I can find one when they are here with me.But my girlfriend cheated,and I could'nt live with her any more,so I left.Nows she's with another guy(the one she cheated with),shoul'dt she ask him for help since she chose him over me?He does'nt live there,but he's there every day.
2007-05-17 07:32:19 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The only time you are responsible for finding a sitter is when they are in your care. When they're with her, the sitter is her problem. You should not have to find a babysitter for her when they are in her care!!
2007-05-17 07:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Sweet♥ 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
When they are with her, she is responsible for finding a sitter, When it's your scheduled time to have them, it's your responsibility to find a sitter if you can't be with them.
My ex is such a jerk, we agreed that he would take the kids every Saturday from 8am-8pm, and he's done that like maybe 4 times in the past year. Typically he takes them until 3, he says he has to work. I used to work 8-8 on Saturdays, just cut it to 8-2 because I was so frustrated with him. He never finds a sitter or books the time off, I always had to give up my shift (and lose pay!). He even cancelled half his day with them on their birthday, x-mas eve (the only time he saw trhem for x-mas), Easter ect..
2007-05-17 07:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as paternity is established, then you and your ex girlfriend are parents. Think of it as being divorced.
When you are divorced, you can help out your ex on occassion to be nice, and to make it nice for the kids, but generally she has to be responsible for her life, and you for yours.
If you have not already done it, get an attorney and have a legal parenting plan drawn up that you both agree to. It will set boundries for you and make life much easier.
You are entitled to raise your child as much as she is. If you want to be a father, don't accept anything unless it is close to a 50\50 split on time.
Parenting is one of the most wonderful things in the world. If you and your ex can find a happy middle ground for the children it will be much better for everyone. Because of your child you are stuck together forever....
2007-05-17 07:37:49 · answer #3 · answered by flyfish_777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember one thing, watching your kids is not called baby sitting and helping your kids should not be a chore. I left my wife too because of her cheating and through my attorney and other stuff we will not discuss here I gained custody. but to answer your question... no, if she wants to go out it's not your job to find a sitter but be a man and at least take them once in a while.
2007-05-17 07:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by slim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are your kids, if you are there or not! Not only should you help pay, but don't you want to know who is watching over your children? Looking for a sitter that you and your ex agree on, will help you two figure things out and decide about issues dealing with the children. Best to always put your two cents in!
2007-05-17 07:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by jess1barney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you are definitely not responsible for finding a babysitter, but it might not be a bad idea. Since you aren't with your kids like you were before, don't you want to know where they are being sent? Make sure she participates just as much as you do but I would say still stay involved in the process. Try not to let her stupidity and childish actions distract you from the fact that you are still their father and they will benefit from you being involved in any way you can be!
2007-05-17 07:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, technically you are not responsible but you should help out because well come on dont you want to know what type or who is your childs babysitter? It is important to keep communication with your ex girlfriend reguardless of what happend because the fact is that what is more important is NOT you. The most important thing is the welfare of your child. Trust me you may not want to be bothered by it but what if your girlfriend hires some strange person. You at least have the obligation to meet and see who this babysitter is. I know you may not want to but dont think about you think about your child
2007-05-17 07:38:40 · answer #7 · answered by Abc's 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 19:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by dymke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw your other question too. I am glad to see a dad like you who really cares about your kids. As far as this babysitter question goes my advise to you would be... Yes, it's your responsibility to know who is watching your kids. If they are very young they are counting on you as their dad to protect them (even if your no longer with their mom) Your probably pretty angry and hurt by what she did to you but that has NOTHING to do with your kids. And hopefully she doesn't give you a hard time about seeing them. Because let me tell you they need to see you. This is the only time your going to have to make memories with them. And let me tell you these years will go by so fast. There are no second chances when it comes to your kids.
2007-05-17 07:52:37 · answer #9 · answered by seashell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want some cheating piece of crap watching your kids? Maybe he can damage THEM, too.
Again, a good reason to get MARRIED before having kids.
Why would you have to find a baby-sitter? Why don't YOU take care of them.
Are you a daddy first or a wounded lover?
Be the man you want in your children's life.
2007-05-17 07:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you take care of them or have appropriate childcare for them when they are in your custody, she needs to do the same. You could possibly have the same sitter for both of you? (depending on how far away you live)... and if you aren't too busy and can take care of them while she works, this would be best. Remember, your children didn't screw up, your ex did. They are still your kids and I'm sure you love them dearly... make sure they understand you didn't walk out of "their" lives, just your ex's life. Best wishes to you...and your kids!!! :)
2007-05-17 07:39:58 · answer #11 · answered by *@*@* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋