Family - February 2007

think my sister asked this already but I want to get different answers.My mom and step dad are having another baby.I have a big enough family and no one(but my mom and step dad)are excited about this.I don't even want to try and act excited because I dont wanna lie.So....what can I do to get out of the house and stay away from my house?????????

2007-02-07 04:35:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents were married for almost 18 years and I found out that my dad had been cheating for 5 years before they turned 17 years married. It was really hard to understand, but I tried not to say anything. Later on I found that she was only 7 years older than me! is it right for me to hate on her? should I pretend i dont care???

2007-02-07 04:35:18 · 36 answers · asked by Bbita 2

i know he was in the army he was stationed in New Mexico for a couple of years or so. his name is Robert j. Luke. His family lives in pittsburg PA.They didnt like the fact my husband mom was hispanic and his family was white all I want is his medical history due to the fact we have three boys.

2007-02-07 04:21:16 · 6 answers · asked by aragon 1

Me and my son father have been separated for 5 years and are divorcing this year. My son is now having problems with behavior in school and I see some similarities and want to head them off before they become worst. What do I do?

2007-02-07 04:16:29 · 14 answers · asked by kitcat 6

...all your answers are great and helpful and I appreciate them immensely.

Here are some of our problems that I should have outlined before:

1. We live in a country foreign to us. She speaks the language fluently as we've been here for 10 years, but she still feels (and looks) different.
2. Her father and I divorced when she was a baby, and she's had almost no contact with him since.
3. There are no homeless shelters here and when I called the local pensioners' home to volunteer I was flatly rejected. (It seems the paid workers do not want volunteers as they might do a better job and get their positions).

This is a country where most, if not all, the children are spoiled and not even reprimanded until the age of 10 for any wrong-doing. This goes against my beliefs, but she sees the way her friends are treated (like princes) at home, so she expects it from us.

I have her in counseling because of these issues and her problems with anger.

I could go on...but I wont! LOL

2007-02-07 04:01:26 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

my daughter is 10 and she gets out of control over silly things like not getting her own way. she wrecks her bedroom ,she cut her curtains cos she was grounded. she used to run out of the house when she got into trouble for her anger. she can be loving,generous and kind and so helpful,then one thing goes wrong or someone says something and she changes into a wild person where should i go to get her help?

2007-02-07 04:00:41 · 19 answers · asked by JULIE H 1

Im talking to the adults, not the high schoolers.

2007-02-07 03:54:09 · 15 answers · asked by JusticeManEsq 5

My Dad has Parkinsons and Mom has memory loss

2007-02-07 03:45:56 · 5 answers · asked by talkygirl46 5

For the last 5 years I have put up with my ex's verbal abuse. He tells me I am a terrible mother. That I sit around on my fat a.. all day and do nothing. He has use foul words towards me in front of our child. It goes on and on. I have tried everthing. Last Nov 06 we went back to court, he wanted more visition with our child. I told my lawyer all about the things that he has said to me and put me through and I got no help there. Not sure she was the right lawyer for the job. It is as if my ex knows he can get away with it. I have been told about restranging orders, but than if something happened to our child when in his care my ex would not be able to contact me. Also, when our child is with his father I like to call and see how my lil one is doing I would no longer be able to do this. My ex and I were not married. He really has not had much to do with our child. This is effecting me terrible. I am not a weak person but how can I stop this abuse.

2007-02-07 03:36:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

to appreciate what she has? She's 14 and thinks life "sucks" because she has to follow rules and do homework.

She doesn't help in the house (my fault) and her grades are horrible. She treats everyone, including friends, bad.

We've started her with counseling, but I need to know how to make her see that there are others who have it so much worse.

I've presented her with cases of misfortune, handicap, etc., but after an initial "wow, it sucks to be them" she goes back to lamenting her life.

Please, no smart-*** remarks, I need advice.

2007-02-07 03:31:51 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

If I could take myself away
To any place or any day
I think I’d pick a place
Somewhere deep in out of space

And then I’d turn around
To see what I have found
I’ll look down on this earth
The place of all our birth

I looked then to the right
Over there they always fight
To the left I set my eye
Over there, they all do cry

And then I see a spot
Which isn’t cold and isn’t hot
The people seem carefree
That is where I want to be

It then came to me quite clearly
The people there love me dearly
The place I want to be
Is home with family

2007-02-07 03:27:37 · 8 answers · asked by gary_b04901 1

My daughters father keeps blaming me for everything! He is court ordered to only have supervised visitaion one hour once a month unless he can dane a person he knows that can pass a background check the supervisor...then he can see her when ever the supervisor is available and I am available. He hasn't done that yet and things have been this way for 14 months...this is beside the other things the court said he had to complete which he hasn't yet. I got pulled over this morning for a suspended lisence I kne NOTHING about and come ti find out it was for unpaid tickets that my daughters father got in MY car!! I was livid and an hour late to work and I wasn't supposed to be driving after I got pulled over but what was I to do...couldn't get ahold of my mom or husband!! Next thing I know I get to work and the jerk (my daughters father) call me and says that I am ruining the relationship between him and HIS daughter and then hung up...this was due to him missing his visitation today. (cont.)

2007-02-07 03:21:51 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husbands mom hasn't been the friendliest over the years.

I tried being nice & nvited her out with the girls. Everyone noticed how grim she was, she never smiled and didn't talk to anyone. So it just wasn't me, she was this way with my friends and family. She was also this way with her own mom.

Over the years I began to accept that she's this way with everyone. There's something wrong with her socially.

Then a sister-in-law my age came into the picture. I find out that they're best friends, talk for hours on the phone, go shopping, bake together... Imagine my surprise that she has the capability to talk on the phone and do things with people.

I'm furious because I have been nice to her all these years and have had to accept "the way she is" & i now find out she has the capability to be nice!

My husband doesn't see anything wrong with this. I'm hurt & mad I have been nice and it turns out she really doesn't like me! I wouldn't have tried so hard. Thoughts?

2007-02-07 02:54:37 · 8 answers · asked by Sarah S 3

For example criticizing how they dress, choice of mate, recreational activities how they spend their money, who they associate with? I'm 31 and my mother still insists on play-by-play details on what i'm doing with my life (the answer to that is starting a wonderful new job and attempting to fix past mistakes) but my opinion is that it's time to let bygones BE bygones and start trying to be two grown women relating to each other instead of Mommy and Daughter.

2007-02-07 02:38:34 · 13 answers · asked by MTahirah 1

i work with my sister in law and for some reason she says so many nasty things to me. Everyone says it's becasue shes jealous of me and what i have - but i've worked so hard for what i have and she won't work at all! It's hard becasue this is my husbans sister! She's family! UGH!* Why would someone say so many hateful things to someone? I've always been so nice to her! HELP!*!**!*!*

2007-02-07 02:27:33 · 8 answers · asked by Rebekkah 2

she hasnt told anyone but me and shes trusting me not to tell but im not sure if i should keep quiet. what should i do?

2007-02-07 02:12:54 · 24 answers · asked by chenzira06 1

My step daughter had another bad boyfriend relationship and moved in again, along with her daughter. Grandpa and Grandma watch our grandchild who is 4 when her mother works, have been doing it for 2 years. Now that she has moved in she will make plans to go out with friends and tell us about a half an hour before she goes, assuming we will babysit. She does not help with any housework, has not offered to help by groceries, does not feed her child because she figures I will do it. She lays on the couch and our gradbaby says I am hungry and she just lays there. If I harp enough to help with the dishes after supper, she will wash just the ones that she and the grandbaby used. She will do wash and leave it in the dryer or washer, and I will take care of it cuz i need to use it, but if mine are in the dryer, she will just throw them on top and not fold them. I have tried to back off to make her do things but she wont I am at wits end, my hubby and i have both harped on her to no avail.

2007-02-07 02:09:54 · 17 answers · asked by vivib 6

I take a neighbours daughter to meet the school bus each morning as a favour. When the little girl came to me this morning (she's 7 by the way), she was quite upset as her parents had a big argument which resulted in a window getting smashed. She told me her mum then took it out on her, at this point the bus arrived and she couldn't elaborate any further. Her mum and dad argue and don't have a good relationship, although to my knowledge it hasn't been violent before.

I am at a loss over what to do. Shall I tell her mum how upset she was ? I don't want to interfere because no good will come of it, but would never forgive myself if the violence escalated.

I am on good terms with the girls grandmother, shall I confide in her instead?

Thanks for your help in advance.

2007-02-07 02:08:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a step daughter who is five years old she stays with me my daughter and her dad at the weekends, she is very ungrateful she dont say please or thankyou unless you tell her to she dont play very nice with my daughter my daughter always gets hurt. We cant say anything to her because she will tell her mum that i have told her off, her mum aint the kind of person you can talk to about these problems because she really dont care. A couple of weeks ago my step daughter had shop liffeterd and we told her mum and i got the blame for it, her mum said its because she feels left out and wants attention but she gets all my attention and her dads. Its doing my head in and i need advice. Help!

2007-02-07 01:51:15 · 26 answers · asked by Lisa 2

my husband and I have been together for about 6 years & we have a daughter together.
sometimes he will have the job for us to get by, pay bills, etc. when I don't have a job or any money.
he gets enough to get us by. paycheck to paycheck (for now).
but anyway my problem is that I have a hard time "spending" his money.
For example, I feel that I do not have the right to use it because I am not the one that is working for that money.
I think I feel that it is his money to do with whatever he pleases and if he intends to spend it on us than so be it. I mean he does buy the things we need but when he tries to give me money for other stuff I have a hard time saying yes.
Is there something wrong with this? or is there a way to get over it?
When I was the one with the job and he didnt have a job I would surely let him use money if he needed it to do with whatever he wanted. and it is the same way now that he is the one with a job but I think there is something wrong here, do you?

2007-02-07 01:46:55 · 6 answers · asked by lady_luv 2

My son is 16yrs. His father and I have been divorced for 7 yrs. Son has a computer at dad's house, bought by grandma, that dad won't give up. Son also has a truck, left to him by his grandfather, that he won't license or insure so that my son can bring it home. My son is so afraid of angering him that he won't even talk to him about it. His dad will not talk to me about it. Does anyone know how I can find out my son's rights?

2007-02-07 01:46:27 · 4 answers · asked by lsloner 1

After I had an argument with her mom, my (ex) girlfriend took our 11 mo. old son while I was at work. Her and her mom took EVERYTHING of his, including ALL of his clothes. They've admitted to calling legal council! We talked just hours ago and my girlfriend still loves me and wants to work it out. But, her mother is downright evil. I think she's up to something, but what is it?

2007-02-07 01:43:39 · 16 answers · asked by goodfather 1

And have you successfully achieved that?

2007-02-07 01:37:56 · 12 answers · asked by kumiko2420 4

All my life I’ve wanted a successful career ( I want to be a doctor) and also have a few children. A lot of people seem to think that if I pursue a career AND have kids then I wont be able to juggle it, and say that it would be selfish to do so. Do you think I will ruin my children’s lives if I’m out working?
By the way I’m still really young and haven’t got a career OR children but just wanted to know.
Thnx

2007-02-07 01:27:11 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't know why I am asking this question, I am just lost. Last year my father died who was the main bread winner in the family. I also got married last year in the same month my father died. Since then, I have been looking after my mother and sister. But now I have reached the stage that managing to stay afloat finacially is just becoming unbearable, and everything around me is blowing up in my face.

- Having to sell my house.
- Having to sell my car.
- Being made redundant soon with no prospects for re-training.
- Marriage in trouble.
- Suffering from depression and mood swings.
- Unable to pay bills.

I am now beginning to think if I was born unlucky. I had a very tough up bringing as child right through to my adult years. I just don;t know what to do. I find myself to be hopeless and economically unviable. I am beginning to think if there is any point in my existence.

2007-02-07 01:19:33 · 10 answers · asked by zabeonline 4

2007-02-07 01:13:13 · 4 answers · asked by Anashuya 6

2007-02-07 01:06:42 · 7 answers · asked by Coolcat Celebrity 1

I've had the worst day today. To start off, I broke my finger and now and can't ne in the championship for my bball team, i have the worst cold IN THE WORLD, and My cousin thats OLDER then ME! Cussed me out, and I toled him to go jump off a building, my aunt heard and tried to SPANK me infront of my whole FAMILY!

2007-02-07 01:05:52 · 8 answers · asked by Courtney 1

2 weeks ago my dad had a biopsy for his kidneys, it was supposed to be for one day and released the next day, well he had internal bleeding for 3 days, lost 3 pints of blood through his urine and needed blood transfusions, they released him a few days later, once he was released he couldn't walk, feed himself, do anything, he was helpless when they let him go, a week later he died, last week, i'm in so much pain, my dad had time left in this life and they shortened it, i'm so hurt i feel so cheated, is the hospital responsible at all for this? By the way those b*stards stole his cell phone and cash...... horrible hospital.

2007-02-07 00:59:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-02-07 00:56:26 · 16 answers · asked by yash 1