before the divorce in 2000 my lil sis died,couple months after that my mom left for 3 yrs in 2003 she pop up and told my dad theyre having a divorce 3yrs later i didnt want to do work or care about me i just felt like sleeping and go to a dark room friends tell me i will be ok so now everday i clean and when i go to bed i cant sleep am i lazy or don't care about me i dont know i think my parents really cared they would of went to counsling and talk theyre problems out instead of fighting and yelling and my mom now is poor my dad is better than my mom i love them both is life putting to the test on me it feels like it!!
2006-07-19 07:48:45 · 5 answers · asked by jess_n_92 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What's important is for you to realize that none of what your parents do is your fault.
I was divorced and my grown daughter now tells me how horrible it was for her, but what she didn't know was all the turmoil going on behind closed doors.
Sometimes it is better to divorce so the kids won't have to deal with the fighting and anger, but if you're having a hard time, you might ask your mom and dad to let you go to counseling.
Having someone to talk to about what's going on in your house might make you feel better. Insurance often takes care of the cost. Or you might be able to find a free program through your school counselor.
2006-07-19 07:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by C R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE ask your mom or your dad if they will take you to a doctor or therapist to talk to. YOu have a LOT to handle for just a kid, way too much for one person. You have suffered the loss of your sister, the break up of your parents marriage and are caught in the middle of their divorce. They could probably use some serious therapy, too... but right now, just focus on yourself! A professional can help you talk through all these emotions and let you understand that what your parents are going through has NOTHING to do with you...
PLEASE ask them if they will take YOU to counseling!! You need a stable adult you can talk to about your feelings!
2006-07-19 08:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There had to be a reason for them splitting up. It sounds like you are very sad about them not being together. I don't think you are lazy but just not over the divorce. Try to find something you enjoy doing and do it. Get up and get back to life. Enjoy the life that you have, make it better.
2006-07-19 12:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this was for the best and for the worse. for the cest because there could have been problems that you did not know of and for the worse because you feel that this is all your fault. just rember that is not your fault. find a friend that you are really close to and talk to her/him. just rember that is not your fault. with the death of your sister it hard to deal with some people just don't know how to handle it this could be part of the reason they got a divorce. speaking from experince. if anything talk to your mom and dad and ask them why they divorce or going to get one. if need to talk to a doctor who can help you with depression because that is what may or maynot have dealing with everything that has happened in the last six years. best of luck
2006-07-19 07:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by chelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone involved should seriously consider a family rate for family therapy. Your going to need it.
2006-07-19 08:29:29 · answer #5 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋