what do you tell him?

Question

ok have you ever made your boyfriend mad by telling him what others ask or say about him? well, if you didn't mean to make him mad, then what is a sweet thing to say to him to make him feel better?

Answer 1

I'm married, but I ran into a similar situation.

My husband has a habit of trying to do too many things at once. This often makes him late (sometimes VERY late) for meeting up with our friends. It's gotten so bad, that they have either stopped expecting him to even show up, or tell him to come an hour before he needs to be there--and he's still often very late.

The last time this happened, he left a father and daughter at a sledding slope in the dead of winter waiting for him for over an hour. Up until this point, I hadn't mentioned to him how angry our friends were getting.

When he came home and was upset that the father read him the riot act for making him wait in the cold like that, I sat down with him and explained that this wasn't something new--that our friends had expressed their ire with me in the past and that the father was likely letting loose a lot of pent-up frustration.

Needless to say, my husband was hurt. He didn't realize our mutual friends were coming to *me* instead of addressing him. (They had, in fact, addressed him, but he always had excuses.)

Sometimes, if you're the "other half" of a couple, you're put in these positions. The best way to go about sharing this type of information is to make sure that you say it in a way that lets him know he's loved and treasured--no matter that he's only human ;)

My husband is much better about being on time now and the outcome was very positive for everyone involved.

I hope that helps.

Answer 2

First of all, don't tell anyone what others say about them. You are a gossip.
Don't purposely say things to make someone mad. That is very childish and will always backfire.
Try apologizing and telling him you won't do it anymore, and then DON'T.
Try being honest, and not just saying things to make him feel a certain way-either good or bad.
You need to grow up before you inflict yourself on some poor slob.

Answer 3

If someone is saying something negative about your boyfriend (especially if you don't agree with what they're saying), then you shouldn't have told him in the first place.

But since you already have, here's what I suggest: Apologize to him for hurting his feelings. Tell him you were wrong to convey that information to him - you acted before considering how it might affect him. Tell him that you don't agree with what was said, and that makes you doubly wrong for repeating it.

Hope that helps.

Answer 4

He will get over what was said. Don't worry. People can be so cruel sometimes.

Just snuggle with him and let him know you Love him and are there for him always.

Take him somewhere to have fun with you. The beach or something he enjoys.

Good luck...

Answer 5

Tell him u spoke up for him and told them all where to go. And if it still upset him. Then tell others you don't want to hear anything else unless someone is speaking of hurting him or you.

Answer 6

not a lot you can say or do about it really...you are a big part of his hurt because you are the one who told him.

Do him and yourself a favor, next time someone has something bad to sayabout him, either don't listen or if you do...keep it to yourself.

Answer 7

Well if it's all good things then yes. You didn't tell him anything bad did you??!

Answer 8

you don't need to "tell all".... use some discretion and think of the feelings of others.

no one likes a blabber mouth.