Is there nothing I can do? I beg you to answer this!?

Question

I can't talk to anyone because my mom will find out an dif she does then I will be shuned in this family. Anytime I have a problem she thinks I jsut want pitty and It really hurts. She is so crule and it seems like she just wants to hate me and think im lieing but really I have never lied to her and I never will. I feel so withdrawn from my family. All I do is sit in my room and do my school work. My academic career is amaizing so far but nothing seems to be enouph for her to trust me. When I do meet other families and other poeple they love me and see great things in me but my mom says that is jsut becasue they don't know me. How can that be true, I know I can be loved for who I am. I jsut want out of this family as soon as I can but there seeems to be no way out, no where to go and no one to reach out to.

I could just really use some advice please.

And don't tell me to talk to a councelor or call a hotline cuz I can't hide things like that from my mom.

Answer 1

Sweetie. I want you to just relax and meditate, dont stress your self out. The best thing is "out of sight, out of mind" You dont have far to go. Almost there. Just lay low and keep a clear mind. Does not matter what others say as long as you know who you are. You know that they will always be negative towards you. Sometimes its best to let out your feelings and write a journal. A diary of your daily feelings. It helps to vent and you can always use it down the line to conferm things with your parents. Suggestion is that you can hand it to your mom in 2 years after proving and doing what your plans are. even just leave it laying around and let her find it and when she reads it, hopfully she will feel like an *** for the way she treated and made you feel.
Try not to worry and email me whenever you want to chat
~mario

Answer 2

Well Sammie i know how you feel although i am 24 and now a mother myself i used to have the same problem with my family, now you say it is your mom who is the problem is there a father around you can talk to and tell how your mother is making you feel sometimes when a child tells a parent the parent has already made up there mind not to listen but when things come from another parent or another adult they seem to listen and take things better, even if you don't want anyone to tell your mom it may feel better to have someone listen to you, how about a aunt does your mom have sis sometimes a aunt can really help for they might know why ur mom is this way for the fact they have known her all her life, but plz don't do anything drastic you are young and as generic as this sounds we all have issues with our parents at sum point in our life i didn't speak to my father for 2 yrs when i was young now I'm a adult we talk on the phone all the time and if nothing works stick it out and depending on what state you live in u can move out when ur 17, also maybe there is a family member you could live with instead of your mother my last two yrs of high schl i lived with my older sister b/c she understood me either why i hope this helps and you find a answer to your problem ,good luck Sammie!

Answer 3

I don't know how old you are, but if you are a young teenager, you really can't do much to change this sad situation. It breaks my heart that you have no adult family members to take your side or to tell you what a caring and good person you are, because that comes through loud and clear in your question.

If your mom is really this uncaring, she may not be able to care about anyone but herself. Some people seem to be born without the ability to love or to show love, even to their children. Maybe she is just a really depressed person and takes her anger and sadness out on you. That is not fair, but you can't change her into a nurturing parent if she doesn't have it in her to give to others.

What you can do is talk to your friends. I know you are concerned about talking to an adult and having it get back to your mom and that just making things worse for you, but don't you maybe have a friend you can confide in?

You can also tell yourself over and over that only you decide what kind of person you are. Her opinion of you or anyone else's opinion of you can not alter who you really are. You must not let her negative view of you change what you are.

I know it seems forever, but tell yourself over and over that 18 will come and that you will make sure you are ready for adulthood by continuing to do well in school, choosing a few good, caring people for friends, and planning for the rest of your life. Try not to let her get you down too much. Hang in there sweetie, you have a long life ahead of you full of great things and loving people. Focus on that as much as you can and realize you are only in charge of yourself, you can't fix other people if they don't think there is anything wrong.

Answer 4

Listen Kiddo Sounds To Me Like Your Depressed.Please Please Talk To Your Mom I Think She's Just Worried About You As Well She Should Be. She Loves You And wants To hold On to You As Long as She can. Don't Forget We Live in a Crule and dangerous world today.I Just lost a close freind Because of depression I Wish i knew I miss him Bad. Please irl. Feel Good That Your Mom Cares Some Mothers Don't Give a Dam And Now today They wish they did And Now it's to late. Thinking Of you in my prayers.

Answer 5

Your mom is emotionally abusive, so you need to just ignore her. It is possible that she is jealous of your accomplishments so far.
You should consider getting into some school clubs or other extracurricular activities or sports so you can have some more social time. Not having anyone to talk to is depressing.

When you hit 16 you can generally get a job and start banking your paychecks... you will need deposit money for an apartment and what-not.

Answer 6

Use your time to study and get a good degree that is your best way out and your future..
You have to rely in yourself in this life and remember you are the most important person do some volunteer work and get out and see how the other 1/2 lives...

Answer 7

Why would you want to hide it from your mom? If it were me, I would be trying to let her know that I had a problem. I think you should just ask her straight up why she hates you. Find another place to live with a friend or family member who cares about you.

Answer 8

just tell your mom that its not helping to put you down all the time, and just simply ask her to encourage you, not put you down. it works, you just have to try it. i know its hard to say something like that to your mom, but it might be the only thing you can do, if you dont want to talk to a counselor or call a hotline. give it a try. good luck,it will all work out.

Answer 9

This is something that your mom needs to know. I wonder if she even knows that she is doing this to you. I would suggest that you sit down and talk about your feelings, if she is mean to you after your talk, then perhaps it is possible this is abuse. Don't let another person destroy what you have been working so hard to accomplish for yourself. Be proud of yourself!

Answer 10

don't hide anything involved to her. i suggest you to take time and talk to her. say what you feel not right so far, and you may ask her "do i have any problem with you? it seems like you hate me so much" or anything you felt.
how bout your father? or the other family members who cares about you more? maybe you can talk to them and ask them to talk to your mother. don't hide anythingg, just say the truth, cz she is your mother.