The child(17) just wakes up - and is told go to two different stores to run two errands for his father. The child unenthusiastically agrees and gets ready to go. The father then blows up and starts cursing and yelling because he does not like the way the child answers. He then leaves to do them himself. The mother thinks the father is right to be angry because he did not like the way the child answers. Who is at fault?
2007-12-26 04:01:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Both, the child for being disrepectful and the father for getting so uptight about a small issue.
2007-12-26 04:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Both. The child is still a child and is expected to do stuff with and for the family.
The dad for not letting the child wake up fully and get ready to go.
Thing is... my teens have sassed and I have told them go back to bed I am going to do it myself and I then take away driving rights and phones until they have an attitude change. When I have asked my kids to do something like that, I am usually arms deep in family laundry, dishes or some other task that is benefits us all. It shouldn't kill them to get off their butt and do something too....
Be thankful the dad only yelled.
ETA
Why does everyone throw down the cuss card. I have heard teens in school. I know it isnt very respectful for people to do it, but if you can sit through a movie and hear it, why is it you can't handle being called a lazy a**? Not saying that is what was said, but there are so many high horses out there and I was wondering how people got up there.
2007-12-26 04:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both
First the child should not disrespect their parents.
Second the father for not getting off of his lazy A*$ and going to the store himself in the first place...
Third, Mom shouldn't take sides on this one since both were at fault....
I am a father and if I need something at the store, I go and get it myself. Unless the child is going there and I ask them if they wouldn't mind. I never tell my kids to go to the do something that I am able to do....
2007-12-26 04:08:41 · answer #3 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-09 05:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there may be some friction there and they need to talk out their feelings. Is the Dad under a lot of pressure? I the kid stressed about school or other things? The kid maybe just not wanting to get up and help out - Respecting goes both ways but before you can have respect you have have understanding. They need to talk!!!! The father was not asking too much of the son and the son needs to be willing to help without grumbling!
2007-12-26 04:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by Janet H 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The father shouldn't yell and curse at their child regardless, especially over something so petty. Sounds like he has some anger issues. The kid is 17 years old and answered unenthusiactically... big deal. Tell the kid to do it anyway, no need to get angry over it.
2007-12-26 04:10:03 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The father is wrong for cursing and yelling. That is one way to turn people off to what you want them to do. He should have said something like "you're rude and disrespectful. I'll go myself and you'd better hope I don't get in a car wreck while I'm gone"
2007-12-26 04:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by Librawriter 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This sounds like my life right there, haa.
It sounds like the father's fault. He shouldn't have exploded because the kid just woke up and disagrees, yet still gets ready to go. It may also be the kid's, but from what you wrote, he/she really didn't really disrespect, he/she didn't agree and still gets ready to go.
2007-12-26 04:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by Country Lovin' 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
both, the child for being disrespectful and the dad for letting a kid push his buttons to the point that he blew up out of proportion to the offense.
It's time for a come to Jesus meeting with the kid on how to be respectful to his parents and for dad to check his blood pressure meds for the right dosage.
2007-12-26 04:07:07 · answer #9 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋