Family - December 2007

Well yesterday i ruined everybodys christmas by starting fights. My mom said the best thing for me to do is move out. Should i? I mean i hate starting fights but i seriously hate the fact the my whole family is not talking to me. Right now im at my uncles should i just live here for now on? Or try to go back home and figure this out. Because i spent my whole Summer over here because of fighting. What should i do?

2007-12-26 07:02:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

everyone she loves her little sister. She has always been jealous of me. Family says that we have hated each other for 555 years. I am 54! I am thinking about not talking to anyone in the family anymore and just let her have it. She makes it too hard for me.

2007-12-26 06:55:55 · 10 answers · asked by carol f 1

everyone she loves her little sister. She has always been jealous of me. Family says that we have hated each other for 555 years. I am 54! I am thinking about not talking to anyone in the family anymore and just let her have it. She makes it too hard for me.

2007-12-26 06:54:57 · 5 answers · asked by carol f 1

friends
i belong to traditional north indian family. My bhabhi was complaining about my mother to my bro at night ....every body overheard them ...her language was disrespectful......opposi... to what she behaves in person....she is trying to pick arguments with me in subtle way and not as eager to serve food to me etc.....still appears respectful ...but i guess within few months she will start mild or subtle idiotic arguments with me or mom.
she wanted to give gift to her brother ....but could not due to my bro saying ...no funds now ...etc. She does not get higher lifestyle she desires. Her IQ is bit low(very poor in studies) ...and belong to comparatively weaker family than us.
we encourage her to continue her studies, though she is reluctant.
suggest ways to maintain peace for my family.

2007-12-26 06:49:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've never really gotten along with my parents. They were both verbally/mentally abusive and I feel that they've only ever supported me financially. My dad would leave and not come back for days at a time and he eventually had a child with another women. Neither of my parents know that I know. When I was 10(6th grade) , i got involved in Martial arts. My instructor is one of the most amazing people I've ever met.( He's 14 years older than me). After a while, he became like a "dad" to me. He'd never had a good relationship with his parents either and he was the only one that I could talk to about mine. I could talk to him about anything, and he was there for me when noone else was. I could ask him anything and he'd answer truthfully. He was the person that would hug me and tell me that everything would be okay when I had a problem.
I've known him for 5 1/2 years. But I've always wondered if it was okay to allow him to take the place of my "dad" because my bio one wasn't there for me

2007-12-26 06:42:48 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have 2 sisters (I am a girl..dont mind the avatar) and it seems that they are jealous of me. It is a terrible terrible feeling. I often wondered why they used to exclude me from outings and generally their chat and then a while ago, my mother told me that they are crazy jealous of me. The reasons seem to be that I have a really good job, but it is so unfair as I studied really hard to get this position while neither of them bothered so much. They wanted a social life..boyfriends and all that and I put that on the back shelf to get well qualified. How can I deal with this? Has anyone out there ever experienced this? All I know is that if they do well at anyhthing I am happy for them, I am a caring person but they dont seem to be happy for me when I do well. Why are some people so jealous even of their own siblings? ps it is even infantile..we are not children..we are all over 30 so it is even more hurtful that this carries into adulthood.

2007-12-26 06:31:07 · 8 answers · asked by this is it 1

My wifes Mom is in an assisted living home in Minnesota and her health is fading. We need to get up to Minnesota to help with her because she has no family there with her. We have looked everywhere to find help getting there to no avail. We live in Beaumont, Texas and we are on a limited budget. If you have any ideas please help.

2007-12-26 06:26:06 · 4 answers · asked by Timothy K 1

MY family told me that if i painted the house i may get a Wii for Christmas.

Well i done it and in ChristMas i got NOTHING, while my lazy 21 yr old brother gets a ticked to go to Colombia, and he didn't do anything to help.

Is this being unfair?

2007-12-26 06:26:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

im looking to deliver some flowers to my neice for her birthday at school...im having a hard time with company names...i know of 1-800 flowers.com and Conroys...is there any other flower compnaies out there that deliver? i live in Orange County, Ca

2007-12-26 06:18:35 · 3 answers · asked by *+*+baby dust*+*+ 2

My daughter is 12 going on 18. She is starting to get a little rebellious as teenagers do (nothing crazy like boyfriends or partying yet - thank god)

My daughter said that she doesn't like Christopher, her step Dad, because he beats her. I think she may get spanked every now and then but I don't she is being beat.

I picked her up on Christmas day, and she was in tears. She was being mean to her 6 year old half brother and was punished. She talked back to him and was "beat" by him. I asked where and she showed me. I didn't see anything.

I am obviously concerned..... very concerned. But I also know how kids can exagerate things. I told my daughter that I would talk to her Mom about it.

I am not sure how to broach the subject with my ex-wife and not cause problems in our post-divorce reltionship. We get along civily, but the last thing that I want to do is get into some kind of custody fight.

2007-12-26 06:16:06 · 17 answers · asked by bjmarchini 2

Ok. My husband hates his 19 year old sister because he thinks she's a brat. He's 23. She just recently eloped with her boyfriend (before we got married) so she doesn't live at home with their parents. Anyway, last Christmas she got some jewelry from their parents and immediately was like, "eew. I'm not wearing this-- it's fake. This is the kind of stuff I wear (she points to her engagement ring)." I've seen home videos where she chewed her Dad out for saying the $500 dollars he gave her was also to be used to buy new school clothes. She went on a train ride a few weeks back and some guy came up to try to talk to her and she flat out told him "Please don't talk to me". That guy and all his friends called her "Princess" throughout the whole train ride. I mean she's really sweet but she just doesn't know how to talk to people without seeming like a stuck-up brat. I can tell she's trying to change but my husband has a resolute opinion of her that I fear may never change.

2007-12-26 06:13:34 · 9 answers · asked by Avelyn 4

...and stay at her parents place, when the parents don't enjoy her being there. It wouldn't be so bad if she didn't continually lecture them about everything, complain about small issues like dust under the table, lecture her father for being "grumpy", and cause so much stress to her mother that the mom loses about 10 pounds of weight. I'm afraid she's literally shortening her parents life (they are about 70). The kids are all screaming constantly, crying, etc.

What should the parents do? Is this normal ???(i.e. what extended families do)

2007-12-26 06:12:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Iv'e just had a new step-mum and I really hate her. Should I tell my dad or would it just cause an arguement???

2007-12-26 06:09:47 · 11 answers · asked by Myles 2

he's 14 and smoking. alone. so it's not peer pressure. this isn't the first time i've caught him, but this time, i feel the need to tell my mom. for him. i don't want him ruining his health.
any suggestions? what should i do?

2007-12-26 06:07:44 · 20 answers · asked by barefootinthesand27 1

She sued me after my Nana died cuz I was left more money in the will (I took care of her till the day she died). Kelly was the "other woman" for 8 years & is now marrying the man who is 22 yrs older. We have different values & morals. I cant stand 2 be in the same room w/her. I try 2 hold my tongue 4 my parents but it is getting harder & harder. The last straw was the Bear's game this weekend, I sat in my dad's clubhouse seats & she got his other seats. She threw a fit, she wasnt even supposed 2 go. It was a typical freezing cold windy Chicago day. She said she doesnt understand why homeless people complain, she sat in the cold w/2 blankets 3 shirts 2 pants 3 socks. She actually said I know they have Coats & Blankets cuz I donate my old stuff 4 them. I wish I could say she was kidding but this is the honest truth of the type of person she is. How do I enjoy my family if she is there? Cant make my p's choose between us but cant go on w/her @ holidays, functions etc.. I am going 2 snap!

2007-12-26 05:50:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Did you spend time, energy, money and love preparing what you hoped would be a beautiful, loving family Christmas, only to find that no one gave a hoot? I hauled down the decorations (alone), decorated the tree (alone) climbed the ladders and hung the lights (alone), baked, played carols, attended parties, planned and cooked dinners, bought and wrapped presents...all alone. Everyone wanted to GET presents, no one wanted to do any of the work, or have any togetherness. Is the answer to just stop doing anything for them? Keep pouring love where it's not wanted or appreciated? Run away and hope for happiness elsewhere? Life is short...

2007-12-26 05:43:42 · 6 answers · asked by Thursday 3

I'm 17 and ye i know this sounds childish but i just hate my lazy *** step-dad he never helps around the house and treats me like his servant he cant even get his own fat *** of a chair so please give me some ideas to make my mom throw him and his snotty 18 yr old daughter out of our house i want to get rid of him for good

2007-12-26 05:39:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

She complains that she never gets to see us, and that my parents always get to see us. It's obvious why they do, they live in the same town. My mother is my babysitter. She tries to go against our wishes when we let her have the baby for the weekend, and she fed her rice cereal before I could. I wanted to be the one to feed her first, but she doesn't care. She made a big deal about getting her ears pierced, but my mom wanted to get them pierced too. After all this is my mothers first grandchild, while my m-i-l has two already. My mom just let her do it, so I wouldn't have to deal with her crying about it. I'm a passive person so talk ing to her about it won't do any good, I'll end up letting her do whatever she wants. My husband knows how I feel, and he does talk to her, in fact he demands that she listen to us. She doesn't listen to him either. I'm afraid that we are going to have to threaten her with never letting her have the baby again. It's not fair to keep her granddaughter away

2007-12-26 05:09:23 · 17 answers · asked by dala_o_2003 2

Do or would you charge your son/daughter to look after their child (your grandchild) and would you keep a record of every time you looked after them even if it was only for half an hour at times?

2007-12-26 04:42:52 · 13 answers · asked by Only visiting 5

my husband is always there to help his family whenever they ask or fall down on hard times. here's a short list of what my husband did to help his parents. he took off from work to take his mom to surgery while we sat there all day long waiting for her to get out and we sat with her when she got to her room. he helped her move heavy furniture from out of her storage unit to a very small basement in the house. he picks up the check when we all go out to eat. helped his mom move. he went over and carried many heavy 50 lb bags of sands and dug up their backyard to level out a family swimming pool and the list goes on and on and on and on. i'm very upset with his family because he goes out of his way to help them and yet they got his sister and her kids presents well over $400 worth of presents and all they do is live there sucking up all their money. his sister never helped with all of the things that he has helped with, she just sits there and keeps having babies.

2007-12-26 04:29:21 · 6 answers · asked by lookingforanswersandquestions 4

They have been getting me the same thing for the past 2 years now. They think it's different if it is in a different color. It's a stupid, out-of-style, Columbia Jacket. What am I gonna do with a jacket (light-weight) in the middle of Winter? It's dark blue, and they got me a pink one last year. They are so rude, they think it is a chore to go out and buy presents for their grandchildren, they don't put any thought into it. I love them, but it makes me mad.

2007-12-26 04:28:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

When I was little my dad moved out of the house because my mom found out he was cheating on her. I later found out that he was actually going to leave us for this other woman but at the last minute she declined. My dad doesn't know that I know all about his dirty little secrets and its hard for me to have a relationship with him because I know that he doesn't really love me if he was planning on leaving me. How am I supposed to have a relationship with him without telling him that I know everything?

2007-12-26 04:18:50 · 7 answers · asked by sam 2

I'm 19 and a single mother to my beautiful little girl. I'm going back to college soon and I'm working as much as I can to pay the bills and make sure everything is taken care of. I'm also taking care of my 15 year old sister.(it's a long story.) I just wanted to know if it's normal for me to worry about the bills,my daughter, and my sister all the time.

2007-12-26 04:09:55 · 7 answers · asked by Brittney 3

A couple of weeks ago, he got angry & punched me & threatened to call the cops on me for not letting him use my computer. (I'm very overprotective of my computer) Then, this past week, he went out of town & he got into an altercation with my twin sister, & he claims she stabbed him, but he didn't call the cops because he "didn't want her kids to be taken away from their mommy". He also claimed she tried to tazer & fry him & blind him with bleach. But he'd rather take my life away over something petty-since he can't take my college degree away. When I confronted him & asked him about punching me & trying to call the cops on me, his response was, "That wasn't me. That was a different person inside my body." Me & my twin sister are 24, & he's 28. Yes, I do understand his frustration about my lesbian twin sister stealing his girlfriend & bragging about it, but don't take it out on me. I'm heterosexual. My twin sister put on a facade of marriage & kids to hide her homosexuality.

2007-12-26 04:06:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

The child(17) just wakes up - and is told go to two different stores to run two errands for his father. The child unenthusiastically agrees and gets ready to go. The father then blows up and starts cursing and yelling because he does not like the way the child answers. He then leaves to do them himself. The mother thinks the father is right to be angry because he did not like the way the child answers. Who is at fault?

2007-12-26 04:01:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

yesterday on Christmas my best friend Silvia told me about a fight her parent had. Michelle, her mom got into a fight with her husband which is george. George was choking Michelle like 7 times and michelle got out a knife and almost killed him. He was trying to calm her down by outting his weight on her and michelle is very thin and hes very obeses or hes a fattie.
True Story.
Im scared for Silvvia and shes only 14

2007-12-26 03:51:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Every Christmas, we follow the exact same routine. Christmas Eve, everybody has to arrive at the exact same time... the same annual neighbors and friends stop by and that ends exactly at the same time every year, my mother actually has small sleigh bells that she rings to signal people that it's time to leave. We sit around and sing the same carols and take turns reading that X-mas poem before going to bed. Then the next morning, at the exact time as always, we open gifts in the same order, then later eat the same food we do every year at 3:00, and my father tells the same stories about the "old days" every year, even though we all know them by heart by now.

I recently got engaged and my fiancee's family celebrates X-mas Eve more than X-mas Day. I told my mother that we would like to spend next X-mas Eve at her parents and drive up the next day, she freaked out and said I'm going to "throw everything off" and possibly "ruin it for everyone". How can I get her to accept small changes?

2007-12-26 03:49:56 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I wanted to send an e-mail to my ex-husband and his mother asking them to spend less time on the phone with my daughter.

She is 15 and came her to live with me about 5 months ago. However, she is not as focused on her studies as she should be and spends time on the phone with her Dad and grandmother.

Now her grandmother has a cell phone and this is another attraction for her since she can call her for free. (mobile to mobile minutes)

My mom, her and I went shopping on Monday for things for our apartment, etc. My daughter did not take any interest in the shopping and instead went to the front of the store and talked to her Dad and grandmother on the phone.

When we came back from shopping, she also spend about 1/2 hour on the phone with her Dad. They both live in another state.

I want to send an e-mail saying - "Please limit the time you spend on the phone with our daughter. She should focus on school and the ACT exam."

I don't want to offend them.

2007-12-26 03:24:09 · 9 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

My grandmother passed away this Christmas. My mom bought my son a sensor-detecting parrot as a Christmas present. He was wrapped under the tree. He kept going off at 2:00 a.m. as if someone was passing by him the next night after my grandmother's passing. Then my mom's digital clock kept going off to and flashing 12:00. And at Christmas Eve, as guests were arriving and leaving at my mom's the doors would be opening and closing on their own. Then that night when I was back home with my and my boyfriend's packages (we live together) again at 2:00 a.m. I heard someone riffling thru the bag and playing with and crumpling up Christmas paper. My boyfriend and I looked at each other. We were still awake and in the living room. When he went into the kitchen, it stopped. Then the kitchen light dimmed and then resumed it's full power (which I heard is a spirit sign when the power goes on and off or the electricity dims) and then the paper riffling stopped too. Thoughts?

2007-12-26 03:13:54 · 2 answers · asked by nonameblonde 6

My daughter in law is bi-polar and screams and cusses worse than any sailor at my grandkids,4 and 6 and it is getting worse. If she does this when I am around..it makes me wonder what she does when I am not. My son is at his wits end trying to help her stop being this way. Medication doesn't help. My son is now filing for sole custody of the kids but will have to prove her unfit, but she acts so sweet and innocent when she is around other people. But she is a monster at home, literally. I am sick thinking what this is doing to my grandchildren. I have tried to stay out of it and mind my own business...Please tell me what to do!!

2007-12-26 02:51:16 · 4 answers · asked by tidbit 5