my relationship of 11 years has just ended,he was in jail 4 years,i help him threw it all i was faithful the whole time he's been out for 6 months now ,and he just picked up his things and it's allover......really i feel like killing him....buy the way we have 2 kids...
2006-07-19 08:31:35 · 8 answers · asked by bandolera 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i know this is gonna sound corny, but you are better off without him. find a way to channel your anger, a new hobby, or a new friend (wink,wink), and move on with your life. he will get what is coming to him. god (or whatever you may call him) will give him what he deserves. you just have to be able to resist the urge to retaliate. if,,,,and i do mean if he ever gets a job, you make sure you get your child support. in some states you can file even before he is employed. check that out. anyway.. count your blessing that a loser left your life before you had to experience all the crap that would eventually make you want to throw him out.
i know you probably cant see the silver lining now, but just be glad that the cloud has left your life.
good luck in your new and improved life.
2006-07-19 08:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by msrastarules 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He had a hard time in jail/prison, no matter what his crime was. It has a way of changing people, unfortunately for many, for the worst.
You have to think about what he is going through. Is he wanted for another crime? Was he around the wrong people and had to leave before temptation got the better of him? This seems to depend completely on him and how he is dealing with his transition back into the free world.
It does not appear to have anything directly to do with you. You just have to pick up the pieces for yourself and your kids, and make sure he remains responsible to them, at least.
If <--Big IF here-- he has not been abusive to you (emotionally or physically), and you love him truly, then be kind to him because this may be a very difficult time for him, also.
2006-07-19 16:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jolie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you don't realize it yet but this will be the best thing thats ever happened to you. U stood by him for 4 years and he has took the p*%s! but remember this you not only stood by him for four years but you also got through the 4 years without him!! So you can do it alone, and just think, this time you wont have to be faithful to him and write those god awful, very boring letters every week and visit the sap all the time. Now its your turn girl so get out there!!
2006-07-19 15:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its sad to think that after all you did to help him through it all that he left you. However, accept the fact that its over and try to move on. You really don't feel like killing him...you feel more mad at yourself for 'waiting' for him....you feel foolish. And, honestly, you shouldn't feel foolish...you just trusted him. But think about it, he was in jail for 4 years and you 'trusted' him. I don't know why he was in jail, but whatever the reason, just accept what has happened and move forward. Explain to the kids and help them through it...together the 3 of you will be fine. Once he has left, keep it that way. Don't set yourself up for a life of a revolving door...once he's gone...he's gone. He can't keep coming back and forth when times get tough or when he needs money. Move forward for your own sake and peace of mind.
2006-07-19 15:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by irishME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, that's really rough. You've already wasted enough time on this loser. Just put your mind past him and try to move your heart along as best as you can. If you were to kill him then you'd end up wasting the rest of your life on this jerk as well. Haven't you already lost enough. Look to your kids and be strong. You can't let them down by being rash. If I were you I'd take the kids and go on a long vacation and maybe not ever come back.
2006-07-19 15:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on your children, have strength for them. Get out with groups your own age, maybe find a support group--talk with others who have had this happen to them. Think about your life, and start living it for you.
2006-07-19 15:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by theoldguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you stay with him? Why? I don't understand. Jail should be a sign that it is time for you to move on.
2006-07-19 15:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't stress this enough: THINK OF YOURSELF AND YOUR KIDS!!!! Be grateful that he is out of your life because no one needs a criminal in their life.
2006-07-19 15:39:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋