I have 2 sisters (I am a girl..dont mind the avatar) and it seems that they are jealous of me. It is a terrible terrible feeling. I often wondered why they used to exclude me from outings and generally their chat and then a while ago, my mother told me that they are crazy jealous of me. The reasons seem to be that I have a really good job, but it is so unfair as I studied really hard to get this position while neither of them bothered so much. They wanted a social life..boyfriends and all that and I put that on the back shelf to get well qualified. How can I deal with this? Has anyone out there ever experienced this? All I know is that if they do well at anyhthing I am happy for them, I am a caring person but they dont seem to be happy for me when I do well. Why are some people so jealous even of their own siblings? ps it is even infantile..we are not children..we are all over 30 so it is even more hurtful that this carries into adulthood.
2007-12-26 06:31:07 · 8 answers · asked by this is it 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just keep celebrating their successes. Don't expect that they will celebrate yours until they grow up a little. Be the best person to them as you can. I have children who are also competitive and jealous of one another. It IS horrible for all of them really but especially for the one they are jealous of who works diligently for all he has accomplished. The others work hard at other things that mean a lot to them and all of them can be proud of each other.
2007-12-26 06:46:26 · answer #1 · answered by Libby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family is often the first set of obstacles we have to overcome.
Your sisters are underperformers and STILL have not attempted to better themselves. They do not have the right to play victim or slander you, as they made their own conscious choices in life. They don't have to be happy for anyone, and probably don't have that ability.
Perhaps you can stop by the local community college and pick up a couple of course catalogs and the business cards from the guidance counselors. They can still change course if they are motivated.
You don't have to take anything on the chin. You can choose to call them out on the carpet if needed.
2007-12-26 06:41:10 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I experience the same problem when I first moved back to be closer with my family. Two of my sister were real close but when I came they were cool at first but then the green eye monster came into play. You can't change how they feel. do not feel left out they are the ones who are missing out.
Continue being the supportive sister and play nice sooner or later they will see that it doesn't bother you and they will either start to include you or remain as it is. Be the better person. Your successes reminds them of their failures.
As we have gotten older my sisters and I have grown closer except for one who has become an alcoholic. With her out of the picture my other sister and I have grown closer.
2007-12-26 12:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by farawaygrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't get to pick and choose who or siblings will be. Don't let them make you feel less of a person because of your accomplishments in life. They are still young and can do the same. Continue to love them as you were raised to do. Compliment them on there accomplishments in there life. One day in a casual conversation I would say, isn't it amazing that we were brought up in the same home, had the same rules, shared everything with one another but decided different choices in our adult life. I would compliment each one for what they are doing and tell them how you admire them and how good they are with what they are doing. Kill them with kindess. Career or Family (it's a choice) Stay Blessed!
2007-12-26 06:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by Sunday's Best 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure why they feel they need to exclude you ....believe me I have five sisters and four brothers and I am always happy when they have good fortune....I feel they are the same about me..unless you laud it over them that you have it made they are just being petty....not a lot you can do...never apologize for the hard work and dedication you put into your livelihood...they will either grow up or work a little harder to catch up....bravo to you
2007-12-26 06:40:13 · answer #5 · answered by jazzy l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to get over yourself! its nice that you worked hard through high school and you've been rewarded with a great job but did you ever stop to think that maybe your sisters just have a special bond with each other. it seems to me that as they grew older they became friends with each other instead of just sisters and they simply have more in common!
2007-12-26 06:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Myabe when you guys were growing up they saw that you got the most attention from guys,parents,more althletic etc.
2007-12-26 06:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by Mark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pay any attention to them. It's not your fault that they refuse to motivate themselves and resort to whining about it.
2007-12-26 06:34:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋