I just recently graduated High School and not off to college just yet. We used to be close but now it seems that my dad is ignoring me. I cant get my drivers license because I cant get my 60 hours behind the wheel. The reason for it is because he makes up excuses to not go with me. And he blames me. I have been rejected many times when looking for a job but I can always count on him to nag me and call me a loser. I come to him for advice now and then but "conveniently" he has to leave at that moment to do something for my sister. He spends more time with my sister in a day then he does with me in two weeks. I know I should grow up but I feel bad when my dad only talks to me when he wants chores done and to nag me. The guy does almost nothing for me nowadays, no presents on christmas or birthdays, no lifts to anywhere (even if im willing to drive). He hasn't hugged more or said that he cares about me in almost a year. Have I really lost my dad?
2007-09-13 15:15:50 · 3 answers · asked by leafshadow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
By the by:
he doesnt do drugs or alcohol. So it has nothing to do with them.
2007-09-13 15:16:45 · update #1
did it ever occured to you that you should ask him why hes acting this way? ya know people post questions on why their famliy memeber acts this way towards them but they never go and ask that person. a father and son relationship is very special, perfectly normal to want that back, but hes missiong out on your life, pretty soon before he know it youll be on your own, and wont need him as much like you do now. just ask him, see what kind of excuse he has for ignoring you
2007-09-13 15:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about you go and hug him? Tell him "dad, I love you and I really feel ignored, can we talk about it?" Ask him if you've done something that you don't realize. If he starts nagging, respectfully ask if he could talk to you so you understand instead of nagging.
Or write him a letter and put it in a thinking of you or missing you card. Try to do a few things around the house on a regular basis before you are asked to do them. Offer to cut the grass.
At least if you make this effort and he still doesn't come around you will know you tried.
2007-09-13 16:28:24 · answer #2 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just trying to protect you from something. Homo maybe? See, it must've clicked in his head by now that you are not a little kid anymore and he wants you to become a man. Not remain a kid. You said you graduated high school, right? My dad also changed. He didn't give me hugs or show much love to me after I reached a certain age. He still does show love but not like as much as he used to. I'm thinking maybe your dad is doing something similar to what my dad is doing to me and my brother. He's trying to make you grow up to be a man, not a sissy. Even though he doesn't show that he loves you, he probably still does.
2007-09-14 03:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by Light/Dark Thinker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋