I'm responsible, I stay home alone sometimes, I run errands, I walk to and from school, I make dinners, i help with loads around the house...but I dont have any freedom! Its not that my parents don't trust me...its just theyve never given me a chance to me free.
Like...I can't go shopping on my own/with friends, I cant walk around much, I can't even stay home longer than 3 hours without someone to look over me. It drives me crazy, because all my friends can shop on their own and stuff! UGH!
What can I do/say to them?
P.S...I'm 12 & 3/4, live in rural area.
2007-11-16 03:49:43 · 7 answers · asked by Sarah <3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thanks to all those who answered so far. And to all those who are just making random comments about me being young and blah blah...you seriously need to gain some maturity yourselves. :/.
2007-11-16 06:08:17 · update #1
Sit them down and explain how you feel. Tell them how responsible you are - doing chores, getting good grades etc. Suggest a trip to the mall with a friend or two and your mom and ask if you can have an hour on your own if you meet your mom at a certain spot when the hour is over. Do this a few times and your parents will see that you are good to your word and you can then ask for more freedom. You can also ask if you can go to the movies with a group if parents drop off and pick up. That is how my kids started. I felt a little better knowing they were confined to the theatre.
2007-11-16 03:57:21 · answer #1 · answered by Mom of 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you still give your age as "& 3/4", you aren't old enough to have too much freedom. I grew up in a rural area too and I know it's tough to do much on your own because you have to drive to anywhere you would like to go. That also means that your parents can't just drop you off somewhere and quickly retrieve you if need be.....this probably makes them nervous about letting you stay someplace, like a mall, on your own. If your friends have freedoms that you don't, try to understand that your parents are doing all they can to keep you safe until you reach an age that they feel you are ready to fly solo.
2007-11-16 04:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by GamB 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At your age you shouldn't have much more freedom than that. Its no comfort to you but the people around you are growing up to fast. At that age everyone wants to be independent but you don't realize how dangerous the world is and how little you really know about life. Be thankful for your parents because they love you enough to do the right thing by you even if its not popular. When you get older around 15 or 16 and everything is still the same then you will have something to complain about but even then your parents shouldn't let you do whatever you want or go wherever you want.
2007-11-16 03:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by T A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because you are 12... and who cares about the 3/4..
come on.. have you watched the "how to catch a predator"? This rural area is where they thrive...
Your parents love you, and care for you, and want you in their lives until they are dead..
It has nothing to do with how old you are, or how responsible you are.. They are probably worried about other people.. and what they might do to you..
Maybe try inviting friends over to your place to hang out with.. Let your parents get to know your friends. And then maybe they will allow you to go out in groups.. That is way more safe than alone.
Good luck..
2007-11-16 04:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im sorry but you are only 13 years old, soon to be anyways. thats life you have to realize that your parents are doing the best they can. im 19 and barely had freedom to stay out past 11. when i was your age i played outside still. Be a kid...dont get caught up in an adult world yet. and always remember to be honset with your parents...check in...tell them exaclty where you are going, who you will be with, when you are coming home. these are the simple answers parent want to here. good luck
2007-11-16 04:20:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be grateful that you have parents that love you very much and care about you and your safety more than anything. You're still a delicate little girl to them. Give it another 2-3 years under the protection of your parents "wings" and I'm sure they'll start to give you more and more freedom as you demonstrate more responsibility.
In the meantime, be glad knowing that your parents love you.
2007-11-16 04:04:28 · answer #6 · answered by Tripod T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them if you can schedule an outing with you and your friends as an example. Make sure to check in with them and show responsibility by telling them details when you return. It may take a while, but they will slowly learn to trust and let you have more independence. Otherwise, nothing good happens till college anyway!
2007-11-16 04:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by melar11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋