Family - December 2007

Merry Christmas to all!

2007-12-22 06:02:42 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

When I was a kid, our house was ALWAYS so clean and nice.Now that Ia m grown I can never keep it clean at all. Its really bad. clothes on the floor, dusty, etc...I have one child and I spend time with her. hubby is out working and or school.My daughter and I go to school too(3x a week). Friday started xmas vacation.I am also a stay at home mom.how can I keep it clean????

2007-12-22 06:00:36 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

We let out brother in law move in so we could help him out , the day he moved in he quit his job and started letting his girlfriend stay the night everynight , he hasnt paid us a dime in rent and doesnt clean up after himself , I have a baby on the way and my husband works 18 hours a day . To make the situation worse he spends all his money on beer and leave beer cans everywhere , he parties everynight and keeps us up and he invites people we dont know over to our house , he has a daughter who lives with his parents and he hasnt seen her once since he moved in with us , he gets food stamps every month but eats all our food and when we run out he doesnt buy new groceries instead he goes out and buys steak dinners and eats with his girlfriend right in front of us . We asked his parents what we should do and they basically told us it was our problem and that he wasnt moving back in with them , We want to kick him out but he has no where to go . What the heck should I do ?

2007-12-22 05:39:12 · 8 answers · asked by applesauce 1

My family has gone insane. They started having fights against each other. There are two sides: my grandfather's and grandmother's. They always try to drag their grandchildren into their battles. I try to get everyone to talk it out. However, they all speak a native tongue that I don't understand. HELP!!!

2007-12-22 05:20:40 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

...and I am a 33-year-old male. Sometimes its petty, sometimes its serious, but a lot of it is based on years of built up resentment. She in 52 and still acts like a child. we argue sometimes, literally for hours.
But my question isnt about what to do in these fights. I mentioned to my gf that I wont have any peace until she's dead (explaining I mean natural causes!). I mean, I am pretty close to her when we dont fight, and I dont wish anything bad to happen to her, but the more I think about it,. the more true it is. I will have no peace until my mom is in the cemetery. My gf looked at me like I said something evil. What do you think?

2007-12-22 04:07:34 · 13 answers · asked by primalclaws1974 6

i worry about everything how about you?


~^..^~

2007-12-22 04:04:34 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I will be giving gifts to the rest of the guests. The family in question includes mother, father and young teenage boy.

2007-12-22 04:02:51 · 6 answers · asked by bowt52 1

well,2 start with,i toatlly have no respect 4 my dad coz the thing he did 2 me.i dont wanna tell what he did 2 me bt it was terrible.that was ages ago bt i cant seem 2 wipe away da memories.our relationship has been really rocky 4 ages.its only gotten worse n we fight like 5 times a day.now hes suggested that i move 2 my grandmas place.im 16 by da way.hes this gr8 guy outside with all da neighbours n frnds n my teachers bt hes a completely different charachter with the family.everybody[outsiders] tell me what a gr8 guy he is.
now even when he tells me something 4 my own benifit,i dont feel like listening 2 him.i admire him bt i dont really like him.
sometimes hes nice n selfless bt thats rare.am i misunderstanding him n causing 2 him behave in a bad way?
bt he even reminds me that hes paying me 4 my education n stuff n that is really sickening..
or am i just a really ungrateful compalining daughter?sometimes i fell i really hate him.
desperately need serious answers.pls help

2007-12-22 03:56:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi we currently live in a 4 bedroom house and I am 5 1/2 months pregnant with triplets and we have three kids Tyson ,6 Hayden and Ella, 4 & 2 1/2 + a neice and nephew whom we are adopting Kaya, 4 and Nic, 2. How should I divide the rooms up? We are thinking about adding on a nursery and another bedroom.

2007-12-22 03:54:26 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 16 and my brothers 18 and were the only two plonkers who didn't turn up on the guest list. She said she didn't want us to go because she wasn't invited (it was my cousins 24th b-day party and only the kids were invited). She said no to us both and then she expected us to sit at home for the whole evening and be nice to her. This is totally unreasonable. Today we had a row about it (I know its stupid because its only a party) and she said I was becoming slutty because I wanted to go to a party. WTF?

2007-12-22 03:52:43 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just can't control my temper. I hit my younger brother who has Down's Syndrome when he doesn't listen to me. I have kicked his legs, slapped his face, punched his arms, and shouted at him. He just cries, but still won't listen. I always feel awful after doing these things to him, and I make up for it by buying him things or food that he likes. The thing that makes me so guilty is that he doesn't hit me back and he doesn't get mad. I don't want to hurt him again, but I just have a very bad temper. :(

2007-12-22 03:49:20 · 10 answers · asked by noanswer 3

heres the thing my parents are christians and they think im under the age so they dont send me out (parties/over friends houses) its so sad and angry that i see all my friend, even worse EVERYONE!!! going out to parties and i have to stay home, theres nothing i can do but wait Util im 18 but i need a way to feel better about this what can make me feel bEtter i tried talking to them but that wont work, omg i am going to be at home on new years eve :'(

2007-12-22 03:38:56 · 7 answers · asked by garrisongurl_16 1

My daughter is 12 and in 7th grade. On Christmas I plan to take her with me to my sister's house to celebrate Christmas. My daughter doesn't want to go. I asked her why a week ago and she said that she doesn't want to tell. I promise her that if she tells me I will help her and understand her. She told me that it is because I don't allow her to bring friends home afterschool when I am not home and she really wants to spend time with her friends afterschool. I made a rule since day 1 that I don't allow any friends in my home when I am not home even if I know them very well. She said that only if I allow her to bring friends home, she will go to her cousins house. I told her that I will not allow it and I want her to come with me on Christmas. She said that I lied and I promise her that I will understand her and I didn't. She said that she can't trust me anymore and now she is a complete loner with no one to trust. I don't want to get upset but I don't what to do. Any suggestions??

2007-12-22 03:37:10 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

Sharing a house with a couple and two little kids. Lovely children but they can be lippy at times. One of them tends to spit in my direction as well.
Tell her "don't do that" and she laughs in my face.
Wishing to follow the parent's cue, I asked dad how he deals with her rudeness. " I just love them" he said. No help there. Does anyone know of any books?
The problem is not disciplining kids. I'd know what to do with my own.
It's OTHER people's kids with all the authority/boundaries and mixed -message-to -the-child-problems that could raise.

2007-12-22 03:37:05 · 8 answers · asked by persistent 1

Im 18 i want to move out and live on my own my situation at home isnt good.. im really not happy...i cry all the time. But i cant afford it with my job can the state help me.

2007-12-22 03:31:23 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Mine's a school caning

2007-12-22 03:21:56 · 19 answers · asked by Billy Hughes 1

I can't talk to anyone because my mom will find out an dif she does then I will be shuned in this family. Anytime I have a problem she thinks I jsut want pitty and It really hurts. She is so crule and it seems like she just wants to hate me and think im lieing but really I have never lied to her and I never will. I feel so withdrawn from my family. All I do is sit in my room and do my school work. My academic career is amaizing so far but nothing seems to be enouph for her to trust me. When I do meet other families and other poeple they love me and see great things in me but my mom says that is jsut becasue they don't know me. How can that be true, I know I can be loved for who I am. I jsut want out of this family as soon as I can but there seeems to be no way out, no where to go and no one to reach out to.

I could just really use some advice please.

And don't tell me to talk to a councelor or call a hotline cuz I can't hide things like that from my mom.

2007-12-22 02:59:17 · 10 answers · asked by Sammie 2

how can i make it stop?!

when i say selfish i mean really selfish! and now her dad has moved back in and her brother comes down sometimes and their all the same!!

i can't deal with this!! HELP?!

I'm going to shout soon!

2007-12-22 02:41:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom n I had probs since I was 8 and her first son went to college. Now im 19 n the household is worse. She argues wit my dad about cheatin n he aint but she is and we got picture proof. she kicked all her kids out da house and dont care bout her grandkids. steals and breaks everyone property of family members. left her brother homeless. she kicked me out May 29th. I miss home. I want my dad and my brothers. its the holidays and i cant do it. i cry myself to sleep. my dad is the only one paying the bills but she wont let me back in da house. it hurts me so much. i miss the old christmases i use to have. when i went home once she called the cops on me. i dont know what to do. can someone give me advice...

2007-12-22 02:10:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

He stuck it in on a dare and we don't want out parents finding out.

2007-12-22 02:00:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok heres the thing, I just turned 21 about 2 months ago (which tells you I'm a young guy), only have had a years worth of college done (no degree yet..), and living @ home w/ parents. (sounds loserish), my girlfriend is also young (19), and we dont have bad credit but we have NO CREDIT, both live at home, and she cant work, baby due in about 6 months, I found a job (only making 35,000peryear), and I'm trying to find out what are some of the things that i should do other than just save my money...we want to try to move out in the next 5 months.....other than penny pinching, what should i do (it is my responsibility to make sure i take care of her and the baby..not anyone else)...what programs...be it government..or even types of bank accounts i should set up for future things....im clueless!! HELP!!!!!!!

2007-12-21 19:07:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

i hate my dads girlfriend and so does my sister and she has made herself quite comfortable in my dads house. the way i see it if it wasn't for her my mum and dad might still be together. why do i hate her? she's dollar signs in her eyes and believe me she has it extremely easy at my dads house. im not trying to sound arrogant or up-myself her but my dad has money and i believe that is why she has been sticking around for 13 years. my dad has bought her a new $45,000 car (AUS currency), bought two investment properties with her as part owner without her adding a cent. yeah she works but only for something to do, not to pay bills or her own car but to stick all her money under the bed and wait for my dad to, i can't put this in nice way but, die (i really really love my dad and i don't want anything to happen, im not a spoilt rotten kid and want all his money, i love him more than anyone.) and then have everything which her name is in. my dads in debt but she doesn't have to worry

2007-12-21 18:49:25 · 6 answers · asked by steven n 2

I need to find my father...i have never ever seen him...he should be..on his sixties i guess....the problem is i have no idea of a good website....Free...cause they usually...charge you for that....by the way his name is Roberto Serrano...mother's name Mona Lisa...father is Frank....has 2 sister's named Nancy and Yvonne...brother 's name is Frank....he used to live at 37 west and tremont ave.. Bronx..N.Y and that was almost 46 years ago ...am 45...i 'd appreciate any help....th u

2007-12-21 18:03:37 · 5 answers · asked by sunflower_11132000 1

how much does it coast to feed a Family of 7 for dinner only. and the weekends. Kids are 15,13,12,10,17,15

2007-12-21 17:56:14 · 4 answers · asked by Jhoanne 2

my little sister is a year younger than me. today she locked herself in my moms room with the phone and threw a tantrom about how i was the worst sister ever and that she hated me. I love her so much, and it kills me that she thinks that about me. she always keeps her feelings bottled up inside and then complains that nobody would care about her. but the truth was she just wouldnt tell us what was going on. can somebody please help me to make her stop being such a brat? PLEASE?!

2007-12-21 17:06:17 · 13 answers · asked by Tippy 1

several hundred miles away to give to someone else. He called me and asked me if it was "OK" to give it away. Then he said I was "over-reacting" when I got upset about it, telling him he should never have taken it. He is living in my house rent free. He talks me down when I try to reason with him. What do you suggest?

2007-12-21 15:20:31 · 31 answers · asked by Ruby 2

Okay, so I love music. Like really, I love it. I can practice my trumpet for upwards of 5 hours, WITH school work and the like. Nobody tells me when to practice or forces me to play.

That being said, my parents are very supportive of everything I do, from skateboarding to music. However, as I asked them (very casually , of course) if I could think about going to one, I was shot down on the spot.

I did not think this was right at all. I didn't even have a chance to explain anything about it! Needless to say, I was a bit mad, though I really composed myself well.

Thing is, now I'm stuck. I know that I will be a musician when I grow up, and I know that I really want to do this. My dad is a psychology professor; he can see through all of flowery stuff that I could attempt. to win him over. All I really need to do is find away to get my point across. Please help?

2007-12-21 15:11:50 · 3 answers · asked by Love me, I am the COOKIE MONSTER 3

My mother abused my brother and myself.. she would starve us and "rent" us out to her friends. I want to know how to let this go and move on with my life. I cant leave the past behind and live in the present. please help me.

2007-12-21 15:04:06 · 16 answers · asked by justtrytobenice 3

A family member is self distructing and we don't know what to do. We have been dealing with this for years but it seems like the last few weeks have been really bad. We have tried talking to him and it doesn't work. He hangs up or tones out. He is doing very stupid and childish things like talking about removing the dishwasher so the roommates can't use it. Or he has taken the fuses out of the box to cut the power in one area of the house. These are just some of the things done..I could go on. He is in his thirties, single, renting an apartment which he shares with a couple and one other. He quit he job because he felt like he was not being paid enough (he was ...my hubby works there as well). He doesn't drive and relies on my hubby or his roommate to drive him to work. He refuses to take a bus to work. He blames every1 for his problems such as telling his roommate it's his fault that he has no money to buy gifts..he thought the roommate would quit as well. What do we do as his family

2007-12-21 15:01:10 · 6 answers · asked by queenbee 4

Okay, we've been together a yr and a half tommorow. Its not like a treat her badly or anything,..I treat her like a goddess. I get her everything I can get and give her everything i have. I love her to death and always am there for her... We havn';t had sex(15) and her dad knows that....however....he still hates me.... I think its my neighborhood but I dont live in a bad neighborhood. Just not as nice.as hers....
How do I get the dad to like me?

2007-12-21 14:59:16 · 2 answers · asked by RCPD Expl. Captain Beckner 5