For the last 5 years I have put up with my ex's verbal abuse. He tells me I am a terrible mother. That I sit around on my fat a.. all day and do nothing. He has use foul words towards me in front of our child. It goes on and on. I have tried everthing. Last Nov 06 we went back to court, he wanted more visition with our child. I told my lawyer all about the things that he has said to me and put me through and I got no help there. Not sure she was the right lawyer for the job. It is as if my ex knows he can get away with it. I have been told about restranging orders, but than if something happened to our child when in his care my ex would not be able to contact me. Also, when our child is with his father I like to call and see how my lil one is doing I would no longer be able to do this. My ex and I were not married. He really has not had much to do with our child. This is effecting me terrible. I am not a weak person but how can I stop this abuse.
2007-02-07 03:36:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
limit the time u spend talking with him and let him know if he starts to get nasty you will end the conversation.------no one should have to listen to this kind of garbage--he must be a very miserable man. good luck
2007-02-07 03:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost realize the things people say about you are just words. In this case, your ex is a jerk and his words are aimed at beating you down until he feels he has control.
Start documenting what he says, when, etc. Save e-mails, phone messages, letters, anything that shows his abuse. When he arrives to pick up your son, make sure someone else is present to witness his behavior. All this is needed to prove you have a case for a restraining order. If an order is granted, you may also ask that the order include your child. You must show that the ex is verbally abusive to the child as well. In regards to not being able to call and check on your child, you will need to appoint someone to be the contact between you and your ex.
You could take him back to court and ask for his parental rights to be cut back or taken away altogether. You need to show a pattern and history of abuse to do this and in most cases if he is stripped of his parental rights you will lose any child support you are receiving.
Check with the child support enforcement office in your town (usually the district attorney's office) and see if they have any other recommendations.
2007-02-07 04:06:00 · answer #2 · answered by Raine 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go to the city court and request a restraining order.. if you can get a copy of the dates he called you it may help. You need a new laywer as well, if she isnt concerned then she isnt worth to be paid for services. Good luck..
2007-02-07 03:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by ~~~Buffy~~~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the restraining order. if its really an emergency, he can call you and you wont tell aanyone. good luck.
2007-02-07 04:01:09 · answer #4 · answered by Callie P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As for me I do believe that in anything especially for the most complicated situation in our life it is our faith and the love of GOD that will save us..........
2007-02-07 03:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You really need God. He's the best one to fix this situation.
2007-02-07 03:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell him
2007-02-07 03:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋