My son is 13 and interested in girls.Is it a good idea as a father to show him Playboy magazines to introduce?

Question

Maybe to slowly introduce him to girls and nudity?Maybe have that man to man talk?

Answer 1

It’s illegal to share pornography with minors (even if that minor is your own child), and even if it weren't it's the most ridiculous thing I ever heard. Talk to him about girls and sex, and that’s it...no visual aids are required.

Answer 2

As a mother, that would so not be an option for my son's dad to do. Don't you think maybe that would weird your kid out to look at a Playboy that dad provided? Let him explore things on his own. If he has already had the sex talk, then I wouldn't even worry about introducing him to nudity. He has probably seen enough of that already, (T.V, movies.) Maybe you should let him know about STDS and how to use a condom.
Abstinence until marriage is the best, but that is really up to him.
good luck with this issue

Answer 3

No magazines, just plain old biology book with pictures of female body inside (you know uterus vagina etc.) and explanation about the process of making children.
He is 13 he already knows Playboys etc. don't be naive. He would laugh at you (not loudly, though) and he would be unconfortable and avoid you for some time.
Remeber this is a delicate issue because it is a part of everyone's privacy. He would feel that he has the same right for privacy. Respect him as grown up.

Magazines are out of question, they are 18+, they are explicit pornography and has nothing to do with sex education. You may even make a damage, imagine this: He is turned on by seeing those photos, but you are there, oh dear, what he should do???

Answer 4

I don't think that Playboy is the best way to introduce him to it really..... unless you want him to grow up having an idealised picture of a woman and treated women like objects. The women in Playboy are quite simply bimbos, and is that the kind of image you want your boy to be looking out for in a woman?

Don't get me wrong, I'm all for porn, I have no problem with it, but I think that when young boys look at too many pictures like that, it desensitises them to what real sex is all about. He'll grow up to be a shallow pervert who oggles women's boobs, basically!

Also, at 13, you don't want him getting TOO interested in sex, and showing him Playboy might spark his interest a bit too much.

If I were you I'd have the man to man talk, but make sure you do what most parents don't do - talk about the emotions. Most people say that their parents and schools only taught them about the physical aspects of sex. You need to talk to him about using a condom, pregnancy, diseases, etc as well as emotions and not feeling pressured to do things. It's great to be open with him and you should speak to him now while it's still early - at my school you didn't get sex education until you were 16, and half of my class had already done it by then!

Have a look for some websites or collect some pamphlets from a family planning clinic so that he can read through it in his own time without being embarrassed.

Personally I don't think encouraging Playboy is the best route - you want to teach him to respect girls, not to see them all as bimbo sex objects. When he wants to find his own porn, he will!

Good luck!

xx Emmie

Answer 5

No he doesn't need the magazine yet.He will have a stash when he needs one. For starters though ask him what he knows already boy you can be surprised, and it makes it easier on you.Fill it in t he blanks he left out. Be very blunt and to the point about STD's and pregnancy. It's okay to make it sound scary,Pregnancy and disease are pretty scary things. Let him know about condoms and his responsibility. He should also really be pushed to treat girls well. Also throw in the whole- If you can'y afford a new..............how can you afford a baby-spill.I have a 15 yr old i gave that talk to i also have girls. I am pleased to say that it has worked well. You should never be vague, give them more information they know so they can be well prepared for any decision they to make or one they choose not to.

Answer 6

Time to have a man to man talk with him. I certainly wouldn't introduce him to magazines as he is not mature enough and would get the wrong idea about women.

But then, if you as a father has Playboy in your house, trust me, he has already found them.

Answer 7

Playboy might be good for you as an adult who knows and understands....at 13 years old, just be glad to know he is not interested in drugs...the best way to introduce him is to explain that women are beautiful, should be treated with love and respect, give him the condoms and diseases speech and let him know it will happen one day!

Answer 8

showing your son Playboy magazines?? that's not a sex talk, it's a lesson on how to exploit women. besides, he's probably already seen Playboy magazine.

if Playboy is your idea of a man to man talk about women, perhaps leave it up to the school and health class. kids learn about sex there, too.

yikes.

Answer 9

no. im 14 and would never want to see porn with my dad. Im sorry but he most likely has already seen porn:( everybody sees it when theyre like 9. It would be the most akward and weirdest thing you could do to him. Dont make a big deal out of it like my parents did because you will have him being soooooo nervous and feeling weird. Let him do it on his own.

Answer 10

Playboy is a lie. Real women are not like that, also it is a bit like introducing him to drugs by giving him some pot. You and your husband will be telling him that pornography is OK and he should look.

Answer 11

What does viewing a naked woman have to do with helping your son learn about girls? Other than send the message that girls are sex toys and meant to be their for a man's pleasure.