my husband and I have been together for about 6 years & we have a daughter together.
sometimes he will have the job for us to get by, pay bills, etc. when I don't have a job or any money.
he gets enough to get us by. paycheck to paycheck (for now).
but anyway my problem is that I have a hard time "spending" his money.
For example, I feel that I do not have the right to use it because I am not the one that is working for that money.
I think I feel that it is his money to do with whatever he pleases and if he intends to spend it on us than so be it. I mean he does buy the things we need but when he tries to give me money for other stuff I have a hard time saying yes.
Is there something wrong with this? or is there a way to get over it?
When I was the one with the job and he didnt have a job I would surely let him use money if he needed it to do with whatever he wanted. and it is the same way now that he is the one with a job but I think there is something wrong here, do you?
2007-02-07 01:46:55 · 6 answers · asked by lady_luv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am a stay at home mom with two kids my husband works
If your husband does not have a problem with it then why do you worry.This is a part of marriage .What are you spending the money on?Grocery's ,your daughter,gas,
or are you spending it on yourself.It really depends what the money is going towards.Sounds to me like you are a independent person and that's why you feel bad.I use to think the same way until I sat down and talked to him
he admited that he loves me staying home the house is clean,children taken care of and the dinner always on time.Talk to your husband see how he feels.If your still bothered get a part time job it will give you your independents and you will feel better.GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-07 02:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by Sandora 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to say it's right or wrong but look at it this way. When you don't have an outside job you're still working. Do you take care of the home, child, errands and such? If so then you are working and earning that money just as much as your husband is.
2007-02-07 01:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by Coop's Wife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should accept money from your husband. He will give it to you because he can afford it, and he wants you to have it, for whatever you need. Otherwise he wouldn't offer it. Don't forget all that you do for him too. A husband it to nurture and care for his wife, which is why he will offer the money to you. Talk to him. Communication is key. My husband makes more money than me and he pays our rent and utilities, and still gives me money for gas or whatever, even if I want to go see a movie with a friend. It is all about love and understanding each other. It is okay to feel the way you do, since you used to contribute, but don't continue to feel this way, talk to your husband and pray about it, God can heal all things.
2007-02-07 01:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well get a job and you wont have a problem spending money. Plus it will get you from paycheck to paycheck.
2007-02-07 02:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET A J-O-B
2007-02-07 02:04:02 · answer #5 · answered by ~*I lov3 cody*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no , it's not wrong , and good luck
2007-02-07 01:55:37 · answer #6 · answered by Luv Rulz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋