I am 20 and have had my own house since I was 18. I have not asked my parents for money since I turned 18. I haven't even spoken to my mother in 6 months (she and my father are divorced). Before Christmas 2006, my dad had a stroke and had to have surgery. He couldn't work for a while after that, and as a result lost his house. He came to stay with me in January of 2007. He has not had a job since the stroke. I am paying all his bills as well as my own and buying all his food and perscriptions. He has no income. He is 56, so it's not like he can take just any job. He had worked as a drywall installer since he was 20, and I understand he can't do that anymore. The problem is that I make less than $8 per hour at my job and things are hard money-wise. I love my dad, but I can;t do this anymore. I have 3 sisters and a brother, who all work. They are helping very little to none. I feel like that because my dad has 5 kids, I shouldn't be the only one to have to pay up. I love my dad, though.
2007-09-13 16:07:26 · 9 answers · asked by MysteryKiss 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your father is in titled to disability,and with this insurance.
2007-09-13 16:17:20 · answer #1 · answered by nhuvi j 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to call your siblings together and lay it on the line!
They can share his expenses while he stays with you or you will each take a month and dad will switch off who he stays with. Whoever has him that month pays his food and medecine.
Your dad can also apply for disability social security if his doctor has deemed him unfit for his occupation. If he hasn't been deemed unfit to work, then dad needs to get out there and find some kind of work that brings in a few bucks.
Bravo to you for shouldering all of this responsibility at such a young age. Just don't let all the parties involved use your love for your dad to make you the scapegoat for his care.
2007-09-13 16:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on being the person most parents hope for in their children. You are a very gracious and respectful young woman.
Can your dad apply for disability? After all, he is ill and cannot work. Please have him check into his social security benefits that include health insurance and disability. What about the job where he worked? They must have some sort of benefits plan active for their employees.
I understand that sometimes workers are independent contractors and are responsible for their own medical and so on. But each state has some sort of help for disabled workers.
If you want, please email me as I know someone who may know how to help both of you. You will not have to give me personal information. I can give you links to SSI pages that answer questions on benefits.
Also, there is welfare assistance available to him.
To survive and take care of someone else on $8 per hour is amazing. Truly amazing.
Best wishes to you!
2007-09-13 16:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your situation. I agree that your other siblings should be helping out with your father but other than asking them there is nothing you can do to change it. You need to look at the picture in a long term sense. Is your father ever going to get well enough to live alone? Or are you planing on taking care of him for the rest of your life? He is only 56 you could be looking at at a 30 year commitment here.
2007-09-13 16:15:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dad needs to file for disability and start getting social security or welfare money coming in. Ask him to get off his kiester and do this just to get some money coming in the door.
Do NOT cover any of his medical bills or prescriptions.
Call your siblings and explain the situation. See if one of them can take Dad off your hands as you are in over your head. At least get them to start pitching in with funding and helping Dad.
If this fails, you need to contact the state and ask for public assistance and hopefully put him into a nursing facility that will look after him until he is up and around... and hopefully train him in some other line of work.
2007-09-13 18:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first thing is contact your other family members and say you cant afford to help as much as you have been doing and ask for their help.
Contact the social security department and ask what aid your Dad can get , he may be eligable for disability.
Contact your county welfare department and ask what aid you or your Dad can get . Even food stamps would help.
Contact the drug company, see if they can provide medicines for free or at reduced cost. I found a few links for drugs , they are listed below. I dont know the first one . If anyone wants a fee to find free medications just hang up on them , its a scam .
2007-09-13 16:32:06 · answer #6 · answered by mark 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be the only one to be helping your dad. There may be other factors you didn't mention, such as your siblings having children? You'll need to have a sit-down and work out a schedule. Since your dad lost his house, he will be the one to have to go from home to home. He should qualify for SS disability since he has worked all his life. It won't be easy for any of you, but it can work, and you should ALL be willing to help your dad!
2007-09-13 16:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by onceisenoughilearnedmylesson 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same exact same situation,except my dad is 78 and just had his leg amputated above the knee.
My niece and nephew have moved in with me and they both help financially.My two brothers do not help at all.
One of my brothers comes once a week for about 10 minutes but don't bother to stay for a while so I can go shopping for my dad.
I know it's tough but hang in there.
I guarantee you that the day your dad passes away,they will be the first one's there to see what your dad has left them ! !
2007-09-13 16:30:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
see if you can get help from your local government or at the very most see if they can aid you temporarily.
2007-09-13 16:16:30 · answer #9 · answered by shadow_watt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋