When get inspiration I start writing or drawing. My dad has no problem with me writing but when I draw he criticizes me horribly. I always draw clothes because thats how I express myself, but my dad thinks I'm just obsessed with fashion and thats all i think about. He keeps telling me to concentrate on studying as if that is all I should be doing. But I'm an A student and I'm a cheerleader, but my dad still thinks I'm just wasting my life. No matter how many times I try to make him understand he still says my my drawings are completely and utterly useless and it hurts because my drawings are my thoughts and feelings. I feel like he insults me when he insults my drawings. What should I do?
2007-09-14 07:10:04 · 7 answers · asked by Kashmira 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
parents just want kids to succeed & not waste there time drawing but unknown to him its your passion. i think you should make him understand where your going with this if he still doesn't get it then become successful & prove him wrong.
2007-09-14 07:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by crazykiaray23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing I can tell you to do is just let your dad know how you feel! Tell him that instead of crushing your dreams he should be pushing you forward to achieve them! Let him know that the reason you're always drawing clothes isn't because you're obsessed or that it's a waste of time, but that maybe you want to become the best fashion designer ever! There's nothing wrong with liking clothes & fashion, I mean you're a girl, it's what we're supposed to be thinking about! I think drawing clothes all the time is better than drawing boys & being obsessed with sex all the time, don't ya think?! Oh! & BTW I really like your name, Kashmira, because my name is Kashmere!!
2007-09-14 07:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by Kash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a form of jealousy too. He may have wanted the abilty to draw and see it in you but will not acknowledge it for the reason. My suggestion is to sit down with him and ask him point blank why he does this. If you feel you cannot do that a letter always works.
2007-09-14 07:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by bobbo342 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Share your feeligns with your dad regarding his criticism of your drawings....when we share our feelings no one can argue with them because they are how we feel and not what we think. Being a parent, I know that I seem to push my daughter harder than I should at times, it is simply because I want the best for her, so I am not sure that Dad is trying to hurt you just pushing you to be all you can be. Try sharing your feelings with him and then listen to his. Hope it works out for you.
2007-09-14 07:28:49 · answer #4 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to your dad that your love for drawing and art , will not take away from your other studies, you could be a famous designer some day, i wish that i could draw.invite him to go to an art gallery with you , and get him interested in your life.he should be delighted that you are so focused. keep up the good work.
2007-09-14 07:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by champagne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he critisizes you, get up say "I'm sorry that my straight A's isn't enough to prove to you that I am a good student, and I'm sorry that you think of me as a lazy bum when I draw. I wish I could please you." And walk away.
2007-09-14 07:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont show him your drawings
2007-09-14 07:17:08 · answer #7 · answered by Velvet Rain Drops 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋