...and stay at her parents place, when the parents don't enjoy her being there. It wouldn't be so bad if she didn't continually lecture them about everything, complain about small issues like dust under the table, lecture her father for being "grumpy", and cause so much stress to her mother that the mom loses about 10 pounds of weight. I'm afraid she's literally shortening her parents life (they are about 70). The kids are all screaming constantly, crying, etc.
What should the parents do? Is this normal ???(i.e. what extended families do)
2007-12-26 06:12:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should step in and tell them it is not convenient anymore for her to be coming over and over extending her welcome. People of that age have already raised their kids and should not be inconvienenced in that way, having to deal with unruly toddlers and rude people. It almost sounds like that woman comes into their home and tries to take over. Is she brain dead when she has to wonder why the old man is grumpy? You need to protect the mental and physical health of these elderly people, who obviously have too much to grace to tell her the truth.
2007-12-26 06:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by dwayne4emily 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is totally unacceptable. ONly if you and your children are invited to stay should you stay at all, much less for two weeks.
I think it is time for the parents to have a chat that goes like this:
"Honey, we love you adn we love the kids, and are really glad to see you. However, we are getting set in our ways and it is really stressful for us having you areound for more than a few days. We would have shared this with you if we knew you were planning on coming by and staying for so long. I think we need to talk openly about this and make sure you understand that this has nothing to do with how much we love you and the kids and spending time together. It has everything to do with our level of stress; it is getting a lot harder for us to deal with stress as we get older. We had no idea it would be this hard; when we were younger we did not imagine it could be this way."
The latter part is really important because it puts all of the blame on the parents; there is no mistaking this for "We don't want you around because you annoy us and drive us crazy."
Good luck!
2007-12-26 06:20:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In most families it's normal to want to be together for Christmas. Maybe if dad acted happier to see her she wouldn't try to joke him out of it by calling him grumpy. It sounds like she's desperately still trying to get the love and approval she's never gotten from the parents.
2007-12-26 06:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he gets domicile on the hours of darkness he would desire to circulate to mattress at a million am and be up by employing 9 am no concern. If spending time together with his daughter is so substantial then HE desires to locate time for her. in case you're only permitting him then he won't in any respect develop up and learn something. i could say you prefer you would be able to desire to, yet you're busy in the mornings... would desire to he watch her from 9 am till 2, then you definitely gets domicile at 2? Edit: And it maximum by employing no means your fault if he would not get to work out her. he's domicile 14.5 hours an afternoon and easily demands 8 hours of sleep. choosing to stay conscious previous due makes it his fault he would not see his daughter.
2016-11-25 01:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isnt normal, and TELL HER SO.
My gawd. If she would show up on my doorstep, I would tell her thanks for the visit the comfort inn is right down the road and help her pack her kids up. If she cannot afford the hotel, then she can keep on driving.
I had an elderly aunt call and inform me she was moving in with me. I dont think so. She has her own kids to move in with.
2007-12-26 06:30:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents should stand up for themselves and tell her if she isn't happy there then leave but I do agree that most grandparents would be exstatic to spend time with their grandchildren if they aren't close by and if it is only once a year whats the problem.
2007-12-27 13:16:25 · answer #6 · answered by Gleemom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the parents invited her, then it's not wrong for her to show up. And of course if she shows up, you can't expect her to not have her children with her for Christmas.
If you don't like having her around so much, your trick for next Christmas would be to invite her over for a specific amount of time, say "we'd like to invite you and your family over for two days." Buy her plane tickets with that time frame to seal the deal.
2007-12-26 06:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents should tell her to leave if they dont want her there. But that crurel being shes your daughter and has kids.
2007-12-26 08:18:16 · answer #8 · answered by dmj_369 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is wrong. why arent her parents standing up to her? if they continue to be spineless she will continue to accost them.
next Christmas why dont they go away on vacation.
2007-12-26 06:19:12 · answer #9 · answered by Ernie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One word "YES"! It h just happened to me and that is a nightmare. Learn from this experience and NEVER let it happen again!
2007-12-26 06:17:57 · answer #10 · answered by BadBill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋