Family - May 2007

I'm a 24 year old female (California) and my dad beat up my little brother (they live in South Dakota) and now he is in jail. My little brother is in foster care (this happend 3 days ago) My dad may go to prison and is in bad health, regardless my dad wanted me to take care of my little brother (he is 7) What's the difference between getting custody of him and adopting him? In order for me to financially be able to take care of him I would move to Houston, TX much sooner than I had planned, but it still will work. My dad gets money monthly either from the mother(who gave up her rights) or by the state. This whole thing is a friggin mess. My mother (not the same as my little brothers mom) has been helping my dad take care of my little brother, but she can't get him because she is not his "real"family, but she will help me take care of him. I just dont want him to grow up in foster homes. I need to step up and take care of him. I dont know how to go about it from out here.

2007-05-17 11:50:18 · 4 answers · asked by Nia 3

this story is 100% exactly how it happened. Tell me if you think that my daughters mom is dumb or what.

My daughter was at her moms house ( we are not together) and I normally go home after work, shower, and take of on a 40 mile drive to pick my daughter up every Friday. Well I got home one Friday from work to get ready to pick my daughter up and My ex left a message on my house phone that said "If you are coming to pick Lindsey (my daughter) up then you will have to leave straight from work because I am leaving at 6:00 to go to my moms.

The only way I could know to leave straight from work would be if I was already home making it already too late. Did she do this so I couldn't see my daughter or what? I have a hard time believing that someone could possibly be that stupid.

2007-05-17 11:28:36 · 32 answers · asked by touhuni 2

ok here goes the question. u see im going to cerritos college and all but i recently got dropped from 2 of my classes and i think im failing the 3rd (dont bash me about my grades) anyways, i havent told my parents yet and im nervous about doing it only because i havent told them i had been dropped a while back. almost everyday they ask me how im doing in skool and im lying to them i hate lying to them. so can anyone give me any advice as to what i should do with this problem?

2007-05-17 11:19:29 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well, the other night, me and my brother we being crazy! and we were on the 3nd floor and i got a pool ball and threw it at the wall! theres a big hole in it! (i dont know why i did that, it was so stupid) then my brother sat on a table and broke it, then i threw it on the pool table and theres a rip in it!
My brother is being a jerk now and telling on me, and my mom is about to go upstairs and look! im goin to be so dead! Plus i ran up the phone bill!~!
And im am having a end of the year party, and im afraid she wont let me go! please help!
i was so stupid! what am i going to do!?

2007-05-17 10:59:21 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have had so many peoblems with my mother for years now and just last weekend she told me that she is upset because I talk to my aunt whom she has resentment towards from something that went on years ago, I am an adult and so is she and I told her that she is still my aunt and it is up to me who I associate with but she does not want to accept this and she is so upset with me and with other people in the family over what she went through with her divorce this wa back in 1979 and I told her to let it go I even have to let things go too with what she has done to me I have tried to let things go so she can see my baby boy it's very difficult and I have let things go but she said to me very nastily that I put her through a lot when I might have got angry at her for mistreating me and with her anger and resentments she is so angry and quite dysfunctional still today and verbally she get nasty with me and it's very upsetting to me I had to tell her not to come around for a while

2007-05-17 10:16:28 · 6 answers · asked by lindamay 2

when ever i ask him can we do some thing together its always i'm to busy y is that?

2007-05-17 10:14:38 · 9 answers · asked by maria 1

who is recuperating from major brain surgery,dad is 93 and also has alzheimers disease made worse by this surgery,hes very unsteady on his feet and really needs a home care nurse to keep an eagle eye on my dad,however,ive been elected to do a licensed r n s job and watch his every move,i cannot go out of the house and i feel like a prisoner who is chained to my father.my aunt takes me food shopping and i have to take dad along .one of my friends told me i dont understand your brother,hes a smart man(hes a very busy dentist) and he makes tou do this! hes got nerve she told me.god forbid my father should fall ,the answer i get from other members of the family is---call 911.yeah,did you ever try to pick up a man of short stature or any height ? theyre dead weight!!!! tell me ,what do you think,am i right in wanting a home care nurse to watch my father,or are my family members right by leaving things the way they are.i will accept truthful answers only.

2007-05-17 09:16:36 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

a father's devotion to his children,or to a wife or girlfriend.

2007-05-17 09:16:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

History; When I was an infant my mother began having an affair with my step father and left my biological father for him, taking me with them. My step-father (we'll call him Jim) also left his wife and 2 year old daughter to marry my mother and then adopted me legally when I was 5 since my biological father died of cancer. They never tell me that I'm not his (Jim's) real daughter until I "accidentally" learn this from my grandmother at the age of 13. We had a major conflict of personalities during my teen years and we stopped talking completely. Jim never spoke to his own brother, and often would cut his friends out of his life, and never speak with them again. I left home for college at 17, got married -he wouldn't even hug me back at my wedding or answer me when I asked a question, now I have two kids. Since I became a Christian, I've forgiven him and tried to be open, but he still will not look at me and has trouble speaking with me one on one. What can I do other than pray?

2007-05-17 09:15:23 · 6 answers · asked by CandyLandCondoResident 3

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2007-05-17 09:08:08 · 34 answers · asked by lucky_lak 1

In your opinion, given the state of so many of our schools, is it wiser to home school your children and avoid the mess all together- or to send your children to these schools and get involved as a parent to help make these schools better for everyone?

2007-05-17 09:05:03 · 12 answers · asked by Elizabeth T 3

I am almost 5 months pregnant. My bf turned out to be selfish, financially irresponsible and unsupportive. I tried to work it out, but he left anyway. He claimed that he wants to be a part of the baby's life, but not mine. He won't even call me back to discuss my doctor's appointments, or money he owes me. I don't think that he would hurt my baby, I just don't think he is responsible enough to care for the baby. I don't think I can prove him unfit, how else can I secure primary custody?

2007-05-17 09:04:32 · 5 answers · asked by jek8282 1

did you parents ever really sit down and talk with you about life?

Where they truly honest with you about how messed up things are out there?

Share a story?

2007-05-17 08:49:45 · 8 answers · asked by Slappy 4

My ex has title of "primary household" over our son even though we have joint custody...my ex has a history of domestic violence against me, which is why I divorced him , and now he has had an altercation with his stepfather, in which physical violence is involved. He was living with his mother and his stepfather with our son. My son is otherwise loved, but I fear for his mental health. My ex moved out and is living with his on-again-off-again girlfriend. His previous girlfriend was on-again-off-again as well, which he moved out of her house at least three times, with my son. This is an unstable environment for my son, and my ex has always been controlling, manipulative, etc, which is the ONLY reason he has primary household..I have tried several times to get primary custody, but the court systems suck nowadays, and they want CONCRETE PROOF that there is a BIG reason to change the way the custody arrangement is now. .Any lawyers in the house or anyone who has an opinion?

2007-05-17 08:18:17 · 7 answers · asked by kittykat 1

My boyfriend and the mother of his child have a good relationship. They discuss things about their child, etc and thats fine with me but i found it kind of bothersome when i overheard him giving out advice to her about a child that is not even his. She is married and i just kind of felt like thats something she should be able to talk to her husband about or the father of that child! He says it was just friendly advice but i still felt a little uncomfortable with it. Am i over reacting? should i even be worried about it? just need some thoughts on it.

2007-05-17 07:46:35 · 4 answers · asked by rlynn 1

I can find one when they are here with me.But my girlfriend cheated,and I could'nt live with her any more,so I left.Nows she's with another guy(the one she cheated with),shoul'dt she ask him for help since she chose him over me?He does'nt live there,but he's there every day.

2007-05-17 07:32:19 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have a cousin who has been picking on me for the last 4 years. every single time i am around her i feel uncomfortable and afraid. she bullies me. i don't know if she's just jealous of me or what, but she will not leave me alone . i've tried talking to her, but it only makes things worse. she said she was not going to leave me alone. it seems like no matter what i do---if i stand up to her she gets mad and wants to fight me, and i don't want to fight her and i don't feel that i should have to. but if i ignore her she continues to bully me. should i get a restraining order? she doesn't want me to live my life. it seems as though she HATES to see me happy, and LOVES to see me down and will do whatever it takes to KEEP me down. However, i'm kind of afraid to get a restraining order b/c of what my family will say. They may not approve, but i feel like it isn't their problem----it's mine, and I'M the one going through it. What should I do?

2007-05-17 07:30:36 · 18 answers · asked by Yvette S 1

please help me i have this older cousin who acts/dresses/behaves like an emo and he always glares at me with wide eyes ive told my parnets but they just think he wanna talks to me (because our family had aa big fight last year) and im not sure which way he might be glarin/lookin at me!!!!!!!
PLEASE HELP!!!!!

2007-05-17 07:23:13 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

my daughter married this man and now she in prison and she told me to take care of them cause she knows he struggling trying to pay his bills and take care his other 3 children from different mothers he work and they take the money out his pay so its hard for him to pay his bills but he trying to take my granddaughter away from me he calls me on the phone curssing and fussing at me i am trying to find a nice way to deal with this issu speak america.

2007-05-17 07:14:37 · 5 answers · asked by BROKEN AND BEAUTFUL 2

They do not live with us but visit or call only when they want their dad (my husband) to do something for them or if they have nothing better to do. They are very rude and demanding.

2007-05-17 06:54:16 · 3 answers · asked by Blondie 1

How many of you have a mother in law that
1. Calls you controlling
2. Has an issue that you are close with your family
3. Acts like her & her son is a victium.
4. Is upset that you will not visit with the inlaws and allow them to abuse you

2007-05-17 06:40:49 · 23 answers · asked by Kat G 6

ok i have a cousin who at 14 committed a crime against my other cousin who was 4 at the time....this was about 9 yrs ago....he didn't get proper help and has his records sealed he announced a couple months ago that his girlfriend is pregnant....i dont see how anyone can be with someone knowing that he did what he did....i'm 21 and hardly talk to him and have only spoken like 2 sentences to his girlfriend b/c i just dont want to have anything to do with him but sometimes i have to be around him.....do i have the right or obligation to make sure his girlfriend knows what happened so she can prepare?

2007-05-17 06:38:49 · 20 answers · asked by sxyitlngrl 3

my little sister so neads a boy friend she is taking about the boys she likes but she needs somewere for her to meet a boy on the computer and she is nerly 12 help
by mel

2007-05-17 06:32:17 · 12 answers · asked by SCARLET 1

ok have you ever made your boyfriend mad by telling him what others ask or say about him? well, if you didn't mean to make him mad, then what is a sweet thing to say to him to make him feel better?

2007-05-17 06:32:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Maybe to slowly introduce him to girls and nudity?Maybe have that man to man talk?

2007-05-17 06:30:21 · 24 answers · asked by leadfoot 1

I don't understand why my husband always cringes when I need to visit my family - it hurts my feelings. My parents and siblings live 4 hours away and I only go there to visit 2-3 times a year, but each time he always acts like it is so awful. They are nice and not anything to try to stay away from. His parents and his brothers live close to us and we see them all the time. My nephew is graduating and I want to go to celebrate - he suggested I go without him and then he tries to act cute like he is 1/2 joking but still means it.... Anyone have any ideas, thoughts, suggestions....?

2007-05-17 06:16:35 · 11 answers · asked by sugar 2

My older sister used to receive welfare checks for her bastard children and she also received a welfare check for rent. My mom bought a house and they both filled out the paperwork to state that my sis paid mom for rent. My mom cashed the check and gave my sister the money Having been a welfare worker, I knew that this was the felony crime of welfare fraud. I turned them in, but I never heard of the outcome, due to privacy issues. They defrauded you and I (read tax payers) to the tune of over $15,000 If they had robbed a bank, I would turn them in. What do you think and would you do the same thing, or would you be an accessory after the fact and hide their crime?

2007-05-17 05:55:59 · 42 answers · asked by athorgarak 4

i been wanting to move out of my parents house for a long time. i wish they just kicked me out. i work at this fast food restruant and make 6.90 and hour pretty sure ill make more later and get a better job. i turn 18 this summer and graduate in 2008 so should i wait?

2007-05-17 05:30:51 · 28 answers · asked by evil e 1

this woman likes to call me awful things like jealous or controlling. she likes to talk about me behind my back in very negative ways. she wanted to have control over my own house and she has even told me to go to h@## in my own house! how awful is that? my husband can't say anything to her either because she will blow up at him. she will not listen to him either. she is manipulative and she does not want to help since she is not allowed in my house. she forgets why she can't come back and it's because she won't cut her crap.

2007-05-17 05:25:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My daughter's father wasnt there when I our child was born..now he's around and we are gonna get married..What are the steps I have to take to change her last name and Do i have to wait until we are married?

2007-05-17 05:12:59 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous