get rid of my dads girlfriend?

Question

i hate my dads girlfriend and so does my sister and she has made herself quite comfortable in my dads house. the way i see it if it wasn't for her my mum and dad might still be together. why do i hate her? she's dollar signs in her eyes and believe me she has it extremely easy at my dads house. im not trying to sound arrogant or up-myself her but my dad has money and i believe that is why she has been sticking around for 13 years. my dad has bought her a new $45,000 car (AUS currency), bought two investment properties with her as part owner without her adding a cent. yeah she works but only for something to do, not to pay bills or her own car but to stick all her money under the bed and wait for my dad to, i can't put this in nice way but, die (i really really love my dad and i don't want anything to happen, im not a spoilt rotten kid and want all his money, i love him more than anyone.) and then have everything which her name is in. my dads in debt but she doesn't have to worry

how do i get her out, and she wont budge, why would she? i hate her and i hate feeling like this, i live with my mum and she struggles, she's a new business owner and has bills to pay and money to owe which makes me feel bad. anyway i could go on for ever but could you please see this from my point of view and don't be negative towards me. thanks in advance

Answer 1

Get her to cheat on your pops or find out if she is already. Doctor evidence if you have to. Hire a Private investigator.

If you're serious about protecting your father, take the gloves off and take care of the situation.

Answer 2

wait a minute, you wont like what i have to say, and i am sure i wont get best answer. But it wasn't her who broke them up..it was your dad. At 13 years, being there,there is something. In other words you are saying she is smart...and your dad is dumb, if he can't see she'taking him for his money/ Let me ask you, why don't you live with your mom...because she doesn't have as much money, If he's happy, let him be. You didn't mention she treats you bad, or does awful things to him, except spend (him giving) his money. Maybe you are a bit jealous, because you don't get all she does. At 13 years she should be entitled to have what ever he gives her. If he doesn't want her money, what else should she do with it. Like I said, you wont like it, but I hope you don't grow up, and treat your girl like an old shoe...If I had a boyfriend/husband, and he wanted to by .and share things with me after 13 years...you bet your sweet little behind, I'm there...

Answer 3

Well your father is your father and an adult. She is obviously giving him something back in return.

You and your sister need to sit down in private and have a heart to heart with your father. Just tell him you respect him and love him as your father however you two can see right through his girl friends intentions and neither of you feel like you can sit by and continue to watch her rob you blind in front of you both.

If your father defends her, then ask him to put her to a test to see where her loyalites lie. For example, start to slowly sell a property or two so your dad can regain some money to continue paying the bills. (As his excuse to her)

Explain to your dad, that you both are so hurt and angry over her actions or "lack of" that if he would just please do something like get her a cheaper car or sell one of the properties. And if she goes along with him with no arguments, you promise to drop the subject forever.

But you both feel she will not give up anything and is there for his money. (NOW be careful, because it sounds like she is much younger than your father and you don't want to say she's ONLY their for his money) I am sure he is not a stupid man. However, some women will hang in there.

There must be a reason they aren't married after 13 years of being together.

some states and I guess you are in Aus. but after 2 people have been living in the same home for a certain number of years, the homestead could go to the other, with the law considering this "like" a marriage for all those years.

I don't know the laws where you live, but I had to through that in there. My state use to call it "Common Law" if 2 people lived together for 7 years. something like common law marriage without the actual legal papers, only for entitlement.

If your dad is upset, just ask him to please show you and your sister that you both are wrong about her.

it may also be, your father is fully aware of this but still continues to keep her around.

NOW, if you really want to get ugly. ?????

How old are you? It sounds like you just go to dads what every so often? Or do you also live there?

Do you or your sister have any money of your own? I would have her followed by a private investigator. She if she is fooling around behind the old mans back. Hum???

I know you two should really stay out of it. But if I smell a rat, there's always one there.

Try making her life miserable instead of easy too.
If she is much younger and your dad is much older, the odds of her having an affair could be close to 90%.

Did your dad have an affair with her on your mom?
If so, I feel your bitterness. My ex had an affair on me, they finally married, had a bunch of kids, they divorced then she split and went awol for 10 years and now she's back and guess what for ???? FOR MY EX'S MONEY AGAIN.....
Now, I hope she takes him for every cent he has. I have never liked her and told them both, if more women would just say no to married men, they "might" just be fewer divorces.

But, I'm sure your mom and dad had some problems anyway. You never really know what goes on inside someones elses mind 100% of the time.

But I would have her followed for sure. then you could take the information to your dad if he doesn't listen to you and your sisters concerns
If you aren't old enough to have that done, I don't know what else to tell you but pick up some of her stuff and move it all over the house without getting caught, make her think she must be losing it or something.

but be careful, if she "IS" up to no good w/ your dad, she's more conniving then you are and much older and much more experienced. so just make her life a living hellllooo...do everything that annoys her. And if she says anything to you, tell her to chill out you don't know what's she talking about.

Good luck.......and tread softly, it could be your dads heart you hurt, but do sit down with your sister and dad and both of you need to speak up and at least let him know how you feel and what are you guys to do?

Answer 4

Any chance you can come up with the money and info to be able to get a private investigator to do a background check on her?
There are no blank slates.

Answer 5

13 years your dad has been with her!!!!!!
thats a long time not to figure out what shes like or what shes after.
leave it be i am sure hes not stupid and would have clicked on by now if something was wrong

Answer 6

talk to your dad about the stupid woman that he's dating! tell him you can sense that she's a gold digger!!!! tell him to do something about her other wise you'd never talk to him again... a bit dramatic but i think it'll work..... it's worth a try!! good luck