In sixth grade, I tried to commit suicide. I just felt dirty inside, I felt like if I wasn't like the rest of my peers. When I was referred to a psychologist, I told her that only my aunt had molested me (which is true, as in my messed up family, my aunt, two of my uncles, and a male cousin of mine took turns molesting me.) I never really came about telling my parents the whole story. This all happened years ago, and I thought I had left it all behind. Well now, I am far away from home. My little brother is currently the age I was when I was first molested. I've had various nightmares about him and about his security. I just can't imagine having him going through the hell I went through. I am ready to spill everything to my parents. However, I do not which is the right way to put it in words. I'm thousands of miles away from home, and having the nervous breakdown I had tonight, am not willing to have my little brother at risk of the atrocities I was when I was his age.What should I do?
2007-09-13 21:09:32 · 14 answers · asked by gerog lono 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
! You might feel relief if you tell your parents.. so they can protect your brother~ There is be no easy way to go about telling your parents.. be truthful about your fear for your bro! I hope your getting all the support you need!~ sending you a hug
2007-09-13 21:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love, get on the phone; and you need to phone 2 sets of people: The police and your parents.
There's no easy way to say this sort of things.
You have put up with enougth on your own to keep thinking on how to do the best thing.
Right now, what you need to do, is just the right thing, the way doesn't come into the equation.
it's also a matter of time.
If you can't go home and can't face them, then do it on the phone.
Your concern right now is your little brother. Don't delay telling the truth any longer.
It doesn't matter that they might struggle to come to terms with it. And the molesters will deny it of course, but at least, something will be done to protect your young brother.
Since suspicions will grow and the trust will have gone.
You've been very brave so far.
You didn't have to try and protect your parents: It's THEIR role to protect you.
HOWEVER, what you know CAN SAVE your brother, so do not hesitate one more minute, it doesn't matter what the time is, DO IT NOW. Get on that phone and spill the beans. Start with the police. Do it babe and after that, try the school psychologist again to have the help you need, the support you should have had.
Hopefully those Horrible people will have what's coming to them.
Good luck darling. Hugs.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
2007-09-13 21:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly I completely understand what you went through as a child having had a simmilar experiance myself! You really need to tell your parents everything that happened, be it over the phone or even in a letter whatever you find easiest. Not only could it help your little brother but it will also help you to deal with your own demons. It will be one of the most difficult things you've ever had to do but I promise you you will feel so much better once you have done it.
My thoughts are with you and your little brother.
x
2007-09-13 21:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It very important what you have said about your brother, this is not just about you anymore and you must be strong for your little brothers sake.
Sometime when we find it difficult to say things the right way the most simples of ways is usually sufficient. Tel them what happened and spare no energy in explaining the dangers that you feel your brother might be exposed to.
I would recommend a face to face confrontation with your parents but if you feel the danger is to pressing tel them to keep your brother away and give them enough to convince them and get together afterwards when you can see them to tel them the WHOLE truth in detail when you see them again.
People like that should be locked up and the key be thrown away. Make sure they will never do it again to somebody else.
2007-09-13 21:35:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're having trouble finding the words to say, then write them down. Send them a letter, E mail, whatever! Your story needs to be told, and your uncles and aunt needs to be far away from your little brother and any other kids they come in contact with. This was not your fault, nor is it your little brothers. Speak up, the sooner you do, the better you will feel.
2007-09-13 21:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Tikled_Ivory 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You come right out and tell your parents what you had to go through, and you also confront the sick people that molested you. Turn them in, so someone else will not have to go through what you did. You also need to have help in knowing that you are not at fault for this happening. You must do this before you do something wrong.
2007-09-13 21:55:58 · answer #6 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents might have a problem in believing you. You may need outside professional help to intervene. Set up a meeting with your parents and/or friend who you have confided in for support, or a professional counselor who can let your parents know. Do it for your little brother and save him as soon as possible. Let them know you are "in fear" for your brother, this is why you are bringing it up now after all these years.
2007-09-13 22:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make your heart barve and tell all the truth to your parents if you cant tell directly to your parents get help of some your nearest person,if you didnt tell all those event to your parents then the gultier will do more they thought they are free and they will do more mistake,so get help of your nearst and solve this problem.
2007-09-13 21:31:18 · answer #8 · answered by AAWASH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any1 would be proud to know that a person is coming out to say this kind of stuff - it must have been truly awful to experience what u had during those times. the events that took place still haunt u, as manifested in ur story where u still get those nightmares about the past. i believe it would be best if u open the whole thing to ur mom, gradually. For me, letting out is the best thing.... it would open past wounds, yes, but it might also serve to be the healing process to ur dilemna. if it was ur mom who referred u to a psychologist before to correct any faulty behavior, it is a sign that ur mom cares for u a lot. any momma would want their kids to be well and nobody would ever want her or his kids to be abused by anyone, much so, by people who are believed to take care of these kids, like ur relatives. moreover, u have a brother. whom u care so much about and love so much. isn't it good to feel that he is in good hands? we wouldn't want him to be hurt by other people or by the same people, would we?......people who do nasty things like those should be corrected. but they will never be corrected if we keep mum about them, right? during moments of agony and distress, of joy and laughter, there is one most important person to turn to. God. He makes us face our problems and make light about them. It would take a while to let the pain go away, but with God beside us, we will learn to overcome it and God will also help us to forgive and pray for these people who have caused us much. Pray to God for guidance, let your faith in Him shine through to guide you in whatever decision you make. Remember that God wants the best for all of us. and remember, too, that mothers love their kids as the Holy Mother loves us all. Praying helps us in every way. God bless and may the power of God shine through you!
2007-09-13 22:27:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Wat r u waiting for just make a call and tell your parents everything if really u want to save your borther I know that it is queit difficult for you to tell them. But if you keep thinking to take the right chance or words so I think it will be very late for your little borther just go and save him.
2007-09-13 21:22:20 · answer #10 · answered by Kanishka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋