I'm 17 and ye i know this sounds childish but i just hate my lazy *** step-dad he never helps around the house and treats me like his servant he cant even get his own fat *** of a chair so please give me some ideas to make my mom throw him and his snotty 18 yr old daughter out of our house i want to get rid of him for good
2007-12-26 05:39:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
some of you said that i should move out i cant exactly do that because at the moment i am jobless i'll try and get a job but i was thinking of moving to my dads apartment he's single and he lives on his own to me its perfect i haven't seen my REAL dad, whos not a total jerk not like my step-dad, in a few months now but the problem is i cant leave my mom to those two pigs she needs me i cant decide whats the best decision
2007-12-26 06:03:51 · update #1
What I suggest is that you get a part time job, save your money, then when you are out of school you can get your own place and not have to deal with living under their roof.
I don't care for my step mother either, so I avoid her as much as possible. It's my fathers choice to stay with her regardless of the way she treats him and talks down to him.
Trust me, I totally know where you're coming from.
But in that situation, it's best to distance yourself and invite your mom to YOUR place in your environment and leave the two darling step-idiots at home.
2007-12-26 05:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by Ella 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think "getting rid of" your Step dad is the easiest solution. Obviously your mom married him for a reason.
Have you tried talking to her about how you feel in a clear, concise, factual manner, not whining or complaining? I agree that the daughter should be contributing as well. the fact that neither one are acting responsibly or pitching in to the household is not a good influence on you either.
My guess is you have spoken to your Mom and she probably wants you to concede to keep the peace. do you have a father or other relatives you can stay with? Sometimes when all else fails, drastic measures work well. But again you need to be prepared with very clear and to the point reasons why you need this change. At 17 you should be off to college soon. Get away by dorming. Good luck!
2007-12-26 05:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by Dana M 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There r few things u can do 1 tell him to go **** himself 2 pull a gun or some sort of weapon on him or 3 take him to court
And ur lucky that ur real dad will be there for u because my 2 brothers and i dont have any kind of father figgure in our lives all we have is a gambler abd a paudophile so ur very lucky I'm actually condos moving ti murray bridge to be with my girlfriend as i have no freedom where i live
2016-05-11 13:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate my step dad. Today he just hit my mom and she cut her wrist. To the bone my 8 yr old sis was trying to kill him but it didn't work she stabbed him and he still lived she at ER but I can't do nothing cause my mom still stays with him I wish shell just leave him now what if he killed her then she would have known but hay it's her I'm in
in 13 I'm ok and smart so best thing to do is make him misserable
2016-04-30 19:43:51 · answer #4 · answered by Antwan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you aren't going to like my answer, but i have to tell you. In life things don't always go the way we like. You may not like him, nor do you have to pretend to like him. But you need to respect him as an adult, and as your step father. Stay out of your mom and step father's business, they are both adults. As long as he is not being abusive towards you or you mom, you have to learn to tolerate him and his daughter. They are you extended family whether you like it or not. Stop sitting up thinking of ways to get your mom to kick him out. Because that's not where you should be focusing your attention. And it's real negative, and how will you feel if some time in the future you marry some one who your mom considers lazy and no good for you.? Then what if she plots to break you two up? I am almost certain your feeling would be hurt, and so will your mom's if she find's out about your plotting so stop. As adults we make mistakes, we are not perfect, we love people sometimes who are not worthy of our love, but all being said it's still her mistake to make or not make, you never know this man and your mom might just surprise you, they might both really love one another. Now there's nothing wrong with you talking with your mom and letting her know about your concerns. But learn how to get along with your step dad, and try to over look his flaws because no one is perfect. And you are not so young that you can not understand that your mom want's the love and companionship of a man. Just relax, and be patient with all people in your household, and always pray for things to be there best for you and your family. You sound like a really good daughter, so relax i am a firm beliver that what's meant to be will be, and what isn't meant to be wont last.
2007-12-26 06:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by Sha T 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
You are going to have to wait it out or move with another realitive. If you have already talked to your mom about them being lazy pains in the butt and she still has kept them, then your hands are tied on that. You cannot change someone else but you can change yourself.
Get a job, hobby or do something that keeps you away from them.
Good luck.
ETA
SHE CHOSE THEM, so leaving her with them shouldnt be a problem. You cannot mother your mother.
2007-12-26 05:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your mom about it if you haven't already. If that doesn't work, you may have to tough it out until you're 18 and then move. It sucks that he's seems like such a jerk, but those are about the only options I can think of.
2007-12-26 05:45:03 · answer #7 · answered by Me 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
all you can do is talk to your mom about what you feel is unfair treatment. You don't have the power to make him leave because it is not your house, it's his and your mother's.
If you aren't able to get along with them and they are making your life h*ll, is there another family member you can move in with? If there isn't, then I'd get a part time job and start saving my money so I could afford to move in with roommates and get away from them.
2007-12-26 05:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
get a job and move out your mom will find you and you can do it i moved out at 14 but that is what i would then he can't boss you around because you are not there any more
2007-12-26 05:44:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Let's arrange a meeting for him and my mother-in-law! We could both help solve each others "problem"!!!
2007-12-26 05:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by blue boy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋