They told me I wasn't allowed to lay down on the couch with my boyfriend or cover up with a blanket, but I still did. So now they won't let me hang out with him anymore because they don't think I am mature enough to make the right decision. So what should I do to get their trust back to let me hang out with him again? I have already told them that I was sorry and what I did was wrong. I've even been doing my chores when they tell me to. What else do I need to do?
2007-11-15 16:58:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Forget about your parents, think about what you did, don't think about whether it's morally wrong or right, think about how you felt about it, and the reason why you wanted to do that with your boyfriend, and whether you believe you have reach that stage of cuddling up with yor boyfriend. Then when your family is rationalized, everyone is having a good day, just start talking about it with your parents, tell them why you believe you have the right to cuddle and be a couch potato with your boyfriend and what you had in mind and reassure them that you know what to do and what not to do. Your parents are scared of what your doing and are probably not comfortable with the idea of you having a boyfriend still. Slow things down with your boyfriend, so that you can give your parents enough time to recover from this incident and be prepared enough to handle you having a boyfriend.
2007-11-15 17:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by A. Gates 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much you need to do what they tell you.
It's not that you are a bad person, but you may not be mature enough to handle these things. You need to be able to live without a boyfriend, and to behave with self-control when you have one.
I suspect you want him back at least partly for the physical aspect. That's why they are placing controls on you; you didn't control yourself. Don't try to go back to a situation that got you in trouble already.
Wait and show you are responsible, and in time you will have more chances.
Trust is hard to gain and easy to lose. This will take a long time.
2007-11-16 02:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at least you acknowledge what you did wrong. That's a start. When we loose someones trust it will take time to gain it back. Don't pressure your parents. Continue to do what they say and maybe at some point you and your boyfriend can sit down and talk to your parents and face the music together. If your boyfriend really cares for you then he will be willing to do this with you. If not then you know that he doesn't respect you or your parents. If your parents put rules honey, follow them. Remember that they love you as much as you love them. If they didn't care then they would let you run around.
2007-11-16 01:19:29 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They will continue to not trust your decision making regarding boys until you can get your hormones under control. It's not about doing what they say... It's about acting like a lady and not a tramp.
They're trying to teach you to be a lady and respect yourself even when pressured by boys... Listen to them.
2007-11-16 01:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you were my daughter, you'd be grounded for six months on top of that. They're not going to trust you for a while. (Not because they're mean, but because you broke that trust.)
2007-11-16 01:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by Little Red Hen 2.0 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are right. You were too involved emotionally and aren't ready for that. WAIT till your wedding night. Do not be alone with any man. you will be mared.
2007-11-16 01:26:44 · answer #6 · answered by K in Him 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a job, on payday, pay for as many of your folks' bills as you can. Start a savings account. Keep apologizing. Eventually, they'll forget it.
2007-11-16 01:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
wat they said.. and just kno that they can't stay mad at u forever
2007-11-16 01:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋