Me and my mom talked last Friday about Christmas and birthday gifts for my 2 kids. I told her what I was planning on getting them (not even thinking twice about it). She went out on Sunday and bought everything she knew I was planning on getting. Now she is giving them as gifts from her to my kids. It really ticks me off! Last Christmas my aunt sent us each some cash and sent it to my mom's house for her to give to us. My mom stole our money (which was $100each) and spent it on herself. Giving us cheap dollar store gifts and claimed they were from my aunt. I totally caught her but never confronted her about it, trying to let it go. I have not talked to her in 3 days now. Would you be mad?
2007-09-14 06:05:25 · 7 answers · asked by honeybear 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Should I answer the phone when she calls? What do I say? Last time I talked to her she called to tell me what she had got the kids for Christmas and when I went off on her she claimed I never told her I was getting that stuff for them.
2007-09-14 06:19:18 · update #1
Sure - there is nothing wrong with being angry. What really counts is how you respond to that anger. That can make you just as bad as she is, if handled badly.
You need to forgive her - not for HER sake, but for your own. If you don't it will just eat at you. But, forgiving does NOT = trust. Trust must be earned.
I would just know that you can no longer trust her. Don't tell her your ideas for gifts - or, have two gift ideas and give her one of them. This way everyone wins.
The money thing is a bit touchy. I wonder why your aunt sent it all to your Mom's house? It might be best that you get in touch with your aunt and keep in contact with her from your address - sounds like my relatives who for a very long time included me on my parents cards and wedding invitations even though I hadn't lived there for years. That stopped when I suggested that I didn't go to a wedding or send a card because no one sent me an invitation, thus I had no idea said cousin got married!
2007-09-14 06:26:49 · answer #1 · answered by victoriahnichole2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
PHEW!!!! i may well be mad at the two, yet her mom extra b/c men come and pass yet family members remains around consistently. Her mom sucks (actually) and so does the guy!! tell her to no longer rigidity; i in my opinion might recover from it and concentration on my destiny. Her mom is a whore, yet there's no longer something that she will do approximately it and that i myself desire that her mom would not think of that her & her new 19 year outdated bf are going to have a dedicated relationship b/c a 19 year outdated guy would not choose to have a relatioship with a 37 year outdated female he purely desires to f&%) her! in my opinion i might tell your chum that if she is in a position to go then gain this (perchance she gets a small place of abode) that way she would be in a position to no longer be in her mom's way, and additionally i might tell her that as quickly as her mom includes cry on her shoulder b/c the nineteen twelve months broke her heart i might turn the different cheek and would not console her in any respect!!!
2016-12-26 10:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because your mom acts like an irresponsible little kid, doesn't mean you have to follow suit.
your mother did what she did... take it or leave it... accept the fact that she bought the presents and took your gift money from the aunt...
move on and live your life without letting others run your emotions... i think it's better to run your own.
2007-09-14 06:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should be ticked off BUT you need to limit what you say to your mother. Dont tell her anything and why would you not confront her when she stole money that belonged to your family? Some people think its okay to use or take advantage of family because you share DNA. I think not!!
2007-09-14 06:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I would first of all she is not respecting what is yours if I were you I would confront her and tell her that is being selfish and that she should set a good example for you and your children
2007-09-14 06:12:27 · answer #5 · answered by shelly89 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would refuse to talk to her ever again. In fact, I would ban her from seeing you or the kids. She cannot be trusted. Change your number and block hers. She needs to learn a lesson.
2007-09-14 06:14:03 · answer #6 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your mother it is the only way to get passed this. some day she will be gone and you will realize how important or unimportant this is.
2007-09-14 06:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋