Family & Relationships - 15 December 2007

hi my name is deen i am 20 this is my situation


Molly an i have been dating for a while we had this instant connection I met her at a bookstore I even remember the dress she was wearing that day we met 4 months ago we talked about from love, to maturity. and to our favorite books, i love the way her eyes dance as she looks at me and the way when you can tell she is happy its all writen on her face , i love maxeing her laugh and watching her sleep as the sunrise goes down and knowing I am her superhero , this all seems quite good execpt we live in a little town in canada where all they see is colour i am black and she is white and in the town blacks make up 1 percent of the population i hear negative comments everywhere when we go out i see weird looks from people , should i start punching people out one by one or walk on by because i am angry its starting to bother me

2007-12-15 13:25:58 · 6 answers · asked by Deen 1 in Singles & Dating

my mother died of cancer when i was 7. my mam & dad separated when i was about 3. when my mam died my dad bought a new house with his new partner so i could live with them but she told me that the house was not mine and i was just living in it! she also told me that my dad had told her that if anything ever happed to her he would kill himself as he would have nothing else to live for as she was the most important thing in his life. To this day i have never confronted her about this but I so want to. i want to tell my dad what a witch he married but i dont want to hurt him as he had a heart attack a short while back. i don't think i can move on though, until i hear from him that she was full of ****! should i tell her how miserable she made me??? I have no "get up and go" now she sucked that out from me. please help.

2007-12-15 13:21:58 · 21 answers · asked by sad 1 in Family

Many ups and downs in this marriage, I've tried to make it work. Days go by and things are fine. Are little annoyances a reason to leave?

2007-12-15 13:20:49 · 20 answers · asked by Ruairi 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, my niece left something at ours so my sis ran out as they left to give it back but missed them, my niece called and said u shoulda rang me? my sis got mad and said something I cant recall exactly but was rude. So my niece and her mum (my half sis) came back to argue wiv my sis just as we were leaving the house.

My sis (first one) was giving me a lift to my office xmas do and I was already running late which is why no one called my niece to tell her. So they are arguing in the street while im already late and everyone at the office is waiting on me, so i got out of the car and walked away, I ended up back in the car with my sis, I have her moaning about the situation and at the same time I have my niece slaging off my sister and saying it was all her fault blah blah, a lot of preschool crap im pissed off cos it wasn't my arguement yet I paid for it cos I was late and upset all night. I told my sis she was in the wrong but still everyone made it MY problem! Am I wrong to be mad?

2007-12-15 13:20:41 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My ex was mentally abusive, having me trapped in a small village, was always leaving me for stupid reasons, despite being married, forced me into sex 8 days after a ceserean, I couldn't even roll over in bed without him questioning me,
He once tried to snatch our baby, and another time abandoned me on a dual carraigeway taking our baby with him
If I had an opinion on something it would be 'bye bi*ch'
I had to ask for permission to check my emails
I left him when he hit my daughters,
Now tonight 2 years on, I discovered he has created another baby after blanking our baby completely
I'm worried about the woman he's with,
Do they ever change, she has 2 other kids,

2007-12-15 13:20:36 · 24 answers · asked by Elle J Morgan 6 in Marriage & Divorce

I have repeatedly found myself attracted to abusive men. For some reason, this is the kind of relationship I find myself wanting. I hate it and it has ruined my self-esteem. What on earth is wrong with me and how can I fix it before it's too late?

2007-12-15 13:18:47 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Seems to me that they're regularly spouting off numbers that could only come from breaking out the ruler on their guys or repeating what the dude told them (and I don't think most of them broke out the ruler.)

2007-12-15 13:14:47 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been with my girlfriend for about six months and I love the girl but she's been cheating on me with a seventh grader and she has lied about it and makeing me sufer because i've been wanting to hold hand's and i wanted to start kissing but she say's that she doesn't want to because she doesn't feel good and i found out that she's cheating on me yesterday and i was told that she's been cheating on me for just about how long we've been going out. I need some help because i have never been through this before. This has been the longest i have been going out with someone and this is my second girl friend in the last year. i have been single for most of my teen-age years.

2007-12-15 13:14:27 · 5 answers · asked by Alex M 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-15 13:14:10 · 1 answers · asked by pascua 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-15 13:13:04 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I don't like shopping with him. I can stay in a store for hours, and look all day. He wonts to rush me. I feel like i can't get anything done with him there couse i can't take my time and look, and just enjoy myself.

2007-12-15 13:12:56 · 9 answers · asked by ladonna 1 in Family

I was happy when we became engaged a few months ago, though we have been through many ups and downs in our relationship. I have experimented with women before and during our relationship a few times but nothing serious. He approved of me experiementing at the time because we are young. Now that we are going to be married, he wants us to be monogamous, and so do I.
The problem is that I met this woman (a lesbian) at work about a month ago, and I am very infactuated with her. We have become fast friends and have admitted that we are both attracted to eachother, but we are both taken so we are not going to act on it.
I realize that I don't really know her well, and it's probably just a "crush" but it's really bothering me that I have feelings for someone besides my fiance. Is this normal? Am I just afraid of committing? Should I just back off from our friendship? Help! I am too scared to admit this to any other friends or my family.

2007-12-15 13:12:22 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

well today me and my bf went out to lunch and we had to sit outside because it was crowded on the inside. and felt like it was like 1000 degrees outside. i kept telling him how hot i was. And he got mad at me for complaining so much, he told me that maybe I should think about some place cold, to take mind off the heat. And just shut up about it because I was making him hotter. I was to hot to argue with him. so tried his advice and I started thinking about a long cold shower when I got home. And then the waiter brought us some ice. I took a ice and started rubbing it along my neck. And started getting really turned on caressing my neck and thinking about myself being naked and in a nice cold shower. I must have gotten a little carried away, because he goes what the hell are you doing, people are staring at us. And I told him sorry, but I am so horny right now. And he says what? And I said and a kind of low tone, I feel so f***ing sticky and dirty and hot and sweaty and now horny, I cold really use a cold shower, a good f***., and he got all red in the face and mad, saying that other people around us could hear me, and that I was being really immature. and I got mad because he was ignore my request, and being so uptight, so told him stop acting like an uptight a***ole . and he told me to stop acting like a horny b****. And I told him, f*** you, I can take care of myself, and I got up and left and I yelled at him so the whole outside restaurant could hear me, that I hope he doesn’t run out of lotion.

Was I wrong, should I call him?

2007-12-15 13:11:03 · 11 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

to decide/know that they are really your friends? True friends?

Thank you for your answers! :)

Enjoy your weekend! :)

2007-12-15 13:10:32 · 21 answers · asked by Moon :) 7 in Friends

for years when there was previously no chemistry or do think it would have been there all along???

2007-12-15 13:07:43 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

For over 30 years now my mother has been a really difficult person to deal with. Our communication is awful. All she ever do is display and say negative statements. She gets upsets when I gave a photo to my aunt. She gets upset when I visit my mother in law. To sum it up she gets upset at alot of little things. I don't know how to please her and truefully I am tired of trying to live up to her expectations. I think she has either bipolar or some sort of depression disorder where she takes out her moodiness on her kids. Its been so long now I am wondering if she will ever be a loving, kind mother thats consistant. I avoid talking or visiting her months at a time. I live about 20 minutes away and have only seen her about a handful of times a year. This cant be healthy for either one of us but I dont want to see her only to hear negative comments.
Is she going to change or is it terrible I dont care anymore?

2007-12-15 13:05:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-12-15 13:03:27 · 9 answers · asked by Wise Owl 2 in Marriage & Divorce

In '03 her husband divorced her in the midst of being diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, although it was because he was an alcoholic and didn't want to face her and his kids. Since then he has lost 150 pounds due to surgery and still drinks, but for the past year he has been taking my aunt on vacations and she's basically living w/him.

He has told her repeatedly that he does not want to get married again, she does. She thinks he will change since he left his other girlfriend.

How can I prove to her that she's an idiot for doing this stuff?

2007-12-15 12:57:24 · 8 answers · asked by PlasticTrees 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I know that she lives in new jersey and that she has been brought to a shelter. She's about 15 or 16. Can somebody tell me some shelters she may be at?

2007-12-15 12:56:04 · 2 answers · asked by Who Knew? 4 in Friends

My cousin and me where always number 1 on top friends on myspace. But not anymore. Now I'm not even on her first page of myspace. I searched but couldn't find me on my friends list. Even a bunch of celebrities are in front of me. So as revenge I put her on the very bottom of my top friends. What do you think? Do you agree that I'm justified in this?

2007-12-15 12:55:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-12-15 12:54:15 · 8 answers · asked by ASTODAK 2 in Family

My fiance' and I have decided to get married where we now live and work. We are happy here and have a wonderful new church and a new life here. I moved out here 6 months ago and I am now engaged and we have mutually decided to get married here. We love it here! My Mother is very angry with me and says that people from my hometown will not show up. What should I do?

2007-12-15 12:52:49 · 54 answers · asked by pghdelta04 1 in Weddings

I want to hear from people that have been married a long time 20 plus years. Are the feelings still there? Or have you settled into a routine, comfortable with each other? Does your heart still pound and you get excited when you see the other person or they touch you?

2007-12-15 12:47:28 · 17 answers · asked by okie 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Im not good at telling if a guy is flirting or not. What are some things that guys do when flirting with a girl?!

2007-12-15 12:47:16 · 11 answers · asked by AMAN DUHH 3 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I have been together for over 2 years. We just got married this past July. He's in the process of adopting my youngest daughter, who's 3, and I'm 4 months along with another addition. Back in September, I found out that he was masturbating to pornography behind my back and then lying about it to me. I am home all the time, so there should be no reason for it. I consider it cheating because he was doing it to the thought of another woman. We almost broke up then because he knew how I felt about it before he did it and he still did it and I don't have any tolerance for lying or cheating. I gave him a second chance. Now, I found out that he signed up for an online dating service and has been sending and receiving messages from other women, plus looking at their pictures. I said that I've had it and that it was the end of the relationship. Am I wrong for doing so? I love him so much and we have a lot together. What do you think I should do?

2007-12-15 12:43:44 · 20 answers · asked by gothmomma_2 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok quick questions, who initiates sex in ur relationship? Do u find it to where one is initiating more then the other? How does that make u feel?
Who do u think should do the initiating most of the time?

I personally think it should be pretty much equal BUT the man is the one that has to have his friend at full attention. I like to do it a couple times in a row and how would I know if he could. Yes, I can get it there but how do I know how many times in a row IT can rise up for him, ya know. Some men can only "spit" once then it falls asleep, u know what I mean. Which then I think it's over. Shouldn't he initiate it if he's still able to perform?

Hmmmmm what do u think?

2007-12-15 12:43:13 · 9 answers · asked by ♥Pure Evil♥ 6 in Marriage & Divorce

I saw my cousin pull up in a car at a store, i was pulling down my window to say hi but i saw she was holding a lit cigarette. I pulled my window back up. My sister came and noticed she was smoking too, she told me not to tell because it's none of my business but i care about my cousin. she's already been caught once in the past and obviously been smoking since. should i keep it to myself or tell?

2007-12-15 12:41:51 · 9 answers · asked by beholder of answers 2 in Family

together for almost 10 months and I don't want the relationship to end just because of stupid stuff like that! What should I do, should I break up with him or what could we do to fix it?

2007-12-15 12:41:29 · 8 answers · asked by total_package950 1 in Singles & Dating

There is not a day that goes by that my phone isn't ringing off the hook. She is always asking me to look things up on the internet and she is always gripping about something. Everything has to be drama. She loves to boss me around. I am 30 years old. I don't want to be rude to her. How can I nicely tell her to back off?

2007-12-15 12:41:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

my dad cought me and talkto me abought porn and said he did the same thing and said i was cureous... but my mom said i cant go on my labtop no more what should i tell her?

2007-12-15 12:40:05 · 3 answers · asked by joe 1 in Family