Family - September 2007

2007-09-14 08:40:36 · 65 answers · asked by dave c 3

my friends mom is abused by her hubby. i have never seen this happen but beleive my friend completely. I dont know if anyone knows about this, and i know that my friend and her siblings could become victoms of this abuse. My sister says i should just but out but i dont knoww if my friend told me this information because she WANTED me to tell someone about this. I dopnt know what i should do. Please Help me.

2007-09-14 08:39:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister-in-law does this thing where if my kid(s) do something hers has to do it to & better. My sons aren't very sporty but her boys like to play sports & do moto-cross, I won't let them race because I know how dangerous the sport is (just this summer a kid was almost killed during a moto-cross race), she claims her boys know how to ride so something like that won't happen.Our kids go to a inner-city school (in her words theres nothing but druggies & losers in that school & hers go to a school that is in a better neighborhood but they are in the same school district. We bought a new car she went out & bought a new car too. We where trying for a baby she got pregnant too. We get something new she has to go get something simalar only better. I just put my daughter into ballet so now she wants her daughter to be in dance too but something more up-beat & not as boring as ballet. all this doesn't bother me & I know that she (her household) isn't any better mine it just gets annoying.

2007-09-14 08:32:07 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Nowadays I find many Grandmas and Grandpas are very affectionate with the Grandchildren. When compare to parents , these children prefer to approach the grand parents. I wonder what is the reason behind that, and I am expecting a good answer from the grandchildrens.

2007-09-14 08:13:01 · 30 answers · asked by Raghavendra R 5

My daughter's dad see her once a week and doesn't pay child support and does not buy her anything. My parents and grand-parents help me with her.Also hes seeing another women with a 2 week old baby that he says inn't his but I talkes care of her like she is. If he can't take care of 1 what makes her think he can raise her child too.Should I let him come and bring her and the baby too or should I just tell him know cuz he don't take care of her? Any advice on deadbeat dads?

2007-09-14 07:33:54 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

have you ever sent a postcard in? i love reading other peoples secrets. they are so amazing and i love how i relate to so many. it makes me feel like i really am not the only one on this planet sometimes.

2007-09-14 07:31:55 · 4 answers · asked by girl 1

my parents dont speak english and i have to be the one to go with them to the doctor, to translate, call people for them, read mail, and i hate that. I'm only 14 and i feel like i never had a childhood. I always have to go with them to places afterschool even though i have TONS of hw cause i take Ap classes. This has been going on for a few years now. And the thing is, if they take my older sister, (by 2 years) or make her call, she doesnt handle stuff like i do, she screws everything up. I dont want to sound mean but its true. Everytime i tell myself to not go, i feel bad cause there is no one else to translate for them. They both work long hours so they dont have time to take classes. Can someone help me deal with this please?? the stress is killing me!

2007-09-14 07:30:40 · 24 answers · asked by ::<3:: 1

father is emotionally and mentally abusive person, has refused them emotiional acceptance when they tdont act as he feels they should lots of manipulation of them and lies to them

2007-09-14 07:23:52 · 1 answers · asked by Sara G 1

When get inspiration I start writing or drawing. My dad has no problem with me writing but when I draw he criticizes me horribly. I always draw clothes because thats how I express myself, but my dad thinks I'm just obsessed with fashion and thats all i think about. He keeps telling me to concentrate on studying as if that is all I should be doing. But I'm an A student and I'm a cheerleader, but my dad still thinks I'm just wasting my life. No matter how many times I try to make him understand he still says my my drawings are completely and utterly useless and it hurts because my drawings are my thoughts and feelings. I feel like he insults me when he insults my drawings. What should I do?

2007-09-14 07:10:04 · 7 answers · asked by Kashmira 1

How do you prove it...

2007-09-14 06:57:19 · 1 answers · asked by 2sexxxy32 4

my dad left me right after i got out of the hospital with a brain injury and went to my sisters because she had things, and he wouldn't pay rent,i just turned 18 and have to finish high school in the same town he left me in and find a job but i have like no home I'm staying with friends 7 miles way from school for now but i don't know what to do I'm so ready to kill him but thats wrong to even say letalone do. so do i just try as hard as i can to finish school and move as far away as possible or what or say f*&% it all ? and just so you know he has also left me in another state so i missed a year of school so i had to find a way back so i could try to finish. but this is so hard

2007-09-14 06:45:44 · 3 answers · asked by keket 3

The death happened about four weeks ago. The marriage was abusive for years and there were lots of warning signs that something like this might happen. It's hard for me to understand why the girl still acts like nothing has happened, even though her entire life has been turned upside down.

2007-09-14 06:42:20 · 60 answers · asked by hbangelicat 2

My grandfather is 94, has many problems due to age, of course. He's nausea all the time and is not eating. There is slim to nothing of a chance that he will get better and he will live longer. My grandmother has been saying for months that she keeps hoping that he'll get better when it's been obvious to me and my family that he isn't going to imporove. My grandmother seem to be in denia, if you ask me. They've been married for 63 years and she doesn't know what to do without him. She feels she has nothing to live for (she hasn't talked about suicide) without her husband, not even for me, her closest relative and she doesn't want to do anything, including be involved with something with other senior citizens. She won't face the fact that he isn't going to live long which is making her worst, I think. She isn't willing to do anything out of the house, away from my grandfather, afraid he'll fall or something. There's not much to do. What can I do about my grandmother?

2007-09-14 06:33:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

It was annunced this week that every 30 seconds someone in the world commits suicide, one of the main reasons given was family problems! So is your family still a reliable source of help when you really need it ? what do you think ? How great is your family to you, could you live without your family, can/could you do without them ?

2007-09-14 06:21:57 · 3 answers · asked by Latin Techie 7

Me and my mom talked last Friday about Christmas and birthday gifts for my 2 kids. I told her what I was planning on getting them (not even thinking twice about it). She went out on Sunday and bought everything she knew I was planning on getting. Now she is giving them as gifts from her to my kids. It really ticks me off! Last Christmas my aunt sent us each some cash and sent it to my mom's house for her to give to us. My mom stole our money (which was $100each) and spent it on herself. Giving us cheap dollar store gifts and claimed they were from my aunt. I totally caught her but never confronted her about it, trying to let it go. I have not talked to her in 3 days now. Would you be mad?

2007-09-14 06:05:25 · 7 answers · asked by honeybear 5

2007-09-14 05:22:59 · 5 answers · asked by metanoia 3

My dad and were never very close but now that my parents are divoreced it seems like hes trying to buy me off! All i want is to get to know my 'real' dad, cause he's shown so many maked faces in my life! before they got divorced he was detached, and now he's changed on me again! why does he feel he has to try so hard? all i need is to get to know my dad, i don't think i can handle another change! How do i know which mask is the real thing?? cause he's changed them so often!

2007-09-14 05:13:55 · 6 answers · asked by LovingGOD 3

Since his teen years we've had a conflicting relationship. He's a good young adult, is an engineer, respected, has a good job. But now he broke my trust really bad, let me really down. I expected he would act in a way, but he did something else I didn't expect and didn't approve of. I must say he had the right to act as he did, and can't say he broke his word, because he never said he would do as I'd like him to. He never compromised, it's true. But I expected him to act as I thought he should, I trusted that, and he broke my trust. He doesn't think he did anything wrong, actually he thinks he did what he should do and doesn't accept I say he broke my trust, because he never promised he would do what I wanted.
But I'm his father, and he didn't act as I expected. In my place, wouldn't you be kinda angry, hurt and frustrated? Should I write him off?

2007-09-14 05:07:39 · 8 answers · asked by Marcos 1

for me to report my dad, last night he went into a really scary angry fit. he started saying he disowned me and that i needed to respect him then he threw something very hard at my head (i believe it was an 8 oz soda bottle) and it's left a not too large but extremely painful bump on my head. should i show it to someone? i tried to call 1800-4-a-child last night but my parents disconnected the phone to stop me from doing it. my guidance couselor knows somewhat that my dad hits me, but i'm too scared to tell her anything further. is there anyway, i could anoynymously report this or tell my teacher or something. i'm only 12 so i dont know if they'll believe me.
he was angry because i was talking with a fake accent and he said it would stick.

2007-09-14 05:02:01 · 18 answers · asked by Liquid♥Onyx 4

Mother in law, Daughter in Law on. Dr. Phil seemed to be leaning toward the Daughter in Law as the bully. But I felt the mother in law was a drama queen, example, "She ripped the heart right out of my body", "ruined my life", and she seemed to be able to cry at the drop of a hat. I am with the daughter in law, she has a right to protect her marriage, her family, and her children by insisting the Mother in law get help. I felt this woman needed to let go. Some mothers try to hang onto their sons by any means.

2007-09-14 04:32:47 · 4 answers · asked by Anne2 7

2007-09-14 04:32:22 · 19 answers · asked by crystalf 3

I think there is something wrong with my younger brother (He's 11). Whenever something small is wrong(like he doesn't get the remote when I'm watching TV), he will go into a psychopath like tantrum. During the tantrum, he will scream and yell and sometimes even hit people. This includes my grandma and parents. This happens almost every day. Also, pretty much can't hit him back. Because if i do, he will try to "kill" me. That means when he hits me, he'll aim for the neck and stomach. How do i get this stop for good? Also, he will not eat anything except frozen baked chicken breast dinners and lunchables. His eating habits are really unhealthy. How do i get this to stop?

2007-09-14 04:16:59 · 15 answers · asked by someone 2

I had a checking account that I closed because I could not get my old insurance company to stop taking my payment out of it. I opened a new account with the same bank and ordered checks identical to the ones I had - I shredded the old checks except I forgot to shred one box of them. I had to write a check to someone and had to get a new book - I was in a hurry and picked up a book of checks from the OLD account. Therefore I wrote a bad check. When the guy got it back from his bank he came to my house and my dad was outside. I live beside my parents. He told my dad what happened and they came over to my house and I walked outside only to be bombarded by yelling cussing and screaming. I never even got a chance to say boo. The man wanted his money NOW. He threatened me with things that are illegal and my dad laughed about it. The next morning as soon as the bank opened I got the money out and made good on the check. My parents will not acknowledge me now in any way. What do I do?

2007-09-14 04:13:19 · 15 answers · asked by Love being a Mom 2

Can anybody tell me why a few generations ago having illegitimate children was frowned upon compared to living common law and having illegitimate children today. What were the socio-economic, cultural, religious, political implications of being an illegitimate child or having illegitimate children. Is it better to be legitimate, or does it really matter.

2007-09-14 03:57:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

To make a long story short, my very horrible mother (her daughter) talked my grandma into not coming to my wedding. She didn't call to cancel or anything. I have been really upset with her because my grandma has been known to never miss a wedding. She will even cut a vacation short just to attend a wedding to someone she doesn't even know. It's been 2 years now and at every holiday she sends cards saying stuff like "I miss you, call me." So should I give her another chance and call her or let her go? Thanks for hearing my sob story!

2007-09-14 03:36:30 · 12 answers · asked by The Not-Know It All 3

I am 25 female living with parents because of financial difficulties. I have never been rebellious or caused problems and lived on ym own for 5 years previously. I have been recently this summer going out more and now have a boyfirend. They have given me a curfew and start calling my phone 30 min after that time if I am not home. I always tell them where I am, same place, and who I am with, same person. Theyare not religious but dont want me to spend the night or stay out past midnight. Am I being unresponsible to think these rules are a little strict? How should i deal with this.

2007-09-14 03:04:22 · 33 answers · asked by m 1

I decided not to return to my ex-husband along with my 15 year old daughter. She is very unhappy with me about the decision.

My ex-husband lives in another state and wanted us to reunite as a family. My daughter lived with him from age 10 until 15.

My daughter thought that the right decision would have been to reunite as a family.

I did not go because my ex-husband is controlling and manipulative.

Now, my daughter says that her face is becoming sad and withdrawn like my parents since we are living with them temporarily. She is not used to and does not like being around them.

My ex-husband refuses to talk to me because he is accusing me of stealing some jewelry.

Will my daughter ever understand my decision? I feel that I should have pleased her and reversed my decision. My ex does not want that now though.

2007-09-14 02:09:31 · 6 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

Happy Birthday to the best sister in the world.!!!I love you and appreciate that I have a sister like you...that I have been able to share all my fears with ,and all my success....I love you this September 14th with all my heart.

2007-09-14 02:04:35 · 8 answers · asked by ღOMGღ 7

I was in a relationship for a short amount of time but I've known him for 5 years prior. We hooked up and I became pregnant so we decided to make it work as a family. We had our problems as most relationships do but I didn't know how big the problem was till we moved in together. He got the aptartment and I paid the small bills. He was there for every dr. appointment and all the false labors. The baby came and I had a had a shower after, he didn't come because we were having arguments at the time. I was upset and moved out for 2 weeks. We talked I came back to only move back with my parents again 4 months later. Reason being he was controling. He didn't want me to hang out with my friends, he didn't want me to have company at "OUR" apartment not even his mom came over to see our son. We both use to hang out and do things together and after the baby it all stopped. I don't know what happened. He doesn't help me with out son no money no nothing. I've tried to talk to him about the babies needs he wanted things done his way or no way. He has made ideal threats to who he would call to get custody of our son. It made me real stressed out because I couldn't believe he was acting this way. Infact he has even denied our son to his current girlfriend. So I did what any smart woman would do I went to child support. Whether or not it was wrong I had to I have to take care of my son. Over the months his mom came around and statred to get our son on weekly or every other weekend basis. Im not sure if he goes to see him but the way our son acts as if he's there but not interacting with him as a father should with his son. We don't talk, we don't text there is no communication at all. I don't want him back I want him to be a father to his son, but I will not beg for him to be in his life.

2007-09-14 01:19:07 · 11 answers · asked by Lady "T" 1

My parents began by taking care of my daughter while I worked helping reduce childcare costs. I slowly started noticing things like she started calling my dad...Daddy instead of poppy and my mom was mommy. I asked them to correct her and I did. I had weaned her from the bottle and potty trained her for preschool only to learn that while staying with them she was given a bottle and placed back in a diaper as soon as I left. Then once we moved away they began begging and nagging for me to let her stay over on the weekends to be taken to church on Sundays. Not wanting to discourage religion, I allowed it. Now 13, I found out that they have encouraged her to runaway, which she did and that she has been staying with them for over 1 wk and that they went to an attorney almost 1 yr ago to try to get custody of her, which they were told since she hasn't been abused in either form there really is no reason to pursue. Should grandparents be allowed to brainwash grandchildren against parents?

2007-09-13 23:27:09 · 16 answers · asked by Blazem25 2