Family - November 2007

Okay here is my situation, I really don’t get along with my family especially my mother sister, and brother my dad he is okay. Anyways I know the holidays are coming but I feel realy uncomfortable going since me and my mom just had a recent argument I have work hard all my life and have two kids. She always puts me down and complains that im no good. She talks really bad about me to my bro and sist. She tells them lies that I talk about them and then they don’t like me when I never talk bad about them I just make comments like oh when is my sis starting school and she takes it and than tells her that I said she was no good. She always cold with me and everytime I ask her to watch my kids she gives me a million excuses before she says yes. Sometimes she says she is too busy and cant. Meanwile my bro wont be that busy and ask her to watch his son and she never says no not to anyone else for that matter. I have always spend the holidays with them but I don’t know if I want to this time I know their family but they always judge me and do not treat me comfortably in the environment I feel really uncomfortable like if I get up to go to the bathroom they will go ahead and whisper things about me the reason is ay this is because I have caughten them before. My mom is so sneaky and I fi don’t spend holidays with her this year she will be so upset but not because I did not go but because she will take it against her and she is selfish and think that she doesn’t deserve that when in reality she has always been so unfair and cold with me always. When I open up I told her with an open heart how I felt and she was just like your so wrong.. And now since she has not called me its only been acouple of days but she use to call everyday.. And than she called me the last time to ask me if my bf was going to cook something for thanksgiving I told her yes and than she was like ok bye very rude!

2007-11-16 06:49:36 · 8 answers · asked by sweetie 2

she had her problems at the time but i havent seen her for years and i feel kind of guilty. i know she wants to have contact with me but i am holding this grudge. how do i move on and put the past behind me? i feel like i am punishing her by not speaking. i have had counselling but it doesnt erase the anger i feel

2007-11-16 06:42:06 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

my daughter in law and i don't see eye to eye on alot of stuff i have one grandaughter from my oldest son im use to getting some sort of resept from my family but she hit the hurt spot this time she has stepped over the line i choose to give her money for her birthday to buy what she wants but her mom is telling her what to spend it on and telling me my grandaughter wants to go shopping with her friends not her or or grandma now i realize she is thirteen now and she loves to do things with her friends which is totaly fine with me but her mother said she doesn't want ot shop with me mind you we just did some a week ago i promised her the rest of the money but i wanted to be part of that now if im wrong shame on me but i feel if im giveing her the money for her gift i should be able to be part of her picking out what she wants last year i gave her 100 dollars which she didn;t get until her father got his vacation momey in the summer that will not happen again i hope im makeing since i

2007-11-16 06:23:40 · 10 answers · asked by janet m 2

first my parent wanted me to pass all my cxc subjects and i did
when i played cricket i was the vice captain and the las tyear of school we won all matches except for one we won the nationals trophy
i met my boyfriend and i told them before anyone could tell them about him
i am not perfect but i don't do half the rebellious things they claim i do
i am 18 working paying to go to school and doing an IT Diploma

advice anybody

2007-11-16 05:34:38 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

They talk at family get togethers but no more! I wish they could both stop being so stubborn and talk. It is more my mom's stubborness than my uncle's. What do I do? I desperately want them to talk!

2007-11-16 05:17:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My grand father has ancestral property and he has 5 sons and 2 daughters. Can he make a will of ancestral property to everybody or any one he likes. Please reply. If made can any one challenge.

2007-11-16 05:03:12 · 6 answers · asked by sree h 1

If I was in a situation for the past year where I didn't really believe the same hogwash that was fed to me as a child, but my family (including my husband does) should I express this to them. I feel like some of the things that they believe (and I used to) are completely idiotic and childish and full of fiction and fantasy. My inlaws are completely judgemental (they call it devout). Do I just keep it to myself? I feel an obligation to allow my child to come to her own decisions and I will not allow anyone to tell her that their way is the only right way.

2007-11-16 04:21:53 · 34 answers · asked by s7e28w81 5

I'm responsible, I stay home alone sometimes, I run errands, I walk to and from school, I make dinners, i help with loads around the house...but I dont have any freedom! Its not that my parents don't trust me...its just theyve never given me a chance to me free.

Like...I can't go shopping on my own/with friends, I cant walk around much, I can't even stay home longer than 3 hours without someone to look over me. It drives me crazy, because all my friends can shop on their own and stuff! UGH!

What can I do/say to them?

P.S...I'm 12 & 3/4, live in rural area.

2007-11-16 03:49:43 · 7 answers · asked by Sarah <3 2

My wife & I have been together for 4 years. Married for 3. 9 yr old stepson & a 2 yr old daughter with her. She doesnt work except for saleing jewelry on ebay. I work a full time job & am very active in our church. It seems like all I do is work. I come home, the children are never fed, the house is a disaster & all she has done is sit on Ebay looking at baby clothes for our daughter & spends money we dont have. She stays up till around 1 to 3 in the morning on the computer & does nothing. I help with stepsons school work. She only does laundry when its absolutely neccesary, my stepson usually has to wear dirty uniforms to school. The children are on no schedule whatsoever. My mother helps as much as she can but the relationship between her & my wife is becoming more & more strained. I'm not a mothersboy but am close to my parents. My mother has had enough of her negligence & so have I. When I try to talk to my wife, she's overly defensive and begins pointing the finger. Please Help!

2007-11-16 03:37:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-16 02:52:25 · 12 answers · asked by andie 3

or in which age , we should leave our childish behvyr??

I know it's a silly ques.. :) ... but still i want to know the answer' ...

2007-11-16 02:31:33 · 9 answers · asked by ViX 2

What would say is good bedtime if you are 13 years old, & you are home shcooled. Also would you let her get a cell phone, a comoputer, and a TV in her room?

2007-11-16 02:27:16 · 21 answers · asked by ♥BABi GiRL♥ 2

For instance: The mother of a grown son and daughter tells aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. that the daughter has closed her out of town restaurant. The sister has also told everyone. But it is kept a secret from the brother. The brothers' info is not kept secret from anyone. But the sister and mother keep the brother in the dark on many occassions. I would like to know the underlying psychology of this secretism and the words to describe it.

2007-11-16 02:18:14 · 1 answers · asked by WhyWhyWhy 2

Ok, I have a brother who's ALWAYS in trouble... He's been in/out of jail. He's violent and can't manage his temper... He's been given multiple chances to change himself and he's just gotten worse... My parents tried multiple times to take him in/help him but, it never ends well and he ends up getting kicked out everytime... His latest/greatest he's got a 7 month old son he doesn't see or do anything for- I've given the mother most of my baby things to help.. Although, I do NOT know her. Is it wrong for me to NOT want my brother around my family/children. He stopped by for a "visit" while I was at work and my husband sent him on his way...? I know my parents are going to get upset but I just don't want him around.. I feel that when he is around he's "casing the joint" and waiting to steal our things. Which he's done before...

2007-11-16 02:13:59 · 14 answers · asked by pebblespro 7

Who has power to decide in NYS over a deceased family members burial/funeral if they left no will but verbally expressed their wishes? If the family members can't agree who gets to make the decision? Do the son/daughter of deceased or the brother/sister of deceaded get to make the decision?

2007-11-16 01:45:36 · 4 answers · asked by Princess Yoda 2

2007-11-16 01:28:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you expect to sit in the family part if i ever get married, you will be sitting at the back, if you do ever get a place to sit.

2007-11-16 01:26:19 · 8 answers · asked by Bumumble 3

my dad has hit on me since i was for what should i do to to get help

2007-11-16 01:22:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-16 00:20:10 · 16 answers · asked by sda_boy 1

I took a week vacation off work and was looking forward to getting some much needed work done around my house! (Like painting and getting ready to put in hardwood floors, etc) Wellll - my husband decided to take the time off too and he is just going to be in the way! He thinks I should entertain him all the time and doesn't want to "waste" vacation time. How do I get him to either go back to work or leave me to my household chores without making him angry?

2007-11-15 23:01:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

if yes, did it work out?

2007-11-15 23:00:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother died when I was 15 and my father has never really been a part of my life, has anyone ever heard of finding surrogate parents at this age? and if so, where would one find such a thing?

2007-11-15 22:26:25 · 5 answers · asked by hthr_1974 4

2007-11-15 22:20:39 · 21 answers · asked by Monika 1

2007-11-15 21:23:38 · 3 answers · asked by khaled w 1

14. My mother never believed me when I told her what he did to me, she never believed me when this other man she had living with us was sexually touching me down there everyday. I had to live with my step dad since I was 4 until I was 18. Well I dont hate my ex step-dad anymore, its hard to explain but eventhough I am traumatized about that, somehow I was able to live with him and try to get along with him, because my mom was never going to believe me and he was never going to leave the house. I dont know whats wrong with me, deep inside I care for him because he was like a father to me eventhough he did that. I guess I just got used to men molesting me that I didnt care because my mom didnt care. I brought up the subject last night, and my mom still tells me that she doesnt believe me, because I dont hate my ex step-dad and now she is telling me that she thinks that I liked her ex-husband!! Eventhough my mom has always put men infront of her children I still love her to death

2007-11-15 20:58:50 · 20 answers · asked by rorybellows 4

I've come here asking this because I've taken online career test which say i should be a pipe layer which I would hate. These are my interest: MUSIC is number one in my life. I know how to set up any string instrument, and like to play (guitar and piano mostly) a variety of instruments and would say that I am good at it. I also have experience recording and mixing music for local bands, and helping get their demos on the radio. second, I love random history facts! I know so many unusual things about history from the eastern and western world that I never have anyone to talk about it to, because no one I know shares the same intreset as me. I love education television and learning. I also am a very quick learner. I hate working in factories, and I dont like jobs that dont involve interaction with people or music. I am getting ready to go to college or tech. school and was wondering if you'd have any ideas of a career i may be interested in! Thank you!

2007-11-15 19:38:35 · 10 answers · asked by Me 1

this friday I have to attend the wake of a good friend of my brother. I knew him and his family farely well and would this be a regular situation I would be fine, but I'm nervous because he commited suicide, I never knew anybody who's done that and it scares me. it may seem silly to you but I'm seriously lost. How do I act? do I say I'm sorry for your loss? do I shake there hand, hug them? do I bring a mass card? I'm so angry at him! my steps of grieving have gone straight to anger and I just wish I could yell at him. I can't believe he would do this to his family. I don't think I can hide my emotions of anger. maybe I just shouldn't go.

2007-11-15 17:53:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am talking about loving your brother, sister, mother, father, and especially your children , no matter what they have done in the past and what they will do in the future????????

2007-11-15 17:46:08 · 9 answers · asked by hppy2b 2

They told me I wasn't allowed to lay down on the couch with my boyfriend or cover up with a blanket, but I still did. So now they won't let me hang out with him anymore because they don't think I am mature enough to make the right decision. So what should I do to get their trust back to let me hang out with him again? I have already told them that I was sorry and what I did was wrong. I've even been doing my chores when they tell me to. What else do I need to do?

2007-11-15 16:58:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My children is suffering chicken pox for the past 3 days.My hubby has called up my inlaws and inform them that about the incident.They came over to pass those leafs to rub on my children body so that wont be so itchy.One things that make me really angry and heart pain is that my in law never even want to come in to my house to see my children coz they says that they pantang due to my sis in law (which is my hubby sis)which is staying with them is pregnant.
I really cant undertstand why?My children is also their granchildren.Is it wrong if they just come in to see and look at my children condition.i never ask them to hug kiss or anything.I really feel so hurt that i told my hubby bout the incident.My hubby just can keep quiet and stand by their side due to the reason that his sis is pregnant.
I found that all this is bullshit.For me it really depends on individual.Chicken pox is not really a serious decease.
Why are they like this?

2007-11-15 16:57:56 · 11 answers · asked by jessica 1