Family & Relationships - 25 December 2007

I've known this girl for about 3.5 years, about 6 months ago she accepted to be my g/f finally, though we have been seeing each other for those past years with no title, we've been intimate since the beginning, and we talk every day, there were a few times we didnt talk to each other, cause we got mad at each other, but overall i love her, and will do anything for her and her boys. She was married about 5 years ago, so she tells me she has to be really sure about her next relationship, When i talk about a relationship she always tells she has no time for more than a b/f g/f relationship because of school, kids, work. my frustration is that i want more, i want her to be my wife, but i'm sure she will say no, and i just don't know what to do. it's been a long time and i dont want to waste another 2 or 3 years waiting, but at the same time i love her. i've talked to her and she keeps saying thats all she can give me, but i dont have assurance that it eventually lead to something?

2007-12-25 19:54:33 · 4 answers · asked by jack a 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My wife and I are in the Army, and Im in Iraq right now, my wife is in Korea. We are both 20, and we were high school sweethearts.
We have lived apart now for over a year (due to the Army), and two weeks before I left for Iraq, she said she wanted a divorce (out of nowhere!), and it absolutely destroyed me. She was having hormonal issues due to a shot she was given for endometriosis, but she was so cold. So cold.
Ive given much more to our relationship than she has. She knows I have as well.

Im just so miserable here during all the time I spend not at work, because I cant stop thinking about her.
She said this week that her hormonal issues are gone (no more heat flashes, etc), and she wants me back. I gave her the cold shoulder for a few days to test her out, to see if she really changed. She hasnt sincerely apologized, and now says she doesnt know if she wants to make it work.
Im so lost, Im so confused, and I never knew a woman could make me feel so depressed. What should I do

2007-12-25 19:53:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I know people believe in reincarnation or that a life replaces another life but It's just crazy that in my family, whenever there's a death, there's almost always someone else in the family who's either pregnant or just had a baby. For example, I was born a few months before my great grandma died and I think my cousin was pregnant at 2 different funerals. It happens all the time in my family. I just had a death in the family and I predict that someone is gonna announce their pregnancy soon!

2007-12-25 19:45:53 · 3 answers · asked by Thing 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-12-25 19:43:38 · 15 answers · asked by MALIK 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I just want to know is it wrong to be having sex at this age. And is it wrong to have it with someone 1-3 years younger than you or even the same age as me

2007-12-25 19:43:11 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i'm married 7 year ago .ihave no happiness in my life even thoug after having 2kids.husband have no responsbility.now recently i'm having financial problem because my husband is not working properly.i can't cover everithing with my salary.i,m worried about my future & my 2 beautiful kids

2007-12-25 19:39:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Since i was told girls there do not allowed to meet and even talk to the stranger..So how ppl they meet each other and get married?

2007-12-25 19:39:13 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

in school , during p.e lessons , boys always look at our chest and say: " look , look , their breast are so big and it is jumping !! " do you think we want them big and give you a chance to laugh at us ? is not what we can decided okay , guys ? this is what god do to us , girls !! stop laughing at us !!

2007-12-25 19:32:27 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

of cancer. Doctors lied, said she'll be fine and when she died I freak out because I never in my life would imagine my Mom dead ever. and up to today it feels like yesterday. Im so afraid this pain would never go away. My Bf tells me i should talk about my Mom more to let the pain out. When I do talk about her I always (ALWAYS) end up sobbing and crying. I miss her so much. I get so sad and this pain is something so painful, like a piece of your heart has been ripped out of you. I miss my Mom so much and people say I would move on, but look at me 2 yrs later the pain I feel is about the same.

Whenever I cry to my BF I can see how sorry he is that I lost my Mom. He;s really the only person I talk to about how I feel. When I try to tell my sisters we just all end up crying.. .so I never really want to make anyone else sad by bringing up my Mom. I just miss her so much, at times, I dont really know what to do.. .


Does anyone knows how it feels to lose someone?

2007-12-25 19:30:29 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

it always seems most of the time when a relationship ends, it's the woman ending it, and she usually doesn't return. on those occasions the man leaves, it seems he is more likely to return to that relationshp than the women is to return. that's what i've seen. do you agree with that?

2007-12-25 19:02:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I want to know what people don't consider of when they think of marriage. Is it really different from what people imagine? And also if you can, give your age. Is marriage worth it?

2007-12-25 19:00:20 · 18 answers · asked by sweetdreams 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Specific stats would be great

2007-12-25 18:57:58 · 14 answers · asked by Lotsa Q 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I usually get some eye-to-eye contact when we get close, she's in three of my periods at school. I get some time to study her reactions when she catches me staring at her or me catching her staring at me. I usually have a reputation for being "the karate kid (black belt)* Well, now I'm just hopin' that she likes me back. I mostly like her for her smarts,curves, and mostly her personality. Furthermore.....I just need some tips on how to see whether a girl likes me or not. Need help! Thanks for all!

2007-12-25 18:57:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am still a teen ager, fourth year high school.. I like this guy and he wants me to be his gf too.Should I go for it..or should i practice a hard-to-get doing that a woman does when a man courts her...help me plzz...ill wait...

2007-12-25 18:55:57 · 15 answers · asked by russel john 1 in Singles & Dating

He drinks.
Once or twice a week.
Every time he drinks = shitfaced.
Acts like suchhhhhh a dumbass.. I can't handle him at all, leaning all over me, slurring everything.
And wonders why I get mad.
What the hell.
Yeah, I'm not mad when I'm drunk with him, but fro one, I barely ever am or have the desire to, and 2) I can handle my alcohol and limit myself.
I love him. It's so depressing. I'm always upset. I hate this so much.

2007-12-25 18:54:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ladies what will your reaction be if your husband did not buy you a gift for Christmas but you went out of your way & bought him many gifts.

2007-12-25 18:48:08 · 6 answers · asked by Cute 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I am 22 and he is turning 33 in Jan.
I really have fun talking to him and tomorrow we're actually going out on a date.
Him and I met in English class and we've known each other for 5 months.
I just worry that this is a big age gap between us, but I really like him a lot.
How do older men feel about dating women younger than them?

2007-12-25 18:47:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

dating a girl older than you? Would you lie about your age just toe get with her? Please use your imagination. Or anything. Would you be afraid to tell her the truth?

2007-12-25 18:47:47 · 4 answers · asked by Becca 5 in Singles & Dating

do u think that one night love can give us happiness

2007-12-25 18:47:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My friend her name is emily and he eats ALOT and shes really skinny. I'm wondering if thats normal. She ate like 8 pieces of pizza and losted a pound. Then my other friend cori shes really skinny and she doesn't at heathly AT ALL. She always brings to lunch cereal, candy, chocolate [everyday], she also brings fast food and she eat very little and I'm worried about her because she doesn't eat healthy and shes very kind and loyal and I don't want anything to happen to her. I'm just wondering if this is normal and what will happen or happening to my friends.

2007-12-25 18:47:29 · 11 answers · asked by ¿Asian?™ 2 in Friends

2007-12-25 18:46:25 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok so im a fifeteen year old spohmore and ive had one girlfriend in nineth grade but she was a slut.Im reasonably attractive, but im not good around girls and they usually see me as the immature guy...im good friends with most of them though....so iv been itching for some action cause ive never gotten any.......theres a girl i know in my chem class who is a junior...shes hella hot and i wanna hook up with her my frined did it about a month ago...she likes this german foregign exchange kid...what do i do? also one of my best girl friends is hella hot and has a real nice pair along with a fab ghetto booty...vut i dont think shes interested in me...what can i do to get them to want to hook up with me? Thanks

2007-12-25 18:46:06 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If you could choose between spending Christmas Day with your family (wife and four young, gorgeous, extremely well-behaved children!) or going to work with the lure of triple-time pay, which would you choose?
Financial situation: not rich, not desperately poor either. Own home, no mortgage (paid off), a little credit card debt (not excessive), no other loans or large bills, only a modest income on a week to week basis now though.
Would you stay with your family?
Or is the lure of triple-time pay really that strong for you?
Please tell me what you think you would honestly choose in that situation. Work hours mean not home till 9pm (kids in bed normally at 8.00 - 8.30)
What would you do?
All answers very greatly appreciated. Honesty please! Thank you!

2007-12-25 18:43:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

WHAT can be done to help women who are victims of violence? First, one has to understand what they are going through. Often the harm inflicted by batterers is more than physical. Verbal threats and intimidation are usually involved, so that the victim is made to feel worthless and helpless.

spouse abuse is a complex subject. To be of support, listen with compassion. Remember, it is usually quite difficult for a victim to talk about what has been happening to her. Your goal should be to strengthen the victim as she deals with the situation at her own pace.Some battered women may need to seek assistance from the authorities. At times, a point of crisis—such as the intervention of the police—can cause an abusive man to see the seriousness of his actions. Admittedly, however, any motivation to change often vanishes once the crisis has passed.
Should the battered wife leave her husband? The Bible does not treat marital separation lightly. At the same time, it does not oblige a battered wife to stay with a man who jeopardizes her health and perhaps her very life. The Christian apostle Paul wrote: "If she should actually depart, let her remain unmarried or else make up again with her husband." (1 Corinthians 7:10-16) Since the Bible does not forbid separation in extreme circumstances, what a woman does in this matter is a personal decision. (Galatians 6:5) No one should coax a wife to leave her husband, but neither should anyone pressure a battered woman to stay with an abusive man when her health, life, and spirituality are threatened.

Is There Hope for Batterers?

Spouse abuse is a brazen violation of Bible principles. At Ephesians 4:29, 31, we read: "Let a rotten saying not proceed out of your mouth . . . Let all malicious bitterness and anger and wrath and screaming and abusive speech be taken away from you along with all badness."No husband who claims to be a follower of Christ can really say that he loves his wife if he abuses her. If he were to mistreat his wife, of what value would all his other good works be? A "smiter" does not qualify for special privileges in the Christian congregation. (1 Timothy 3:3; 1 Corinthians 13:1-3) Galatians 5:19-21; 2 John 9, 10.

Can violent men change their behavior? Some have. Usually, however, a batterer will not change unless he (1) admits that his conduct is improper, (2) wants to change his course, and (3) seeks help. Jehovah's Witnesses have found that the Bible can be a powerful influence for change. Many interested ones who study the Bible with them have developed a strong desire to please God. Concerning Jehovah God, these new Bible students learn that "anyone loving violence His soul certainly hates." (Psalm 11:5) Of course, for a batterer to change his behavior involves more than not hitting. It also entails learning a whole new attitude toward his wife. When a man gains knowledge of God, he learns to view his wife not as a servant but as a "helper" and not as inferior but as one to be 'honored.' (Genesis 2:18; 1 Peter 3:7) He also learns compassion and the need to listen to his wife's viewpoint. (Genesis 21:12; Ecclesiastes 4:1) The program of Bible study that Jehovah's Witnesses offer has helped many couples. There is no room for a despot, tyrant, or bully in the Christian family.—Ephesians 5:25, 28, 29.

"The word of God is alive and exerts power." (Hebrews 4:12) Thus, the wisdom contained in the Bible can help couples to analyze the problems they face and give them the courage to deal with them. More than that, the Bible contains the sure and comforting hope of seeing a world without violence when Jehovah's heavenly King rules over all obedient mankind. The Bible says: "He will deliver the poor one crying for help, also the afflicted one and whoever has no helper. From oppression and from violence he will redeem their soul."—Psalm 72:12, 14.

2007-12-25 18:43:03 · 3 answers · asked by Messager 1 in Marriage & Divorce

it seems like every guy that i am friends with ends up likeing me
or i end up liking them...or both
is it possible to be JUST friends with the opposite sex?

2007-12-25 18:41:24 · 59 answers · asked by DinoxxLove 2 in Singles & Dating

Ok, so he was my first kiss and then we started dating. He was acting like the perfect boyfriend, teasing me, asking me about my self, ect. ect. and recently he is pretty much ignoring me. I've seen him once in the last month. He doesn't talk to me or anything. Should i break up with him? Anyone else had this problem before? What did (or would) you do?

2007-12-25 18:41:21 · 19 answers · asked by mskaityw 3 in Singles & Dating

Do any other people post fake questions on this category just to get answers?

2007-12-25 18:40:16 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I had my husband arrested tonight for hitting our 4 year old in the face really hard and leaving welts where his fingers were.

This is the first time he ever did it, but I panicked and I didn't want a second time, so I called the cops on him right away and he has been arrested.

My family, his family, everyone seems to think I should have just talked to him about it. We've been married for years now and I've never seen him act this way before, but it scared me enough to want to make sure it doesn't happen again.

Was I wrong for calling him him? I feel like I've ruined his life now and that I should feel guilty about it- but I feel like if I hadn't done it, then I would have been being a bad mom and not protecting my child.

2007-12-25 18:38:40 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i know love unexplainable well it can be sometimes and have alot of defintiions but what i think well the definition for love is [giving someone the power to break your heart but trusting them not to] well do you have any other good defin. for love?

2007-12-25 18:38:22 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Been with a Jedi Knight before? Or maybe a Sith Lord?

This also brings me to another question, would most women find it strange that I consider myself a Sith Lord?

2007-12-25 18:38:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating