how do I help parents who refuse to go into a care home?

Question

My Dad has Parkinsons and Mom has memory loss

Answer 1

TELL HIM ALL THE GOOD THING ABOUT THERE

Answer 2

One of the hardest things about caring for aging parents is realizing they can no longer care for themselves and you need help doing it. If you try talking to them about your concerns for their safety, ability to do their activities of daily living (showering, preparing meals, medications, etc) and try to get them to realize there is no other option. With you Mom and her memory loss you may have no other option than to have her go live in an assisted living facility. It is not safe to have her be the caregiver for your dad and depending on how far progressed your Dad's Parkinson's is, he may have no other choice either.

Start with your parent's primary care doctor. Express your concerns, ask for recommendations on facilities and take it from there.

Also, check and see if your hospital or medical group has an RN case manager or community liaison with resources that may be of help to you.

Good luck to you and your family.

Answer 3

tough spot to be in--------if they are still somewhat capable of taking care of their needs there really isnt much you can do other than continue doing what u have been. If they are a threat to themselves or others maybe there are other options-----maybe you could call the day facility you have in mind and ask them the same question--I am sure this is a common problem. good luck

Answer 4

If you or your parents have the money for a care-home, then perhaps you can use this money to hire some home-care help and take care of your parents at your home.

Answer 5

All parents balk when its first considered. But if its in their best interest you must continue to talk to them about it. Take them to visit the places you're interested in. Show them the social programs that they can get involved with.

Do you or one of your siblings have a power of attorney in place? You'll need to consider getting this done too.