Abusing/Controlling..etc etc..?

Question

I am married man, having a kid, and married for near abt 5 years, my wife keep on complaining, that she is not satisfied with me in sex.I am getting finished too early, and she has no more interest doing sex with me. Further to this , she is very controlling in nature, she want to control me possibly in all direction of life, and even for her bad behaviours , if i say some thing to her, she finally uses all abusive language and realize me that i am not doing good in SEX, and finally diverting the direction for all her bad behaviour. She make sure to realize me as and when , that she deserve a good man, but she has to live with me becasue of the kid. When she is in good mood, then she realize what she is doing, but i need to bear all this so many times, and need to act/react as per her mood.. Suggest..

Answer 1

i can understand your situation as i have recently been in similar a situation. believe me it will move from bad to worse and to worst ****. The first thing to do is to handle things one by one. tis will require patience.

* get her (or buy her a vacation say alone), let her relax. you need not spend money. just get her to go shopping (or a walk in the park) while you handle the home stuff.

* get some flowers etc ....

* while you are at this (and she does'nt understand ur behavior) get some professional help with the sex problem.
( --- this must be done -----).

* i have been under a controlled enviornment for 8 yrs. and just recently gave up so relax and make her relax.

* this problem will take time to go....

* meanwhile collect evidence of this harrsment.

* i can understand ur pain.

* **spend a lot of time on stimulation and getting stimulated..

*play games together. (and then talk about them)

* I AM REPEATING AGAIN AND AGAIN. LOOSING ANGER AND REACTING WILL BE CONSIDERED YOUR FAULT. (because she believs it is your fault anyway, even if she did it...)

you know what has to be done. consider the future of the child.

if your are finishing too early indulge in tons & tons of foreplay. have dinner early, have a bath & relax first...

**** beware this is holyday season ***** ( the time when most fights happen & divorces too). so do'nt let these few next weeks go bad.

you also need evidence for sec. 498A & DV act which might come up in case of divorce. so as you progress toward the path of happiness keep your legal side strong

Answer 2

She has some mental problem (eg. OCD whcih can also related to depression, anxiety of sth), see the doc for a specialist) if she notice it or not. She should not say things to you like that. if she deserve a good man & stay becasue of kids. Actually, it is bad. Conflicting marriage is worse than a divorce.

You 2 should see counselling. better than doing nothing to the relationship.

Answer 3

It seems that she's upset about something more than sex. It sounds like she is using sex against you because she knows that it is something that can get under your skin to hurt your feelings. Try to make her feel comfortable to open up to get to the real problems and concerns that she may have.

Sex is not the only problem that she is having right now. It's the one thing that she can use right now to take her frustrations out on you. After all, you've been married now for five years now. It had to have been something else that brought you two together.

Finally, foreplay. Learn it, use it, rock her world with it. Make sure she gets hers before you get yours.

Answer 4

Well, I think that being sexually unsatisfied isn't enough of a reason to disrespect you and blame you for everything that is going wrong on the relationship. She treats you like a doormat because you allow her to. I suggest counseling (to see what the REAL issue is, because your sexual "disfunction" might only be an excuse or the last thing on a LONG list of issues your wife might have against you) or DIVORCE...... this is no way to live and nobody deserves to be unhappy, unless they WANT to be.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

She could be depressed, bored, bipolar, maybe you have somehow disappointed her in the day to day and it's carrying over to your sex life.
Most women want a strong man when it comes to sex so don't be weak,whiny,achy,or follow orders in the bedroom. Try a little more domination and give her some foreplay before you start.

Also remember ; men need sex to feel loved but women need to feel loved before sex. so if she feels mistreated, ignored, unimportant, etc, then this will definitely affect your sex life.

Answer 7

other than the sex issue....is it her personality or is she taking pills...cuz that might cuz mood swings...anyways she needs to have more respect for u and more self control...tell her that u dun like what shes doing

Answer 8

do one thing if she is not satisfied with u in bed i think u sholud go to medical and ask for medicine v.........a i think it can help u and after that also she not satisfied then in my opinion she had an affair and she is ignoring u if not sit with her for a while and talk to her what she want ,want to live with u or not if not giv divorce ...........................................that's my opinion thanx

Answer 9

first take a dictionary and look there for the word "realise". second go to doctor and consult him about your premature ejaculation. if a woman is underfuked she might be very agressive and frustrated.