When I was little my dad moved out of the house because my mom found out he was cheating on her. I later found out that he was actually going to leave us for this other woman but at the last minute she declined. My dad doesn't know that I know all about his dirty little secrets and its hard for me to have a relationship with him because I know that he doesn't really love me if he was planning on leaving me. How am I supposed to have a relationship with him without telling him that I know everything?
2007-12-26 04:18:50 · 7 answers · asked by sam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should tell him what you know. It will open up the lines of communcation. Just because he was planning on leaving your mom doesn't mean he doesn't love you. The best thing to do is talk about it and get it out in the open. You may think he is a jerk but he is still your dad and you should give him a chance to explain things...maybe there were some things going on with your parents that you weren't aware of.
2007-12-26 04:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by barb 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
his decision to leave or stay had nothing to do with you. It was all between your mother and him. I'm sorry that this new information has changed your view of your father but it was in the past and he did stay and it doesn't invalidate anything that you experienced with him since then.
If this really bothers you, then sit down with your dad and have an honest talk with him. Know that he doesn't owe you any explanation. What happens in a marriage is only the business of the people in the marriage and outsiders are not privy to everything that happens in it. But he may talk to you about what happened and why he decided to stay. remember your mother took him back, she didn't have to.
2007-12-26 04:31:51 · answer #2 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whatever problems your parents have/had have NOTHING to do with you. My husband left me when I was pregnant with my first child........and the woman didn't want to have anything to do with him....sounds about the same situation with your dad....but I know that the problem was between me and my husband and had nothing to do with my son. Actually we got back together and had another baby....he is a GREAT father but a horrible husband.
2007-12-26 05:02:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
adults will do alot of harmful things to their whole family when they cheat, but their not thinking straight when it comes to the kids. sex is the reason for cheating, and their minds don't go that far when the kids are involved.
just try and talk to him and tell him how it's been making you feel all this time.
2007-12-26 04:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He wasn't planning on leaving YOU, he was planning on leaving your mother -- completely different thing.
As for knowing all this, it's too bad you do, as it's really not your concern.
Try to forget about it; but if it really bothers you, then talk to him about it and clear the air.
2007-12-26 06:41:23 · answer #5 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You won't be able to.Tell him what you know.You will be releasing a great deal of pressure off yourself.
2007-12-26 04:23:54 · answer #6 · answered by justBme 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
what ever he does he is your father and you must forgive him. He might have hidden reasons or a big problem you don't know.
2007-12-26 04:31:17 · answer #7 · answered by muslima 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋