how can i make it stop?!
when i say selfish i mean really selfish! and now her dad has moved back in and her brother comes down sometimes and their all the same!!
i can't deal with this!! HELP?!
I'm going to shout soon!
2007-12-22 02:41:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i have spoke to my mum a million and one times and she tells me things are going to change but they never do *groan*!
2007-12-22 02:45:22 · update #1
We need more specifics to be able to provide more meaningful suggestions, about what it is that they are doing, because there are a lot of selfish ppl in the world. Of course, it has to be rotten being forced to live with them, though, I'm sorry. The first thing I would recommend is to try putting yourself in a completely different place - physically and mentally. I hope you have your own room - if you can have a lock on it, so much the better. Don't allow yourself to get sucked into their dramas - if you can put yourself above the situation, and see how stupid they all are and how ridiculously they are acting, you can smile and laugh to yourself at what fools they are - and you're NOT a fool! Best of all - it really drives people nuts when they see you are able to smile in a situation like that, because they can't figure out what's going on. :) Best revenge of all! Just find a mental image you can keep in your head to think about and focus on, when crazy things are going on around you - don't let it get to you, or they win, and you don't want that!! Good luck, and hang in there. Don't let your manipulative little sister push your buttons - when she is trying to get you in trouble, just look at her as though she is not there - picture an insect or something like that that annoys you, but that you wouldn't react to. Or look at her, and shake your head slowly, as though you are looking at the world's biggest imbecile.
2007-12-22 02:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by eldots53 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your little sister does it because she can and she gets a reaction out of you. It works.
Here's what you do; walk away. When she walks in a room, you walk out. If you're at the dinner table, keep conversation polite but minimal. If she follows you around, leave the house. Pretend that she doesn't bother you at all. Let her be selfish. Let her be mean. Let her play the act. You do your own thing and keep doing what you're doing. Pretty soon her little game is not going to work. Why? You're not rising to the bait.
Her game only works if you get upset. If you play the patsy, then she has a ready made scapegoat for whatever goal she wants. You. The more fuss you make, the more she gets. Let it go. Even though you want to scream, rant and rave, pretend it doesn't bother you. When she says, "you did this". Smile sweetly and say, "you are right, little sister. I apologize." Pretty soon she's going to get tired of it.
In the meantime, find someone you can talk to about all of this. A teacher, a school counsellor, a friend's parent. Someone. It'll help.
2007-12-22 02:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by dstluke 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The whole thing is just a big mess. BUT with her attitude.. Immagine what kind of life the baby would have had being born to a 16year old mother the ILLEGALLY gets drunk and has sex with random men? If she isn't responsible enough to have safe sex she def isn't responsible to take care of a baby. She shouldn't have gotten pregnant in the first place and abortion is an aweful thing. I would have suggested Adoption to her. It WAS selfish because the baby could have gone to someone and lived a long happy love filled life. But what's done is done. Hopefully God won't grant her another child until she is more mature and READY.
2016-04-10 12:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl. That is just life. I'm an older sister and I got blamed for EVERYTHING. Yet here I am. I survived. Just hang in there. You'll be grown and out of the house soon enough. Just wait till you're the parent having to deal with the kids going through this. It's not all fun and games, I can tell you that.
2007-12-22 02:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by barsh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is tell her that if she can be nice and not selfish then youll paint her nails ever Saturday but shes gotta have a full week of being nice.
p.s if she doesnt like makeovers or nails and that stuff then use somthing else.
2007-12-22 09:24:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is time to sit down & have a conversation in private with your mom & dad to explain the problem
2007-12-22 02:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by cobots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from your sister. She is selfish.
2015-10-07 15:41:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you talk to your parents in private about the things going on. hope it works =]
one more thing, if she keeps bothering you, don't put attention to much on her.
2007-12-22 02:52:10 · answer #8 · answered by little red <3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my suggestion is leave it....let us see for some more time...if not shout litte bit..pls...afterall she is younger than u...rite..
2007-12-22 02:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by knowledge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋