I've never really gotten along with my parents. They were both verbally/mentally abusive and I feel that they've only ever supported me financially. My dad would leave and not come back for days at a time and he eventually had a child with another women. Neither of my parents know that I know. When I was 10(6th grade) , i got involved in Martial arts. My instructor is one of the most amazing people I've ever met.( He's 14 years older than me). After a while, he became like a "dad" to me. He'd never had a good relationship with his parents either and he was the only one that I could talk to about mine. I could talk to him about anything, and he was there for me when noone else was. I could ask him anything and he'd answer truthfully. He was the person that would hug me and tell me that everything would be okay when I had a problem.
I've known him for 5 1/2 years. But I've always wondered if it was okay to allow him to take the place of my "dad" because my bio one wasn't there for me
2007-12-26 06:42:48 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes it is ok.Everyone needs support.You should tell him how much he has meant to you in times of need.Thanks for sharing.
2007-12-26 06:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Replacing you dad? Doen't seem like you are replacing your father. More like taking on a mentor. Having someone you can respect and confide in is key. Are you asking him to adopt you? If not then i would not feel guilty about anything. Sounds like you are blessed to have such an amazing person in your life that you can depend on. You parents should be happy too. Sounds like he is a good influence as well. Everyone needs someone they can depend on...a best friend, an uncle, etc. Be thankful that you found someone. Don't feel guilty, you are a better person already for it!
2007-12-26 15:18:53 · answer #2 · answered by Dana M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How wonderful that you have found support and an extended family among your friends! Yes, that is the right thing to do.
Many people have walked away from abusive family and built a family of support among friends.
And martial arts is a wonderful way to build self-esteem.
2007-12-26 14:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with having an adult in your life, other than your parents that you can go too. You are very lucky to find a caring person.
2007-12-26 14:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First point..........no-one can take the place of your dad. If you martial arts teacher is just somone you talk with, that is fine. If it is anything more, it is not.
2007-12-26 14:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong in making such a wonderful person a part of your life. I think is great!
2007-12-26 14:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋