Many ups and downs in this marriage, I've tried to make it work. Days go by and things are fine. Are little annoyances a reason to leave?
2007-12-15 13:20:49 · 20 answers · asked by Ruairi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when you start daydreaming about how to kill him, its time to get out!
2007-12-15 13:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Hello sweetie no it is not and some of those annoyances are probably in every ones marriage.You don't speak of being in love with your husband.All marriages have those moments where you feel wow its all gone but make sure you have given it all you have and sometimes our husbands don't know unless we make them listen to what we need.Write down 5 things you want and need your husband to do ask him to do the same only work on those 5, and once they are accomplished you do 5 more. But you must have the foundation to build on and that is love for each other. Happy Holidays.
2007-12-15 14:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by Back Field In Motion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't give up on marriage. marriage is HARD WORK. almost as hard as raising a child.
"little annoyances" is just an excuse. try couples / marriage counseling. try anything and everything that will get you both communicating, and working on these little annoyances.
every married person has this issue. it is a matter of whether or not we're going to be the bigger, better person and work on the issue(s) at hand.
2007-12-15 16:16:40 · answer #3 · answered by equimatch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriages are Respect, Admiration, Passion and Trust. How many of those remain? Life isn't always joy, wonderfulness, and warm fuzzies. sometimes it is just hoping tomorrow will be a bit nicer. But if your relationship has betrayal in it, time to leave. Otherwise, seek some counseling... all marriages hit the doldrums.
2007-12-15 13:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know. There are no rules but if you keep having the same fight over and over again and you know nothing is going to change ... Sometimes you feel abused in one way or another or under appreciated. I have never been married, but I broke up with my boyfriend about two weeks ago and it was like that for me.
All of a sudden, all the "little annoyances" formed a pattern: I was being treated badly and I deserve better. Then we had the same fight again and the only way for things to be fixed was for me to lie to myself and agree with my boyfriend's paranoid delusions. I had to choose between being true to myself or loyal to him. My choice is not one that I will ever regret.
Good luck with your decision.
2007-12-15 13:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by LGuerrrr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little annoyances are not are reason to leave, being unhappy is.
Are you happy or unhappy with this person? Do you see yourself together in ten years? in 20?
Have you given up? Are you still in love with him? Not, I love him because... he is the father of my kids, we've been together for so long or any other "reason" to love him. But do you love HIM as the person he is, not a role he fills?
2007-12-15 13:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by candy'sroom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen....if every time he leaves the seat up ...are you gonna ask for a divorce???? the truth is, is that, thats what a marriage is. Its a compromise, and a part time job. In order for things to work...both parties must put in effort. Things piss me off about my husband all the time. But I ask myself...is he cheating on me? does he abuse me? is he a cold hearted prick? the little annoyances can be worked out...i'm sure you have things that annoy him...heck we all do,,NO one is perfect.
Just sit him down and talk ( i said talk not yell) to him
good luck...cheerio!!!
2007-12-15 13:31:13 · answer #7 · answered by Leannamick 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it depends upon what you consider to be "little annoyances".
if you are unsure about your marriage and life as it is today, perhaps consider talking with a therapist for good direction and some insight about yourself.
take care
2007-12-15 13:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Imagine yourself with him when you are 70. If you're 30, can you live like this for another 40 years? Or if you're 40-for another 30 years, etc. If you find the thought of that time spent together scary or repulsive, it's time to go.
2007-12-15 15:42:39 · answer #9 · answered by miss v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how bad you want it to last. it is really a lot of hard work. and you have to be willing to go the distance. but if the marriage just makes you sick and you are so tired of going through whatever you are going through yes it is time to leave
2007-12-15 13:33:11 · answer #10 · answered by jumiboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, you are going through this.Marriage is something you have to work at.If you guys have gone to counseling and it still can't be fixed, then you know you have tried everything to make it work.I think that if you have told your husband how you feel and he is not respecting your feelings, then it is time to get divorced.Just make sure that this is what you want.Good luck:)
2007-12-15 13:42:58 · answer #11 · answered by superstar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋