My dad and were never very close but now that my parents are divoreced it seems like hes trying to buy me off! All i want is to get to know my 'real' dad, cause he's shown so many maked faces in my life! before they got divorced he was detached, and now he's changed on me again! why does he feel he has to try so hard? all i need is to get to know my dad, i don't think i can handle another change! How do i know which mask is the real thing?? cause he's changed them so often!
2007-09-14 05:13:55 · 6 answers · asked by LovingGOD 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Give him the opportunity to be your Dad.
If the relationship between your Mom and Dad was rocky enough to cause the divorce he was probably caught up in that emotional battle.
Men try so hard to be strong. They are Men and should be strong. When in reality on the emotional level they are like lost kittens. Even though they will never admit it.
Talk to him. Express your feelings, your worries and concerns. He will listen and maybe he will open up and express himself to you :)
2007-09-14 05:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dionannan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what kind of relationship would he like to have with you. And tell him that you are very confused because of all the stuff you & mom were going through you seemed to change. Sometimes you were upset, at time distant, other times I felt like I couldn't even talk with you.
Tell him you aren't sure how you should act or be around him & your confused, & you just want your dad.
2007-09-14 12:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels like he has to make up for lost time.
He was probably "detached" before the divorce, because he was too distracted with his troubles that he didn't pay attention to his family. Now that the marriage is over, he probably realizes that he was too neglectful of his children, and now he feels like he has to make up for it by being too attentive.
2007-09-14 12:20:05 · answer #3 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he thinks that if he doesnt, you'll love your mum more than you love him. believe me, i had the same problem when my parents got divorced. Just tell him how you feel, even if it's hard. Then, maybe he'll understand. Good luck!
2007-09-14 12:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may not know who he is either. ask him to tell his story. try to listen without judging. the story you get may not be complete or conclusive, but it might be a good way to open the door.
2007-09-14 12:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by metanoia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him what you said in your question.
2007-09-14 12:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋