Family - September 2007

My husbands belonged to a poor family. After getting the job he has done a lot for his family like sisters marriage, made house, and a lot more expensive things. His brother’s only intension is to extract money form him. After getting married we moved to USA.He continued to sending money .Just because of this we fight most of the time. Then I took his best friend’s help. He then convinced my hobby to send a fixed amount of money for his family. His family got too much furious seeing this changing in my husband. But he is very kindhearted and always thinks +vely whatever his family says to him. They always put pressure on him to send money to make more houses, car etc.His family members started talking rubbish against my family and he believes that. If I try to defend my family then it becomes worse. His family members say me lots of bad things but never argue. I respect them always. But at least my husband should understand me what they are. Please suggest how to convince him.

2007-09-13 23:10:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

we have been together 2 years - hes been seperated nearly 4,, Ex not in a hurry although with someone who is also seperated and not in a hurry to divorce but i still dont feel like a 'proper ' partner!! I have printed all papers from local court website and have found out costs shall i pass them to him,, We are very happy together but fed up with this 'oh he can pay, she can pay slack attitude- LETS MOVE ON!Dont they want to divorce? does he love me as much as her? they had 3 kids? although now in different countries.Last time he mentioned it she accused me of pushing issue.Although he denied this it was true... HELP?

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23 hours ago
I not too bothered at mo about marrying but its gets to me that he has a wife although i feel like his wife!!

2007-09-13 22:43:38 · 10 answers · asked by Australia 1

my girlfriend family have a bad reputation in society.They are three sister and two brother my girlfrnd is the younger sister my beloved have two boyfrnd in the age of 14 to 18 age because her both sister doing the same thing but after my contact with her what i feel she is completely changed she do everything i said and i love her from last 4yrs in this period she donot do anything which hurts me with lots of ups and downs in our relationship our love continues,my mother too much hate there family and not even my frnd support me to marry her but she loves me too much she said that whatever she done in past because she was not aware and not teached by anyone to dont do this what can i do whether i leave her or accept her she also promise that after our marraige she didnot have any relation with there family what can i do pls pls pls help me.........

2007-09-13 22:18:15 · 7 answers · asked by djgoutam78 1

In sixth grade, I tried to commit suicide. I just felt dirty inside, I felt like if I wasn't like the rest of my peers. When I was referred to a psychologist, I told her that only my aunt had molested me (which is true, as in my messed up family, my aunt, two of my uncles, and a male cousin of mine took turns molesting me.) I never really came about telling my parents the whole story. This all happened years ago, and I thought I had left it all behind. Well now, I am far away from home. My little brother is currently the age I was when I was first molested. I've had various nightmares about him and about his security. I just can't imagine having him going through the hell I went through. I am ready to spill everything to my parents. However, I do not which is the right way to put it in words. I'm thousands of miles away from home, and having the nervous breakdown I had tonight, am not willing to have my little brother at risk of the atrocities I was when I was his age.What should I do?

2007-09-13 21:09:32 · 14 answers · asked by gerog lono 1

My family and boyfriend were invited to a wedding. Mom had too much wine to drink and came on to my boyfriend, putting her hand down his pants so he got hard, sat on his lap and said I love you Ryan, I love you.
I got him away. But next thing I go away and she has got him drunk, buying him drinks. I go home and find them in bed together. Both naked, her on top of him. I don't drink. He remembers and says he is sorry. Mom has no recollection of it and says I am making it up. She often does and says things and has no recollection of it the next day.She has stopped drinking now but I have her granddaughter on the way and want her to be a good role model for her. What can I do? I am 30. My boyfriend is 32 and she is 65.

2007-09-13 21:05:15 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was raised very diffrent from my brother( whome is younger than me). I was taught to be responsible and independent, but my brother has always gotten away with murder. Dont get me wrong, I prefer being the responsible one, but, this time its gone too far and I need to speak up. The way my mom raises my brother, whome is now 19, is actaully crippling him in life.

She does everything for him, she even quit his job for him! I dont want to critisize her parenting, since I love her dearly and she is extremely sensitive. How do I tell her that she's doing the wrong thing, without hurting her feelings, or is it not my place to say??

2007-09-13 20:52:24 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

When i first heard about missing maddie, i was 100% sure it was the parents, to me they seemed quite calm and hardly the parents of an abducted child, far from it.
As things have progressed with the case im not that 100% sure they did actually do it.
I think they are being framed by the portugeese law, something is not right, i could be wrong and so could thousands of people. The news are saying they think it was an accident with sleeping tablets so why would blood be found, now her diary has leeked to the press saying that her kids exhaust her, well im a parent of 2 young children and they exhaust me but im not going to kill them because im tired of them, i think they are at fault for leaving their kids on their own in a strange place, but im not sure about what has happened now.
I think there has been so much hype about it and its gone world wide, the portugeese police are at fault and are panicking about something.
Tell me your thoughts.

2007-09-13 20:37:36 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a step mom to 3 children. A girl age 12 and two boys (10 and 8.) Biological mom disappeared 2 1/2 years ago after my husband took custody of them. For 2 years she did not even see them. She finally picked up again legally in January of this year although (as the last 2 1/2 years have been) she has financially abandoned them. My husband and I still help mom out by helping with transportation for visits since she lives 3 hours away. She sees them one weekend every 2 weeks. The rest of the time I am their primary care taker since their Dad works full time. Usually things are great. We all have a great relationship and have lots of fun together. I have 2 sons of my own as well and we have really all come together. But their biological mom calls 2 or 3 times a week and for the rest of the night my step kids ignore me and act angry with me. This woman is horribly jealous of me and is intent on knocking me down to them. What would you do when this starts? Anything? Or nothing?

2007-09-13 18:43:09 · 4 answers · asked by just me 4

Ok so I am 28 with two children. I have not had an actual boyfriend since I was 15. (if that is what you want to call it) But here is my deal I am completely in love with my son's father. He is the best man that I have ever known but he only see's me as a good friend. We weren't dating or anything when I got pregnate with my son it was well pretty much a one night stand but in the past 3 years we have come to know each other very well. His family refers to me as his wife and I get along with them very well. He doesn't correct anyone when they call me his wife or girlfriend but he doesn't act like a boyfriend or anything with me. I also have a 13 year old daughter who adores him and want him as a father and he treats her like he is her father. Help I don't know what to do? Put my life on hold until he bucks up and wants to be with me or move on and say sorry you had your chance.

2007-09-13 18:02:22 · 3 answers · asked by monkey 2

my mom has been acting funny lately..now shes always watching me and stuff...i have this website where i customize sneakers and sell them(im a sneaker freak)..she never knew about this and i dont know how she found out but im guessing it was my sister.now she says i cant do it anymore..i dont know why shes acting like this though..im getting good money for doing this..my sneakers sell for at least $200 a pair and its not like i go around splurging..i put most of my money away so i dont see what the problem is..and i pay for the supplies myself now and i even buy my clothes and some clothes for my brothers and my sister so thats less money that she has to spend...should i just keep makeing sneakers since im getting good money off of doing it??

2007-09-13 17:46:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

shes been acting weird lately...now she always thinks im hiding something when all i wanna do is come home and go to sleep....she thinks im drug dealing or something when i go outside to hang out with friends or when i go to the store when all im really doing is skateboarding or buying paint stuff...plus she doesnt even let me do what i want..all i want to do is customize sneakers and she says no when i pay for the supplies and the sneakers myself..then she gets mad yells at me for no reason.. and now my father wont even talk to me becuz of all the lies she is making up about me drug dealing and being apart of a gang...she acts fine to my brothers and my sister...she only acts this way to me and i just wanna know what her problem is.. what should i do??

2007-09-13 16:58:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am so mad! I left town for a business trip and made it quite clear to my 17 yr old daughter, no parties, no boys in the house while I'm gone. I came home today to find my home completely destroyed and many items stolen. Oh yeah, big BIG party. The carpets are filthy, the floors are stained with pen ink, there are 3 holes that were punched in my walls, broken chairs, my brand new dining table scratched up. I accidently left my wedding set at home because I had put lotion on my hands and was in a rush and it was stolen. My daughter says she has no idea who did it. I'm ready to call the police and report this incident but have no names. She is grounded until my property shows up. Any parents ever have a problem like this with their kids? Is it best to just put them on lockdown until they're old enough to act responsibly? I cant even believe this happened. She's usually such a good kid.

2007-09-13 16:50:57 · 9 answers · asked by ♥Xty♥ 5

So i know that everywhere is different according to pay... but I am desperatly in need of a job! What are some part time jobs that are fun, and good pay! i used to work at a Brusters ice cream store but i moved west and there aren't any brusters out here... i was thinking about a job at COldstones, but it doesn't pay well at ALL!
Please help, my parents are getting mad because i don't have a job, and heck, i really rather not be broke any longer!

So , please if you have a part time job at a clothing store, resturant, fast food place and it is good pay and not to horribly unbareable, let me know! THANKS!

2007-09-13 16:41:04 · 2 answers · asked by Seriously though... 1

I am 20 and have had my own house since I was 18. I have not asked my parents for money since I turned 18. I haven't even spoken to my mother in 6 months (she and my father are divorced). Before Christmas 2006, my dad had a stroke and had to have surgery. He couldn't work for a while after that, and as a result lost his house. He came to stay with me in January of 2007. He has not had a job since the stroke. I am paying all his bills as well as my own and buying all his food and perscriptions. He has no income. He is 56, so it's not like he can take just any job. He had worked as a drywall installer since he was 20, and I understand he can't do that anymore. The problem is that I make less than $8 per hour at my job and things are hard money-wise. I love my dad, but I can;t do this anymore. I have 3 sisters and a brother, who all work. They are helping very little to none. I feel like that because my dad has 5 kids, I shouldn't be the only one to have to pay up. I love my dad, though.

2007-09-13 16:07:26 · 9 answers · asked by MysteryKiss 1

She should be minimum 5'2" ,slim,smart and good looking.
My DOB: 31st Oct 1985
So ....I know Its fun but let's enjoy it...

2007-09-13 16:05:46 · 10 answers · asked by Rip Van Winkle 2

I am a college student working on my Physician Assistant degree and planning on go to medical school(become a doctor). My parents have ask me to get marry over the past 2 years in which it was not successful. This time they actually force me to get marry before I finished my physician assistant degree. Personally, I would like to get marry after I finished my medical school, but they completely disagree....because they believe when I am 28, there would be no more good girls around.....tell me what should I do....

2007-09-13 16:03:10 · 9 answers · asked by jaccchen23 2

2007-09-13 15:56:31 · 6 answers · asked by women82 2

Ok here's the deal my Uncle D is dying with cancer ok hes just riddled with it ok hes in stage 4 he willed his cedar chest he made in HS to me I'm not the only niece but I've always been close to him he say's I'm the kid he's never had I'm 15 he has my mom she's the one taking care of him she's power of attorney for medical and then the other and executor of his estate and my aunt wanted the cedar chest for my cousin I know theirs gonna be a fight but how I do I prevent my cousin and Aunt S from fighting with me? I don't wanna fight but I feel since we have been there from stage 1 and done everything yes everything docs chemo rad I deserve it but I know mom wanted it too but it was given to me I don't know what was given to my bros for some reason I was always the apple of his eye even if I wasn't gonna get sh*t I would still help take care of him he's always been good to me and everything he's really been my dad my dad cheated multiple times and has exiled me told me i ruined his life

2007-09-13 15:53:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Here's a little background: A woman in her 50s who is losing her apartment, her husband was deported, and has two teenagers, who just get into trouble, wants to know the birthdays of her family (mom, dad, brother, and sisters, who are all over 40). What kind of paperwork can she possibly fill out with their information? (Not happening to me, but to a close friend.)

2007-09-13 15:53:16 · 3 answers · asked by ThatshowIroll! 2

My father is no more and I am with my mother. She is now 60 years old and still very strong. Sometimes, even stronger than me. Sure I will take care of her and I think, even my kids would love to do this thing because she has been a very good mother and grandmother. I have no plans of turning her over to an institution when she is already too old and weak. What about you?

2007-09-13 15:41:25 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Don't flag me down because i really need people's advice.

Yesterday, when I came home at like 3am because of a party, I found out that me and my big brother was home alone because my parents were at another party. When I went to my room, minding my own business, my brother just came in on me and started kissing me! It was so disgusting because he was doing it on my lips (he's 1 yr older than me, so he's 19)! I tried pushing him away but then he spends his time lifting weights so he shoved me to my bed and started grinding himself on me, sitll kissing me and stripping me.

The next thing I knew, he was doing it. His face was red so I think he was drunk and also because he didn't say one word.

What do I do? My parents are going to China for a funeral of some friend of theirs that I dunno.

2007-09-13 15:36:35 · 8 answers · asked by Sweetie 1

Can you give me a website for belly dancing classes in minneapolis minnesota, or around that area? the only thing is that it has to be a class for 13-15 year olds, or around those ages. thanx!

2007-09-13 15:19:31 · 4 answers · asked by smartiechick16 2

I just recently graduated High School and not off to college just yet. We used to be close but now it seems that my dad is ignoring me. I cant get my drivers license because I cant get my 60 hours behind the wheel. The reason for it is because he makes up excuses to not go with me. And he blames me. I have been rejected many times when looking for a job but I can always count on him to nag me and call me a loser. I come to him for advice now and then but "conveniently" he has to leave at that moment to do something for my sister. He spends more time with my sister in a day then he does with me in two weeks. I know I should grow up but I feel bad when my dad only talks to me when he wants chores done and to nag me. The guy does almost nothing for me nowadays, no presents on christmas or birthdays, no lifts to anywhere (even if im willing to drive). He hasn't hugged more or said that he cares about me in almost a year. Have I really lost my dad?

2007-09-13 15:15:50 · 3 answers · asked by leafshadow 2

Good luck

2007-09-13 14:51:31 · 5 answers · asked by vault 5

My mother has not spoken to me in three weeks because I am allowing my father (her ex husband) to be involved in my newborns life. After three weeks of nasty voicemails she called me today and stated she wanted her name off of my birth certificate when I stated I didnt think that was possiable she went on a rampage. She stated she was going to burn my house down and let my son and I burn to death so my son and I can see what hell feels like. I'm 21 and my sons 11 weeks. The only thing I have done to her is talk to my father and she is now threatning to kill my son and I. I'm terrified of her. I wanted to file a restraining order against her but my husband thought that may add fuel to the fire. I'm so confused and scared for my sons and my safety. Any advice? Thanks!

2007-09-13 14:47:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok my older sister is a few years older then me. She is amost 17 and she always asks me all these personal qustions wich I rather not metion, but you probably know what I am talking about. I tell her to stop and I'm not talking about it and she keeps pushing. It makes me very uncomterbul (sp?) and I mean VERY! And she knows that I tell her to to please recpect my privacy but she won' t listen. What should I do? Somtimes I feel so violated I start crying.

I am about 4 years younger if that helps

2007-09-13 14:30:21 · 6 answers · asked by ? 5

Ok i no i am askin a lot of questions u do not have to answer. Anyway my little sister is 12 and i already said i have full custody. I am 24 and pregnant. my mom died 4 years ago. and my dad is in jail 4 killin her. But getting back to the subject. My lil sis is starting to like boys and she has a bf. She is goin to the movies with him alone and i alredy told her she can kiss him. shoot i had my first kiss when i was 10. Again she is only 12, what r some boundaries i should set for her?

2007-09-13 14:11:33 · 9 answers · asked by Madison h 1

yesterday day she told everybody I knew that I still wet the bed ( which I don't! ) and it spread around school. If I give her an atomic wedgie infront of everyone she'll feel what its like to be embarrassed infront of a bunch of people also.

2007-09-13 14:09:03 · 5 answers · asked by driftking56@verizon.net 1

i hang out with famiy is that cool yes or no

2007-09-13 13:55:57 · 6 answers · asked by sean a 1

I'm 16, I have a 6pm curfew, and MY MOM is constantly mad at me. I get straight As, Ive taken 6 APs, I'm in National Honor Society and I'm President of a 200 member club - I haven't done ANYTHING wrong. and she's so controlling.

This morning, I woke up and she started SCREAMING at me about her friend's daughter about getting a 2360/2400 on her SAT. and I was going out the same day, until she CUT my curfew into HALF and now I have to come back by 3 PM. I'm So MAD - it's a three day weekend and I CANT GO OUT for long and I haven't gone out in 2 months. I feel like i'm in jail..

Whenever I try to rebel, it makes things worse.

what do i do!!!!!!!

2007-09-13 13:54:53 · 2 answers · asked by roseanne t 1