it seems like every guy that i am friends with ends up likeing me
or i end up liking them...or both
is it possible to be JUST friends with the opposite sex?
2007-12-25 18:41:24 · 59 answers · asked by DinoxxLove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know, I've really been struggling with the same question lately myself. I just finished my first semester of college, and found out that ALL of my really close guy friends had pretty intense feelings for me right after I left high school. Before that, I would have said, "OF COURSE! I have some fantastic really close guy friends who are totally platonic." But, now I'm not so sure.
Ultimately, of course, you can be just friends. But here's my thought process:
Typically, when you really get to know someone, "deep" talks as someone above mentioned, you're going to develop feelings for them, be it romantic or just a closer friendship. If you're too afraid of something developing, it is a good idea to keep things simpler, and avoid "deep" stuff.
As far as having the best friend sort of thing, there either has to be a complete lack of attraction between the two, a strong brother/sister type connection (where even if they do find you attractive, they'd never look at you that way-- yuk!), or, there have to be circumstances where it just isn't going to happen. Like, one of you are in love with someone else already, or while he was falling for you, you weren't into him, so things just never worked out and he got over you eventually... that sort of thing. Anyways, I'm rambling.
So yup, totally possible. If you have a specific situation you want to talk about, feel free to email me. :)
P.S. Oh, and of course, I'm talking about guys your age or close. It's more than easy to have friendships with little kids or way older guys. :)
2007-12-25 19:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by Karen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think so. Often, it may start with a crush or a little attraction, but over time, the right sort of male/female relationship can turn into a very good, platonic friendship. I have had 2 guy friends like this, and while there may have been some attraction at some point, we didn't indulge it and now the thought is gross after so many years.
2007-12-25 18:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by MissM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three months ago I would have said yes, without hesitation. Now that I have just managed to politely extricate myself from the situation of having at least two male friends turned potential suitors, I'm not so sure! Come to think of it, many of my friendships with my other guy friends are based on flirting & sexual play on words anyway. Ah, I don't know. Unless you are in a relationship, be very careful of having male friends who want to meet up with you continuously for 'coffee'. As I've found out, coffee no longer means coffee in this topsy-turvey world! Good luck.
2007-12-25 18:51:02 · answer #3 · answered by Richos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitly, I'm friends with a couple of guys. Many guys, except yeah, it ends up in that kind of situation. its really annoying. But i do have some guy friends. One i dated, but now we are just good friends. Like really good friends, we know a lot about each other, but we would not date again most likely. Besides we both have got new partners :D anyways, no worries, there are guys out there you can be friends with, it just always seems to end up weird and you cant help that. Its hard to control isnt it...*tehe*
2007-12-25 18:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by FallenFootsteps22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 04:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Indeed it is. Three of my best friends in the world are all males ranging from 25-52 (I'm 27 by the way). It's possible more when you're an adult and you've moved on from horny hook-ups and experiencing dating for the first time. I had several male friends in high school but several of them did want to go out with me.
2007-12-25 18:44:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. Me and Laura have been best friends since sophomore year in hs and we openly agree that it would never work between us. We love each other like family, but I think she is a total ***** and she thinks I'm a jackass. We don't touch each other at all, ever, and we're both completely comfortable with that.
Yes, of course girls and guys can be just friends.
2007-12-25 18:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by Patriot011 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well of course it's possible, otherwise life would be pretty damn difficult...
Perhaps you're spending too much time with the other person. A little space can definitively put a buffer on your tendency to fall for them.
2007-12-25 18:45:56 · answer #8 · answered by Dave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. My friend and I were just friends, but the closer we got as friends, he started to like me more and more until he wanted it to be more than that. Of course I liked him also because if I didn't like him I wouldn't be his friend!
I suppose it is possible but only if each side is respectful of the other boundaries as far as the relationship goes.
2007-12-25 18:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by Wanna succeed? Don't BYB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pssssh yeah!! I have so many guy friends that are strictly just guy friends. But if you're worried about the attraction that might occur, find a gay guy to be friends with. lol
You may crush on your guy friends, or vice versa, but that's natural. it'll go away eventually and your friendship will be stronger and more honest.
2007-12-26 08:53:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋