.E.R.D 1

Have you cheated and woudl you again? Would you cheat given the chance with the right guy?

2006-07-19 08:01:57 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

My partner & I have been living together in South Africa for the last 18 months. We have been a couple for the last 4 years but more than half of that time we have been in different countries. Now he is going to study in the USA for one year on an F1 visa and since we are not married, I am ineligible for an F2 dependent visa and therefore I am unable to join him. He says that he does not want to marry to keep the US bureaucrats happy. We had not seriously discussed marriage before this time. Now it seems that I will have to return to my country of birth although I do have a valid visitors' visa which will allow me to visit him during his studies. He wants us to stay as a couple & get back together after 12 months but I refuse to. Should I continue with him even though it seems clear to me that he has no intention of formalising our relationship? Should I trust a person who is obviously willing for us to be separated rather than be married & together? Does he really love me?

2006-07-19 08:01:25 · 18 answers · asked by Isi 1

You have children together and he wants to stay together for them, he has beaten you and you are just expecting that if you go back to him he will hit you again. You have NO interest in staying together but he wont stop calling you trying to make up for the wrong. What do you do?

2006-07-19 08:00:50 · 32 answers · asked by ? 2

WHY DO ALL FAT WOMEN MARRY GUYS THAT LIKE TO BEAT UP ON THEM????

2006-07-19 07:59:29 · 13 answers · asked by MR. RETARDO IV 2

2006-07-19 07:58:25 · 2 answers · asked by SR in TX 1

What is it with us? We look into things too deeply and it drives me nuts. Why can't we be simple like men.

2006-07-19 07:56:19 · 7 answers · asked by eyematch 2

He just packed up and left. It is awful, I am staying in my parents basement and need to get out of this struggle!

2006-07-19 07:53:54 · 35 answers · asked by Bean 2

Being married for almost a month my husband was upset with me and as we both argued over something very minor; he spits on my face. The following month, he did it again but this time he had me pinned down on the floor and that was his last time. The arguements excalated to be more physical as in his bullying tactics and twisting my arms and on the 11th month of marriage he tried to suffocate me. I did fight back until that last night but I guess what Im asking is do they ever change? No argument was over something major as in cheating or anything like that. The arguements usually consist of me spending time with my kids ages 21, 20, and 15) all gone but one at home. I am now in the process of a divorce - suffocating me made me run this time. I guess I just wonder why men do this and if they change? But, my biggest question is what did he mean by spitting on my face. What could I had expected if I had stayed with him longer?

2006-07-19 07:50:34 · 26 answers · asked by Trophy 1

before the divorce in 2000 my lil sis died,couple months after that my mom left for 3 yrs in 2003 she pop up and told my dad theyre having a divorce 3yrs later i didnt want to do work or care about me i just felt like sleeping and go to a dark room friends tell me i will be ok so now everday i clean and when i go to bed i cant sleep am i lazy or don't care about me i dont know i think my parents really cared they would of went to counsling and talk theyre problems out instead of fighting and yelling and my mom now is poor my dad is better than my mom i love them both is life putting to the test on me it feels like it!!

2006-07-19 07:48:45 · 5 answers · asked by jess_n_92 2

Some quick bullet points on this relationship
* He's never been married; mid 50's
* She's divorced 12 years; mid 40's; one child
* Both have said the I Love You's to each other
* Marriage brought up once, but he couldn't comment or commit
* Marriage brought up again, talking, but not moving anywhere
* She interested more in physical relationship
* He interested a bit, but says he doesn't have the umph he use to

2006-07-19 07:45:24 · 3 answers · asked by 'Barn 6

2006-07-19 07:43:40 · 22 answers · asked by sleepy j 1

I have a 8 year old step child who is just mean and rude, the manners thing is coming slowly, but we have no idea how to teach this child compassion. If he doesn't get his way he is just completely mean with his words, we send him to his room or take away stuff ( I should mention hurting peoples feelings being mean with his words, pokes at his brothers wounds or sores hits his brother or other children if he feels they deserved it) but after time in his room we to talk to him about it and we explain why he was sent to his room again, why its wrong to be mean or hurt someone and how important it is to deal with being upset by not hitting (we don't hit our children) he still thinks he has that right know matter what we say. and I should mention this, if he does get into trouble he will cry he actually crys alot. We can't figure this out. We could really use any advice anyone has. At this point we are seeking a therapist for him.

2006-07-19 07:42:02 · 13 answers · asked by maxine553 2

2006-07-19 07:40:53 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

did he say sorry? did you leave him, what happened after that?

2006-07-19 07:36:49 · 8 answers · asked by obsession0524 2

My husband has always had a lot of female friends and I had hoped that when we got married last year, he would talk to them a little less. But he still wants to call them and email them all the time. I know there is nothing romantic with these friends and I know he would never cheat on me, but it still doesn't seem right! And when I try to talk to him about it, he just thinks I am a jealous and controlling wife. Help!!!

2006-07-19 07:35:40 · 21 answers · asked by kitty 1

I am going to court to pay child support based on what i can make not what i am making. I have not seen my child for over a year because of an order of protection that the mother put on me. I wont a divorce and she is giving me a hard time in signing the papers. (she doesn't want one) yet she tells everyone that i hit her. (but i didn't) I just got a new job and i am afraid that i will lose it because i have to keep taking of work to go back in forth to court. what can i do to get this matter settle. remember i just starting working again and not at the pay that i am accustom to. (much less) so i am trying to get a lawyer (hopefully free legal aide) to help me. any suggestions.

2006-07-19 07:31:12 · 15 answers · asked by Michael M 1

If I say to my husband, "Lets have sex!", he gets upset. He says that I should say, "Let's make love" and that I just don't get it! Well... I personally have my own views about defining one against the other... but I'm curious to read what everyone else has to say!

2006-07-19 07:31:05 · 8 answers · asked by Jinx 2

2006-07-19 07:28:53 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

The perfect woman, always smiles, has all the answers, cooks, cleans, da bomb in bed or anywhere for that matter. and looks HOT

2006-07-19 07:19:38 · 12 answers · asked by dyno_bot 2

Im married and have a very nice relationship with my husband. However, yesterday we had an argument.Then he came home from work and was preparing for gym and could not find his gym pants so he started fretting and so began throwing his and my clothes all over the room looking for his pants. I told him that he will have to fix them back and that he should stop but he still continued. He didnt fix it and this morning when i woke up I fixed it myself. Now he is trying to talk to me like nothing happened. He is saying that he akready forgot about what happened and is willing to move on but I seems as though I want to quarrel. Isnt he suppose to appologise for the trash he did????? Also I made break fast for him and he didnt eat. I am expecting too much fromhim or what???You u guys think i should just drop the wholdthing and just act as though things are normal??

2006-07-19 07:13:39 · 26 answers · asked by viddy 2