After I had an argument with her mom, my (ex) girlfriend took our 11 mo. old son while I was at work. Her and her mom took EVERYTHING of his, including ALL of his clothes. They've admitted to calling legal council! We talked just hours ago and my girlfriend still loves me and wants to work it out. But, her mother is downright evil. I think she's up to something, but what is it?
2007-02-07 01:43:39 · 16 answers · asked by goodfather 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She obviously does not see you fit for her daughter or grandson.
2007-02-07 01:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? How old is your g/f? It sounds like your g/f mom is up to splitting the two of you for good and taking custody of your son. If your g/f is 18 years and older, she has the right to make up her own mind. If she goes with her mom's decision and says she is still in love with you. I'm afraid your g/f is very immature and need so do some growing up. If she is under 18 years of age, then her mom may have some legal rights. Does your son carry your name? Is there any legal document that could stand up in court that shows the baby is legally yours? I suggest you contact a lawyer right away. If you can't possibly afford one at the spur of the moment (they are expensive) then contact your local Legal Aide. These are wonderful Attorneys who has not earned their "Bar" yet, still in school working under the supervision of a well qualified Attorney. They fight and fight hard to win a case because of course it is to their benefit as well as yours. Good luck Dad. I wish you, your g/f and your baby the best.
2007-02-07 09:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little too assertive for mum's taste, perhaps? No need to brownnose, but maybe a little more tact.
You don't have to love a mother-in-law (or outta' law), but finding a way to be civil helps your girlfriend, who's stuck in the middle. Focus on your sweetie, and, just for now, ask her what she thinks would help the situation. This'd be a good time to consider compromise. When you marry her, her loyalty will be toward you and her immediate family (the 3 of you). Good luck (and run, get legal counsel yourself so you're not caught off guard or buffaloed).
2007-02-07 09:50:00 · answer #3 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of argument are you talking about? If it was physical at all, you might kiss the majority of your parental rights away- except the right to pay support for the next 17 years and 1 month.
The courts nearly always side with the mother.
If you did get physical, you need to get some counselling and control this, and the courts will take it into consideration.
Your best leverage to get the baby and the girl back is to plead with the girl....it sounds like she wants to come back. Don't be abusive.
2007-02-07 09:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say she is up to no good. YOU need to seek legal council immediately. Just because you are not married your child's mother cannot just whisk your baby away and her mother has absolutely no right to interfere. Unless, of course, there is a question of abuse. If you are a good dad, run - don't walk - to the nearest family law attorney in your area, preferably one that specializes in the rights of father's. A meddling grandma can be a destructive force. I know from experience. I wish you luck!
2007-02-07 09:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by lsloner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start reading online about "father's rights" in your state. Be aware of your rights as the father and hers as well. You can also get a free consult from any lawyer but do not sign anything unless you want them to represent you in a child custody case. If you two want to be together then great but research everything you need to know to protect you and your child's relationship. You may fuel the fire if you speak openly about your research. keep that in mind. good luck
2007-02-07 09:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by aubrie27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably wants you to have nothing to do with her grandson.... theis is just a way to make you feel bad for having an argument with her whether you were right or she was.... a thing to remember with in laws is that they r always right!!! never argue because that makes them not want you with their daughte... they r protective enough, all an argument does is make them think that you could get violent with their daughter or treat her the same way and believe me you dont want that because they could put a restraining order on you and say that you were violent and you would prolly end up only seeing your son supervised!! good luck on getting your son back!!
2007-02-07 09:56:33 · answer #7 · answered by nickelbacksmyhero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer because obviously mom doesn't think you are good enough for her daughter and grandson and plans on protecting them from you. She is going about it all wrong but I have a feeling she is right in protecting her family. You have rights too so see a lawyer.
2007-02-07 09:52:06 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go to court and file for visitation rights. You have the right to see your son, and even their legal council will tell them the same thing.
2007-02-07 09:47:17 · answer #9 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your girlfriend is afraid to use her own words to tell you that it is over between you. If she is, on the other hand, afraid of her mother, both of you need to seek professional counseling.
2007-02-07 09:51:37 · answer #10 · answered by Ti 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a lawyer if you want legal joint custody of your son. Try family counseling to get back together with her.
2007-02-07 09:46:43 · answer #11 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋