This guy is an idoit when it comes to technology so I am sure that he wouldn't be able to find me. I am afraid that if I stay in the same town that he will either put me in the hospital or kill me. I feel like it would be a good idea to just start over some place else. Is that a good idea?
2006-07-19 08:15:23 · 25 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hit the road Jack! and don't you come back for more! He is just not abusing you he is abusing you kids mentally and emotionally. Broses heal! Mental and emotional abuse stay with you forever. GET OUT NOW!!!
2006-07-19 08:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by h0w U liK3 m3 n0w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not neccessarily a good idea. there are safer ways. First of all, get out if you are not already out. Go to a pay phone and call a battered women's shelter or hotline. They will send a police unit to you where you are at that moment and have you taken to the shelter which is ALWAYS secret. It could be any house you see anywehere and not obvious as a shelter. There you will be safe from him and he will never know where you went. From there you can file for divorce and a restraining order and anything else you need to do. You will be expected to file abuse charges or they will do it for you. Either way, the object is to get out and make sure he can not find you. Once you do that, you can then make arrangements to relocate. They will help you. Also, you will not be allowed to give out the number or location to where you are. No incoming calls, etc. No contact with the outside world until you are ready to relocate. They do allow some things BUT ONLY if there is no risk to their location being discovered and no danger to you. The other way is to call the police and they will come get you and call ahead to the shelter they are taking you to and let them know you are coming. That is faster. Do it and do it TODAY!!!!!!!!! GET OUT NOW BEFORE HE DOES KILL YOU!!!! You can do everything you need to do from the shelter once you are there and safe. he will NEVER figure out where you are. You can even have the cops take you to one in another town to make it harder to find you. Shelter information and location is TOP secret to the outside world and will not be on AMY documents of any kind for him to obtain. You will be 100% safe. Do it! I did and it was the best thing I ever did! Lots of luck to you and my heart goes out to you! PLEASE<<<<<<
2006-07-19 08:34:52
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Follow your Heart, Sister Girl, If you can start over it is best in another state, I did, Just keep someone who cares for you aware of what you are planning. Someone you can Trust that he does not know about of that someone who doesn't care for him. BE SAFE, But it is time you start taking care of you, I wish you lived in the same state as I, I would HELP YOU. When he is not around LEAVE AND DO NOT LOOK BACK, DO NOT CALL HIM, JUST LEAVE START OVER. IT IS NOW YOU MUST RUN FOR YOUR LIFE, OR you may never be able to HELP/Answer someones questions like yours. TAKE CARE, STAY FOCUS. HE MUST NOT KNOW OF YOUR WARE ABOUTS. Once you get somewhere safe then and only then take next step FILE CUSTODY/DIVORCE. THE END
2006-07-19 08:55:18 · answer #3 · answered by sweettoni37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres an idea, next time he tries to hit you, call the cops so that way there will be some sort of abuse case on him. you dont go into hiding unless there is records showing he is abusive , so that way you ahve a reason for leaving and people will believe you,make sure there are people who know he is abusive and that you are thinking of leaving, so others will know why you left. it is going ot be hard. he may not be smart but he is smart enough to keep you from calling the cops and geting himself in trouble.i think you should talk to someone about this and get help for those kids and yourself. you cant have the kids living like this, its not healthy for them or you.i wish you luck .
2006-07-19 08:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"When a man shows you who he truly is, even once, believe him."
Check with a local attorney regarding the child custody issues. You don't want him to be able to charge you with kidnapping or interference with parental custody (typically that is not an issue without him having a court order for custody). You will probably be advised to start custody/divorce proceedings. But, all in all, yes, it's a good idea to leave without notice and sort out the legal end once you're safe.
2006-07-19 08:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its a good idea. The best thing you can do is trust your intuition, if you have a gut feeling about something, go for it. Just get the kids, pack your things and leave without saying anything, and get a good lawyer, restraining order, and go from there.
2006-07-19 08:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by obsession0524 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are that afraid of him, then yes, I say disappear. Otherwise move in with family and file a restraining order with police. Do you call police, because in FL the second call for domestic abuse is mandatory jail time.
2006-07-19 08:20:20 · answer #7 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that would be extremely wise to get away from that person as soon as possible. I am a man myself and I think that any man who puts his hands on a woman like that is a coward and should be sent to jail for a long time. Get your kids and get to safety somewhere else.
2006-07-19 08:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a wonderful idea. If you have a place to go with your kids, get going. No one deserves a life as you describe it. Good luck.
2006-07-19 12:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run like the wind! Get the hell out! Don't look back!
You and your children are top priority! Don't worry about him, he's sure to find someone else to abuse (even if its himself). You'll be much better without him.
Good luck.
2006-07-19 08:20:47 · answer #10 · answered by Lanie Janie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋