How can I break this cycle?

Question

I have repeatedly found myself attracted to abusive men. For some reason, this is the kind of relationship I find myself wanting. I hate it and it has ruined my self-esteem. What on earth is wrong with me and how can I fix it before it's too late?

Answer 1

Well, what is it?

The passion?
The fact that they tell you what to do?
The general "bad boy" vibe?

Look someplace like the forums at bondage.com and see if anything there speaks to you. That might help you sort out the answers to my questions above.

Understanding what you like about them can help a lot with repeating the same mistakes as before -- whether or not you ever try some alternate way of finding it.