have u ever felt ugly and unloved???

Question

I feel like no one likes me (guywise) I use to have self confidece but that is just crumbiling away. There. Are absolutly no guys that like me. I always thought that I was at least desent looking but now I see no point. All my friends have boyfriends except me. That doesn't bother me but it adds up and it doesn't help my situation at all it sucks I seriously think that I'm going to be a 89 year old lady with 9 cats. I like that I'm going to be a loner and that I'll never get married or even have a boyfriend much less. Please I need advice I hate thinking this way about myself

Answer 1

we all feel that way from time to time. i know i went through that when all my friends around me had boyfriends even some getting married and having kids. just don't give up because it took me forever but when i least expected it i found the love of my life right under nose! now he is my husband. just don't let yourself feel that way. guys love girls who have confidence i bet your beautiful and have a lot to offer guys. but you know what? don't think nobody likes you because you may have a guy there who does but is afraid to say. look at yourself in the mirror and say " I'm beautiful and I have a kind heart, not to mention I'm hot!" lol sounds funny but there is nothing wrong with looking at yourself and giving yourself a pep talk. good luck to ya! hang in there you will have your man one of these days and your friends are going to be SO jealous because he will be everything you ever wanted and make you happy and your friends are going to envy that!

Answer 2

Aww, how old are you now?

I feel the same way. I haven't been in many relationships, I maybe find 1 person a year if I'm lucky, but things never last. I'm 18 too.

I never thought TOO much about it though I mean I've always thought I was at least decent looking. Now I don't know. I was just in a relationship, and it only lasted two months, wich actually is my longest. She broke up with me, and I felt like getting with her was pure luck. I put to much effort into it, so I lost to much.

whatever, point is. I am alone now, I usually am alone, and I fear always being alone. I know I have time, but I don't know what I can make of it. I am depressed, I lost self confidence. I just hate this, and I hate being attached to the past, and afraid of the future.

I'm sorry for you. All I can say is. Try to work towards a better future. There is always time. And though for us it may not feel like it. I know the future MUST have something more, at least we can make it.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Truthfully everyone feels this way at one point or another. You probably have to take more time caring for yourself. Do something out of the ordinary that will help you fell better about you. there is nothing anyone is going to say to make you feel better about you. you are going to have to the the initiative to make yourself fell better in your skin because truthfully no one will love you better than you. As far as the guys try going out of your way to meet new guys or try putting yourself more out there around guys you know and like. well hope that was helpful

Answer 4

Me ugly??? Absofrigginlutely!!!! I'll be the first to tell ya that!!!! Unloved??? NEVER. I have many family and friends that care very deeply for and about me, and I return the feelings. I also have 6 cats that couldn't care less whether I am alive or not as long as someone feeds them!!!! But I love them anyway!!

Answer 5

Attitude is everything, what you believe you are you will become. If you see yourself as a loner and undesirable, then you will act that way and it will become your future. If you change your attitude and behavior you can attract the kind of relationship you want. If you are insecure, needy and lack confidence people will be able to tell and no one is going to find that attractive.

Answer 6

yes, but don't let it get to you; i let it get to me and i had eventually turned my back on the world, i hated everyone i met and went home every night alone and sour about my life, and i almost ended it. But i picked myself up, started being more social again and realized how much worse of a situation i could be in and just try to pick myself up from where i am, and it goes on and on throughout what we all know as life.

Answer 7

trust me girl if you think no guys like now they are never gonna like you, ever, guys like girls for many different reasons, and some are very unpleasant. you got to start liking yourself first, and don't even try to make guys like you for the wrong reason.men take advantage of vulnerable girls like you, and you sounds real vulnerable at this moment. find something that interests you, that is fun and relaxing and you wont feel so bad.for the few guys that dont like you theres alot more where those came from. CHEER UP GIRL.

Answer 8

Are you sure it is your looks. I had a friend in High school that had a younger sister that was drop dead gorgeous, she always had a problem getting dates. For one thing she was so good looking that most guys were afraid to ask her out. But the big problem was, she was in love with herself. If you took her out, all she talked about was herself. It got on your nerves after awhile.

Answer 9

I've been there. just realize u are unique in ur own way. every girl has a certain beauty in them. Just be happy, enjoy life, and know boys aren't everything. and to help ur confidence, make a list of things u like about urself, and add something to it everyday. :)

Answer 10

Just get more involved in stuff. Go out with friends more and hang round places were guys might be. Forget about what you people think of you, dont try and be slutty becuase guys like girls who are fun and confident and stupid. Guys will like you if you dont try to hard to get them to.