My mother has not spoken to me in three weeks because I am allowing my father (her ex husband) to be involved in my newborns life. After three weeks of nasty voicemails she called me today and stated she wanted her name off of my birth certificate when I stated I didnt think that was possiable she went on a rampage. She stated she was going to burn my house down and let my son and I burn to death so my son and I can see what hell feels like. I'm 21 and my sons 11 weeks. The only thing I have done to her is talk to my father and she is now threatning to kill my son and I. I'm terrified of her. I wanted to file a restraining order against her but my husband thought that may add fuel to the fire. I'm so confused and scared for my sons and my safety. Any advice? Thanks!
2007-09-13 14:47:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have a family now and you must at all costs protect themnot your mother. i would call the police and get your mother some help. Because that is the best thing you could do for her is get her help. Don't endager your family any more.
2007-09-13 14:54:05 · answer #1 · answered by Summer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sound like you mother has some serious mental issues! If I was in your shoes I would take any voice mails she has left you to the police ASAP and at least let them hear what is going on and see if they think you should proceed with any restrain order. The next time she calls record your conversation if you can and take that to the police if you need to. The woman is obviously out of control and you need to protect your family. Talk to your father about this also and get his opinion on what to do. I'm sure he would be able to help you and willing to do anything to protect his little girl and her baby boy. Its what dads do! Your husband of all people should understand why you want to protect yourself. You may be adding fuel to her fire but at least something can be done if she does anything to harm you or your son. I wouldn't let her make you feel bad about letting your father see his grandson. She may not like this man any more but he is still your father and your sons grandfather. Don't sit and wait for her to say or do the next stupid thing because then it might be to late. Do what your motherly instinct tells you to do!
2007-09-13 23:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by ~Amanda~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW..... your mom has some issues she needs to take care of. She thought that your dad was good enough to be around you when you were a baby and now she wants to take that same person away from you child because of what? Jealousy? Your husband should let you get the restraining order if for nothing else to make you feel safer. I hope that your mother would never consider harming you or your son. Now is the time to protect your child so do what you feel you have to and if it bother her maybe she should have thought about that before she started running her mouth.
2007-09-14 00:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move and don't tell her where you are or give her your phone number. If you feel the need to talk to her, call her from a payphone.
Definitely report the threats to the police. They can tell you if you have enough proof to get a restraining order, but like the other answer stated, it's not worth the paper it's written on if she is determined to hurt you. But at least the threats will be documented if she does try something.
She sounds like she is definitely in need of help. If you have family members that could intervene or try to convince her to get counselling I would call them. But you shouldn't be the one to tell her right now.
Congratulations on your new baby, and best of luck resolving this situation.
2007-09-13 23:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any Mother who behaves that way is crazy. I know you think you'll add fuel to the fire, but the fires a raging! I would talk to your Mother about her behavior and tell her that you plan to contact the authorities if she doesn't get help or get over her temper tantrum. And if she doesn't....Call the authorities. I'm sorry for you. Good luck.
2007-09-13 21:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
REPORT her of the threats and all you've said to us here.
I know there is suppossed to be a bond of Motherhood and daughters, but this is too far.
Protect your family AT ALL COSTS, even if it fuels the fire.
Hubby can't protect you always...and Restraining order is not worth the paper it's written on...period
2007-09-13 21:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by THEMrsMinLa&Momof2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the above answers are correct. I would add that you try to record these phone calls so that authorities can hear them, And if she denies saying those things, you will have the recordings. Rig up your answering machine or get one that will record the entire conversation.
2007-09-13 22:28:48 · answer #7 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the voice mail recordings down to the police station and ask their opinion and find out what resources are available to help her.
It sounds like your mom is in severe need of psychiatric evaluation. She sounds like she is mentally off the hook... how far off the hook?... you don't know as yet. But she sure sounds violent.
2007-09-14 01:39:09 · answer #8 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some experience in this field; sounds like your mother is an addict. It's up to you to draw the line till she come to her senses. It's a shame but it will get worse if you let it. Good luck!
2007-09-13 22:10:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hun...what a psycho! go to the prosecutors office and tell him or her exactly what you have told us. document everything and do whatever it takes to keep you and your baby safe. maybe between you and more family members you can have her committed. good luck hun!!
edit: i don't think you should talk to her or be anywhere around her. she is mentally impaired. avoid all contact with her. just go straight to the authorities. don't put yourself in a position where she could harm you or your baby!
2007-09-13 21:58:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋