Do or would you charge your son/daughter to look after their child (your grandchild) and would you keep a record of every time you looked after them even if it was only for half an hour at times?
2007-12-26 04:42:52 · 13 answers · asked by Only visiting 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
By the way I'm not a grandmother so its not me I'm referring to or my child either.
2007-12-26 05:05:08 · update #1
I am a grandmother of 7. The answer
NO
NO
NO
Why don't you find a baby sitter, who you will have to pay, and let this particular grandmother to do without the company of her precious grandchildren.
It is hard for me to understand such an attitude, but I have got past judging without knowing all the circumstances.
I would not leave my children with this lady, because if she has this emotional detachment from her grandchildren, then I do not think this child would be loved, given attention etc.
Do you know the saying :- What you give out you get back.,
This poor, sad lady feels that money is the mainstay of her life, I think. There again, I do know what is going on her head really, so I cannot judge. I only know I would not do this.
Peace and love,
2007-12-26 05:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't never charge my son if I was to look after my grandchildren ,I only wish that they all would respect me as a mother and grand mother, in appreciation it would be nice if once in a while on a special occasion they would take me out for a coffee or dinner at their expense ,not at mine . I have noticed that a vast majority of children expect too much out of their parents and yet never show them affection or gratitude for being there when they need them. I wouldn't keep a record either but some mothers are probably depending on some extra cash because food is expensive ,so if a parent would purchase supplies needed to feed their children I think that they should pitch in without hesitation.
2007-12-26 05:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by bornfree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a grandparent, but I don't think this is unreasonable. Most grandparents are on a fixed income that's not quite enough to live on.
If the parent, knowing they're expected to pay, don't want the grandparent to babysit, they can find another babysitter, who they'd have to pay anyway.
Edit after reading your other question: So, you aren't the parent. It's none of your business what the parents do with their child.
I suggest you keep your opinions to yourself. Telling other people how to live will only cause problems. You live your life, let others live theirs.
2007-12-26 06:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one.. my mom watched my kids whle I was working. she never charged me for atching them, but I often bought groceries and gave her money to take the kids out to eat. I knew that her budget couldnt really afford the extra mouths to feed.
My uncle watches his 3 g/k's before and after school and all summer.. he charges his son 50.00 a week, it realy doesnt cover the gas to and from school and meals and snacks they eat there.
So there needs to be some give and take on the matter.
If the son/daughter didnt have the grandparent they would have to pay a sitter, so they should be respectful and give sometrhing.
Its a complete different matter when the kids are going to Grandparents house for visits. Then I wouldnt think the grandparents would want to charge or think of asking to charge their kids for that precious time.
2007-12-26 04:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by silly_me 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Not a grandparent but my aunt takes care of my cousins child.
My cousin pays her to have her daily while she is at work however if she is going out with her husband for an evening or is poping to the shops etc she doesn't pay for that as it's a favour.
I think it depends if it a regular thing instead of a childminder then yes tthe parent should pay. If it an occational favour then no it's family.
2007-12-26 06:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by Lysal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not a grandparent but my mother and mother in law do watch my daughter all week while i work. i have never paid them any money and they have never asked. but i do make sure to keep them stocked up on baby supplies, diapers, wipes, baby food, snacks anything my daughter could want or need. plus i make sure to keep new toys at there homes so she doesnt get bored with the same old thing. im very lucky that hey do for my daughter like they do, but even if they did want paid i would pay them instead of paying a day care, i know my daughter is loved and cherished in their home.
2007-12-26 04:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by princess 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. If you are the daycare, then it is fair for you to be compensated. If you are just doing the odd babysitting here and there, then no, it should be quality time with your grandchild. If you don't want to babysit, then speak up.
2007-12-26 05:06:33 · answer #7 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
certainly not my god what sort of people would do that.
I have a grandaughter and look after her once a fortnight and anytime they want to go out.
I dont think parents should take grandparents for granted and think they can dump the kids on them anytime they feel like it.
2007-12-26 04:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by dexter 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not a grandparent but I think thats so rude. You shouldn't have to pay your own family to watch your kids. Grandparents should WANT to spend time with their grandchildren.
2007-12-26 04:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If I was having to watch the child more than the parent was, you bet!
2007-12-26 04:47:56 · answer #10 · answered by Fun2010 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋