for me to report my dad, last night he went into a really scary angry fit. he started saying he disowned me and that i needed to respect him then he threw something very hard at my head (i believe it was an 8 oz soda bottle) and it's left a not too large but extremely painful bump on my head. should i show it to someone? i tried to call 1800-4-a-child last night but my parents disconnected the phone to stop me from doing it. my guidance couselor knows somewhat that my dad hits me, but i'm too scared to tell her anything further. is there anyway, i could anoynymously report this or tell my teacher or something. i'm only 12 so i dont know if they'll believe me.
he was angry because i was talking with a fake accent and he said it would stick.
2007-09-14 05:02:01 · 18 answers · asked by Liquid♥Onyx 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well i was thinking of maybe getting a restraining order, though i don't know who i could stay with, i kind of want to stay with my mom but she told me that they'll take me away, i dont want to be left with a stranger. most of the info online is for teen dating violence, not parents. i'm thinking of telling my school nurse?
2007-09-14 08:07:10 · update #1
There is no excuse for this. You need to tell someone, & both of you get some counsling.
2007-09-14 05:08:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a favorite teacher you can talk to?
How about a relative, grandparents?
If none of these work go to the school counselor, or principle. Does your school have a social worker there?
You can also go to the police department or call the police & talk to an officer & let them know what is going on. But PLEASE DO SOMETHING before he really hurts you bad or ends up killing you. You are only 12 you have so much life let to live & it doesn't have to be lived with an abusive parent, I have been there & for 8 years of my life I was abused by my dad. I never did or said anything & I really wished I had then maybe I would not have had to live all those years with the continuous abuse.
2007-09-14 12:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HITTING IS ABUSE EVEN IF YOU DID SOMETHING WRONG. It is NEVER okay for a child to be hit like that. It does not matter what you did, that treatment is unacceptable. For any of these morons who think it is okay to throw bottles at your children if they are misbehaving, then you will be ending up in jail for abuse too. DO NOT LISTEN TO THESE PEOPLE. ABUSE IS NEVER OKAY. Honey, you really need to tell someone. I know it's hard and it's really scary, but the only way things will change is if you do something about it. It may seem small now, but these types of things always get worse as time goes on. They also committed a crime by stopping you from reporting it. If you have a camera, take a picture of the bump, in case you need to show it to someone after the bump is gone. Also write down any time he harms you and take pictures of any bruises or marks as well. The more proof you have, the easier it will be for you. If your guidance counselor hasn't done anything about it yet, then you need to talk to someone else. Preferably a professional. I'm going to put some links on here for people that can help you. If worse comes to worse, you can always try to call your local child services, but I think it might be safer for you if we get as much done on the computer as possible. That way you can try and log on at school, so you don't have to worry about getting caught. Please be very careful. I'm going to give you my e-mail address, so that you can e-mail me directly if you need any more help. kymned@sbcglobal.net If you let me know what state you are in, I can give you the official numbers for that state. I don't need to know what city, just the state. Send it to my e-mail, do not post it on here, we don't want a lot of people knowing your personal info like that.
here are the links.
http://www.childhelp.org/
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/child_abuse_physical_emotional_sexual_neglect.htm
2007-09-14 12:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by Kym 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open your the phone book and find Child Services. It should be near the front of the book. Ask your guidance counselor or your teacher to help support you and be there when you call. As a 12 year old, it will help to have an adult present. You said you are too scared to tell your counselor anything further, but if you want help, you need to muster the courage. I know you can do it. Best of luck.
2007-09-14 12:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by dogsaysmoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie. I am so sorry you have to go through this. Hold your head up high and walk into your guidance counselors office and explain what happened. They will help you through it. You are a good person and you deserve to be treated with respect. You need to fight for yourself. It would probably be good for your entire family if your dad is caught so he can get the help he needs. I know you can do it girl. I believe in you.
2007-09-14 12:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by aintlifegrand 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think talking to your guidance counselor is the starting point. Be honest with him/her reguarding the situation and the details surrounding it. If there is repeated abuse, (and by abuse I mean abuse, not your parents hitting you for doing something wrong... that is not abuse) you need to get help. To me this just sounds like a one time family issue that got a little out of hand and somewhat exagerated. Either way talking to your guidance counselor will help you.
2007-09-14 12:11:24 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea198320 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are scared to say anything to someone but your parent has no right to touch you or hurt you in any way. You need to talk to someone and soon the people at the school are there to protect you and rather they believe you or not they have to do something about it because it is the law. Do something soon because until you do nothing will change.
2007-09-14 20:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this sounds like your in danger if your not a troll and telling the truth. Parents unfortunately fall into the trap of thinking that the best way to get their children to listen is by making them afraid. When i reality they only make them more numb. If your scared don't take a chance.
2007-09-14 12:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by crymeariver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Girls and Boys Town National Hotline, 1-800-448-3000
This is 24hr crisis hotline call when they are sleeping call soon!!! call the cops tell ur coundser before he hurts you worse
2007-09-14 20:59:00 · answer #9 · answered by submissive wife and proud of it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can report him...do you have a close family member you could confide in ?? a grandmother or aunt? you need an adult to intervene on your behalf...you need to be removed from an abusive atmosphere....it is never alright to throw a bottle at a kids head NEVER please get an adult to help you
that was the most ridiculous reason i ever heard for hitting a kid....good luck ps if you tell your teacher she or he have to report it
2007-09-14 12:09:08 · answer #10 · answered by jazzy l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that would be legally, a case of domestic abuse.. domestic abuse doesn't have to be physicall.. can be verbal or mental or even emotional.. try calling 911 next time that happens, if they stop you from dialing 911, that's another crime. (stopping or attempting to stop someone from dialing 911 is a crime.
and then you have two choices.. file a report (which he won't know about) or charge him (will know about).. which one will do something? him being charged.
2007-09-14 12:07:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋