this woman likes to call me awful things like jealous or controlling. she likes to talk about me behind my back in very negative ways. she wanted to have control over my own house and she has even told me to go to h@## in my own house! how awful is that? my husband can't say anything to her either because she will blow up at him. she will not listen to him either. she is manipulative and she does not want to help since she is not allowed in my house. she forgets why she can't come back and it's because she won't cut her crap.
2007-05-17 05:25:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you should definatly avoid this woman. You don't have to take that abuse. And, hubby should stand up to her when she's in your house. It sounds like she has issues. Don't take them on. Don't waste your own mental energy being upset at her....it's her, not YOU. Take care of you, keep your side of the street clean. Ya know? As long as you behave properly you wont have anything to ever appologize or feel bad about. The rest is all on her. Try praying for her....even if you don't want to. Pray for a week that she has everything that you want for yourself. Pray until you mean it. You'll see that you soon feel better and don't carry her burden.
Good luck.
2007-05-17 05:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Have A Similar Problem! You Are Not Alone! Avoid Her!
She needs counseling! You Do Not! She sounds childish to me. Do Not Let Her Get To You! If Your Husband Wants To Leave, Let Him Go Home To MOMA! He Should Speak Up For YOU! You sound very grounded, and smart and she is jealous of you. People know the true her. She more than likely has treated others the same way.
2007-05-17 05:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing you could consider doing is stop letting her control your emotions.. you are all up in arms over the fact that she has a rotten, controlling personality -- something YOU can never change.
i think that avoiding her and staying out of her way is your best bet.
if you do cross paths, and she starts trying to control things in your house or your life, let her know that while you appreciate good advice, you don't want any unless you ask for it...
and you don't even have to be angry when you say this to her.
sometimes we have to avoid or ignore for our own emotional well-being. take care of YOU...and don't let her get your goat... it's not worth it... i'm sure you have other things in your life to worry over.
take care.
2007-05-17 05:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong for avoiding your nasty mother in law. But remind her that she is the one who come to your house. The next time she starts politely ask her to leave. It is not her house and you should not have to be subjected to that.
2007-05-17 06:47:45 · answer #4 · answered by lz_adam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have anything at all to do with her? If your husband can't cut the apron strings you have to learn to live with that or let him go. But you don't have to kiss her a s s all your life. Some people are just toxic and she sounds like one.
2007-05-17 05:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her an ultimatum ..... tell her not to come around anymore. That you are fed up! Life is to short. It is time to live your life. When she can behave herself she can come back. Have your husband go and see her if he wants, but don't allow her in you house anymore. If you do see her at family functions just be polite.
2007-05-17 05:32:52 · answer #6 · answered by Quickie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband to reach down and grab the boys and remember who the man of the house is! don't put up with crap like that in your own home. if she doesn't like it she can get the hell out. i physically threw my monster in law out and now she knows better than to try that crap with me. i guarantee she doesn't forget why she can't come back. she knows she can get away with it.
2007-05-17 05:48:51 · answer #7 · answered by whitebuffalo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, I am sure a lot of woman feel the same way you do when it comes to Monsters in Laws. I mean Mother in laws.
2007-05-17 05:29:37 · answer #8 · answered by That one 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-10 04:30:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem here is your husband. He's not married to his mother, and he should be sticking up for his wife. So what if she blows up at him, that seems to be her nature with everyone. Does she have something over you guys?
2007-05-17 18:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by jonesk_92656 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋