my mother has and still is so upsetting to me it's really messing me up emotionally again?

Question

I have had so many peoblems with my mother for years now and just last weekend she told me that she is upset because I talk to my aunt whom she has resentment towards from something that went on years ago, I am an adult and so is she and I told her that she is still my aunt and it is up to me who I associate with but she does not want to accept this and she is so upset with me and with other people in the family over what she went through with her divorce this wa back in 1979 and I told her to let it go I even have to let things go too with what she has done to me I have tried to let things go so she can see my baby boy it's very difficult and I have let things go but she said to me very nastily that I put her through a lot when I might have got angry at her for mistreating me and with her anger and resentments she is so angry and quite dysfunctional still today and verbally she get nasty with me and it's very upsetting to me I had to tell her not to come around for a while

Answer 1

put a lot of space between her and you, only see her at holidays, until she realises she has to change but i doubt she will.
respect yourself, she never will.

Answer 2

It sounds like telling her not to come around for a while is just about the best thing you can do. Your mom sounds very self-absorbed, and you're doing exactly the right things here. Keep strong - hopefully she'll realize what she's been acting like and come around.

Answer 3

I feel for you. I have had to give up my relationship completely with my mother. She moved states and didnt tell me and doesnt understand wh I am upset by it. Sometimes the only thing you can do is to close the door you have to do whats right for you and your son.

Answer 4

You have a very controlling and verbally abusive mom. I would do what you want and it maybe better not to have a relationship with her

Answer 5

You continue seeing your aunt.

Answer 6

You've done the right thing to protect your child.