Family & Relationships - 25 December 2007

2007-12-25 18:10:07 · 11 answers · asked by Denali 4 in Singles & Dating

this is a weird situation. i'm married to a "good" man who i thought loved and cared for us. he turned out to be bipolar, impotent, and a compulsive liar. he hasn't had a drink in the entire time we've been together (5 years) because he "valued" sobriety. because of his unstable personality, i have separated from him. he lives 2,000 miles away, but stays in touch and has been financially supportive. my 13 year old son overheard a conversation in which i told my estranged husband that i was very sad he chose to get drunk last night and i hoped that he would get help. my son asked what was wrong, and i told him that his dad called last night (christmas eve) and left several messages, that he had gotten drunk and that we (my son and i) would continue to move forward with our lives and that we can pray for his dad, but that we can't help him, that we didn't cause it and can't control it. was i wrong to tell him something that further creates disappointment in his dad?

2007-12-25 18:07:49 · 12 answers · asked by diamond heart 4 in Marriage & Divorce

had this guy friend at work. We joke around and fun all the time. We talk
on the phone and even talk on the computer. We were all great till
yesturday at work we got into this wicked fight and he out of the blue
calls me a whore.


Now, he knew that would hurt my feelings and make me cry more than
anything.


He emailed me today and called me a drama queen and a big baby for
crying.


What the hell is wrong with him?


Please don't answer this in a smart @ss way, I'm asking for advice not
sarcasim

2007-12-25 18:06:29 · 9 answers · asked by iluvjohnjan2006 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-25 18:05:40 · 5 answers · asked by ravish s 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

ok so i've been talking to this guy for about a month, met online actually went and met in person, turned out to be a really nice evening with him. only one problem between us is that there is a big age gap between us with him being older. i have no problem with it because i figure i will either gain a friend or something more...anyway now i feel that he has done this complete 180 turn on me saying in his latest email that he is a bit introverted about all this due to our age... You are extremely nice. I have no excuse for being aloof. Just worried that I am too old. I'm wondering if his latest email is just kind of a nice way of saying goodbye and that he wants to move on. I feel like he is giving up before anything has even started. I'm also not one that just lets chances at love and happiness go by so I feel a little anxious and impatience on my part. He also said after our first meeting that he would like to see me again sometime soon and knew that he was older. thanks

2007-12-25 18:05:39 · 10 answers · asked by caliny0025 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-25 17:59:18 · 18 answers · asked by Cassenav 3 in Singles & Dating

i am rephrazing a question that people thought when to ask someone out... I meant what do i say? her best friend makes fun of my friends and iI dont wanna be made a funny of.

2007-12-25 17:58:57 · 2 answers · asked by Joe_V 3 in Singles & Dating

It may be your love, ur sports, ur wedding, u meet a celebrity.............anything. Share it with us.

2007-12-25 17:58:35 · 19 answers · asked by The Best 3 in Singles & Dating

Ive been going with this girl for two months...and teh first time we talked on the phone she was already saying i love you...and she is saying that were going to be together for years and years when im in college and crap...and tha twere gonno get married...yeah and she said she wanted to have sex.....but she wanted to wait...is the relationship going to fast?

2007-12-25 17:57:06 · 12 answers · asked by nightowl3213 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-25 17:56:16 · 5 answers · asked by mecca 1 in Singles & Dating

My guy friend said he got a remote contol car for christmas in a msg and i laughed thinking it was a joke and msged back i "lol bet you will have lots of fun with that"...now im thinking maybe he wasn't jokeing and he really did get a remote control car...i just pictured a toy car with baterys. But are there remote control cars around that guys that age are in to?

2007-12-25 17:54:57 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

on the net. and you feel youve actually fallen in love with them. when you finally get to see their pic and your NOT to happy with their looks...would you be honest, and tell them to end all? or would you keep shtum and carry on loving that person?

2007-12-25 17:53:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my wife and i seperated in may, she says she loves me but is not in love with me...we have a little girl together who we both love very much we dont argue or fight at all and the reason we are seperated is she said she wasnt happy but for no reason?? she also has her own place and is moving soon and asked me to help her move and pay bills but doesnt want to be with me at the moment.... whenever she gets upset she says she wants a divorce but never does anything about it, this has happen 4x already this past weekend she asked me to spend the day with her and our daughter and everything was great but when i came down to me coming to her family house for christmas eve she did not feel comfortable with me coming... her family absolutely adores me and i think that makes her upset...i am getting mixed signals from her it seems like she misses me and wants to work it out then all of the sudden i am just some guy off the street. we have been together for 8 years does she still want me?

2007-12-25 17:51:51 · 12 answers · asked by loverboy21 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my boyfriend keeps bringing up the fact that he wants to do certain things like fingering and touching and stuff like that and im not really sure if i am ready but i really really think i love him. i dont know how i could tell him no or if i should. HELP please!

2007-12-25 17:50:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My girlfriend wanted a promise ring for xmas so i got her one. I gave it to her but I don't want her to think that it automatically means we will be married someday. What should i do?

2007-12-25 17:48:28 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I got drunk last night and I called this guy that I've known for about seven years. I wanted to wish him a merry Christmas, and we talked for a little while, but he seemed a little distant and he told me about 2 or three times that he would call me back because he was busy, but he wouldn't, so I kept calling him....(hey I was drunk I couldn't help it)...but anyway I told him that I missed him and he told me that he missed me too, but after we hung up for the third time, he told me to call him in 20 minutes, and I was like "Just call me back whenever you're finished doing what you're doing, and he was like "Ok" and so we hung up and about a half hour later I called him back, and oh to make a long story short he kept brushing me off and seemed distant. I sent him a naked picture of me (yes we've had sex several times with each other), and I think I left him a message saying something like "you're my man, call me back." It's so embarrassing. Is there something wrong?

2007-12-25 17:48:06 · 3 answers · asked by Infinite 1 in Singles & Dating

I feel like no one likes me (guywise) I use to have self confidece but that is just crumbiling away. There. Are absolutly no guys that like me. I always thought that I was at least desent looking but now I see no point. All my friends have boyfriends except me. That doesn't bother me but it adds up and it doesn't help my situation at all it sucks I seriously think that I'm going to be a 89 year old lady with 9 cats. I like that I'm going to be a loner and that I'll never get married or even have a boyfriend much less. Please I need advice I hate thinking this way about myself

2007-12-25 17:47:18 · 27 answers · asked by Morgan A 3 in Singles & Dating

Called off wedding 2 weeks before the date. Bride's parents had given her a financial gift for the wedding she paid some of the expenses with. Now her parents threaten legal action to recoup the expenses from groom who called off wedding. Do they have any legal basis for their threat?

2007-12-25 17:46:54 · 15 answers · asked by muttchenc 1 in Weddings

Its been 7 months since the last time she cheated and yet we have done a normal conversation about it. She avoids..couse its uncomfortables she says. My passion is finishing. She dosnt want me to leave..but she dosnt help me understand any of it..she confuses me with sex...and she says if i leave her she kill her self. She was never that warm in bed with me...Why now after this?I feel traped!I'm an average , normal person. I dont do things to hurt my family and i cant find something to deserve this.Although she tries to make me feel guilt about stuff like "you were working too much" or "you werent romantic the last 3/4 months" "i thought you didnt love me" but she never said anything about that before..also didnt gave chance to me "if she felt that way".I will post more questions because i live in a country far from mine and i have none to talk to..
Please Help...

2007-12-25 17:42:03 · 17 answers · asked by TOXOTIS 1 in Marriage & Divorce

with today's society and the divorce rate, i don't think people view marriage in the same way as they used to. people don't mean the vows they make and therefore they should be changed (i.e the death to us part bit). Personally i am quite cynical and i think marriage is just a piece of paper that people think signifies commitment but in reality if you're in a serious relationship you should be committed to that one person only, anyway (if thats what's agreed). However many women (and maybe men?) still dream of fairytale marriages and get all hung up on whether they are married by a certain age etc. How do people feel about this? Is marriage just about financial benefits?

2007-12-25 17:38:09 · 16 answers · asked by loueylou 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Can someone PLEASE me some advice on how to tell my boyfriend that I lied about my age.....

He's 24..going on 25 in May...
I'm 18..going on 19 in September.....

I told him that I was 20........

The only reason why I lied was because I didn't think he would talk to an 18 year old..and him being 24...already out of highschool,college...and with a career....
while myself....I just started college for Aeronautical Engineering...I know that's good but I didnt think he'd want someone this much younger than him

I know it was Very dumb...and pointless of me to do....

But now I need advice on HOW TO BRING IT TO HIM..HOW DO I EXPLAIN...I know JUST TELL THE TRUTH..BUT HOW...

He's the PERFECT MAN.....and I really dont want to do and I REALLY dont want to lose him.....I know he's gonna be hurt and very upset when I do tell him...But what do I say afterwards..What if me just wants to leave and go somewhere ...Do I stop him...
Please Help.....

2007-12-25 17:35:01 · 35 answers · asked by :) 4 in Singles & Dating

merry christmas to all. this is my first christmas alone. where i well messed up and i looked at how i did him and really miss him . my .ex husband well i hope everyon has a good christmas.i havent i miss my husband but it was my fault over beliving a man who was only intrested in one thing. sex. merry christmas to all and a happy new year. mine isnt the same with out him my fault not his caled was out at church left a message but where i hurt him he wont even call to say nothing not even have a god new year to me but why would he aftr all i was the one who cheated on him . i really miss him . nite all

2007-12-25 17:29:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am in post-divorce. I was forced to filed bankruptcy and almost lost everything. My ex-wife has violated the court order denying me child visitation. She's falsely accused me of kidnapping.She taunts my son saying lies and other bad things about me in front of him.She's tried to extort money from me aside and is not satisfied with the child support, daycare support , life insurance, health insurance, food, shelter, clothing, etc. that I already provide for my son. She's made attempts to steal (the little time) time I have with my son. He's only 3 years old. Especially holidays that I'm supposed to have with him. This past Christmas, she took both Christmas Eve and Christmas day, my weekend away from me.She has bitter sisters that line up against me, giving her bad advice. I have compiled journals, child visitation violation police reports and have made every attempt to get her to stop, but to no avail, no luck. Her credibility is poor with them. What's your advice? Thank-you

2007-12-25 17:29:28 · 5 answers · asked by RICARDO R 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Scenario:
Your a stay at home Mom, married for 9 yrs with young children. Your husband had control issues and was emotional and mentally abusive to you when others were not around. Attended marriage counseling only to find out he was misleading you and the couselors about his feelings towards the marriage. Couselor tells you to make financial arrangements for your future, to go out and find another man, and that they can't understand how you can put with him being so "critical". You start focusing on only you and your children and he suddenly does a 180 with showing of little anger towards you. Things are better but the spark is gone. What would you do?

2007-12-25 17:26:28 · 5 answers · asked by T 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I go to college 4 hours from home and almost never come home except for holidays is this a big problem or should we be able to work through not seeing each other?

2007-12-25 17:24:18 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-25 17:23:32 · 5 answers · asked by nomorecapri 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-12-25 17:19:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am married man, having a kid, and married for near abt 5 years, my wife keep on complaining, that she is not satisfied with me in sex.I am getting finished too early, and she has no more interest doing sex with me. Further to this , she is very controlling in nature, she want to control me possibly in all direction of life, and even for her bad behaviours , if i say some thing to her, she finally uses all abusive language and realize me that i am not doing good in SEX, and finally diverting the direction for all her bad behaviour. She make sure to realize me as and when , that she deserve a good man, but she has to live with me becasue of the kid. When she is in good mood, then she realize what she is doing, but i need to bear all this so many times, and need to act/react as per her mood.. Suggest..

2007-12-25 17:16:33 · 9 answers · asked by yjph 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Well first off i'll state a few facts about myself.. :)
I'm 15,
I'm 140 pounds (though i am very tall. i have a little bit of fat on my stomach and legs but i've never been told i'm fat or anything)
And i've been told i'm very pretty with an unusual look, but i think nothing of the sort.

I have very low self confidence. I think I am GINORMOUS and ugly and gross. But most of the time i try to look good when I go out and all these older guys look at me and check me out. But i get really self conscious about myself and turn the other way and walk off. Even if i think they're hot too. Sometimes i see people checking me out behind my back in mirrors and I get really uncomfortable but flattered. Please help me deal? I'm usually shopping with my mom ( i know, immature, but hey she loves it)

2007-12-25 17:15:01 · 5 answers · asked by ? 3 in Singles & Dating

Out there running the kids from pillar to post on both sides of the family. Parents divorced, but logically forced to be together during the holidays (among other times). What a sham! I really feel sorry for the kids. They never asked for this.

2007-12-25 17:14:04 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce