my daughter married this man and now she in prison and she told me to take care of them cause she knows he struggling trying to pay his bills and take care his other 3 children from different mothers he work and they take the money out his pay so its hard for him to pay his bills but he trying to take my granddaughter away from me he calls me on the phone curssing and fussing at me i am trying to find a nice way to deal with this issu speak america.
2007-05-17 07:14:37 · 5 answers · asked by BROKEN AND BEAUTFUL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to get temporary custody of your daughter. Talk to a family attorney, who will give you your options. If her husband can't take care of her daughter, they may give you temporary guardianship of her.
2007-05-17 07:19:34 · answer #1 · answered by Liza 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son in law sounds like he's overwhelmed by this whole situation. Bottom line you have a legal right to your granddaughter. But before you try to do anything legally talk to him first. Tell him you're only trying to help, and that you think he needs a break to get back on track. Tell him you'll take you're granddaughter for awhile so he can take a breath and figure things out. Let him know he can come by and see her whenever he wants to (after all he is her father) it's not his fault the baby's mother is in prison. You never know, he might be wanting you to help him this way and be happy for the break. Just let him know you're there to help him not fight him. you both have an interest in this, that little girl. And all she needs to know is there are people there who love her right now.
2007-05-17 14:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by isa2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK let me get this straight.
Daughter is in prison. Has husband and baby.
Son In Law is not able to care for this baby as well as his 3 other children from different mothers.
Call a lawyer and if your lawyer thinks it's a good idea, call child protective services. Petition the court for legal guardianship and full custody of baby - with only supervised visits for Son In Law, since he is threatening you.
2007-05-17 14:25:39 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say the previous response is good. He needs to be a man. Learn to deal with his reponsibilities. And make him aware of what your doing and why. Tell him that he needs to gather some good money from a good job and heck, holding onto one of his kids takes more pressure off him. I know underneath you like "Well, at least I know my granddaughter is being taken care of." But when you talk to him, make him see the benefits that go for him. Grant him some visitation if he's corropritive (sp?:P) but that's really all you can do is try to keep the anger and frustration level to a minimal. It hurts, but he's a kid that needs to become a man and your mature enough to see that.
~Jamie~
2007-05-17 14:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by curlygirl55555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that you need to keep your cool, with him weather you like him or not. I really don't like the idea that he is trying to your granddaughter away from you that not right. I'm not sure what your state law is but in Wisconsin here grandparents have rights. Here they can take your rights away to seen the child, but they can also fight it. I also know that some states have no grandparent laws.
I really hope it all works out for you in the long run take care:)
2007-05-17 14:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by jennifer j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋